• girls in Nigeria and their challenges

Over here in my country,Nigeria,the lives of the female children are at a great risk.These girls are been kept at home instead of taking them to school,the parents are not enlightened on the fact that they need to go to school.Going to school is not just because they have to earn money in the future no it is because it makes you happy,keeps you occupied and gives you broader knowledge of life and how to act right as you meet various persons.these girls are also given into early marriage,this is bad,if you come to Nigeria you would see a girl of 3years already has a husband.What sought of marriage is that,what can that little child give,all that is what i term as "rape" ,"gender discrimination" that is an insolent act and it has to be stopped.I came across a friend in my primary school days,she is a muslim,these child was so nice,so brilliant but she has this idea that as a girl she has no right to exercise meanwhile she does,so loving,when i chat one on one wit her i always see she has visions which she wants to achieve but do you know what she said "i know at a particular stage i would get to,my parents would not let me go further because i am a woman" imagine the ideas that they have put into this kids.The women cannot even handle key positions in this country,they get beaten anyhow they have to take in any ill-treatment that comes in all the time,what is going on,please stop this,these girls have taken so much pain and they are still taking it till now,these women should be given opportunities.We have to reach out to them and their parents,they need to be enlightened,this violence has to end.  

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Thanks Ruth for the good work. It feels good to find people doing the same programs that i do. Yes girls and women need to be given opportunities to stay in school and complete their education. Parents need a lot of sensitisation on the importances of keeping the girl child in school. Its the only way we can address the problem of child marrieges. Lets keep up the good work, many more will follow us in due course. Thank you.

Hello Ruth,

Thank you for responding to the Call for News on Gender-Based Violence. This is the kind of news that helps us know exactly what is going on and where. These are such basic human rights, education, freedom to choose one's life directions, right to life without violence, right to economic independence. I agree , we need to find ways to reach the parents. I hope that together we will be able to create global pressure toward freedom for all girls and women.

Just a note, seeing your note to Hope. If you click on her name, this will take you to her page. And if you click on the word balloons to respond, the member you are responding to will get an email alert.

In sisterhood,

Tam

Dear Ruth, it is indeed a shame that in the 21st century we are still experiencing such backward, barbaric and dispeakable practices in Africa. You know, men always hide behind culture and religion to perpetrate evil.

A real solution to that will be, the education of the parents and communities where these practices prevail.  A video of women who have succeeded academically and in other areas in such  communities/ backgrounds, should be played for them to see.

The government should also play a huge part by putting in place educational policies  in favour of girls such as full scholarships from elementary school to university level and make sure that it is implemented to the letter. 

Is it advisable that we world pulse sisters form committees to meet and address this issue with the relevant government ministries in our various countries where the practice prevails ? 

Cheers,

Avera

 

Avera

Hello all. Dear Ruth it is so nice to see you write so passionately about a problem ravaging our country Nigeria. 

The report in 2014 by the CIA indicated Nigeria has a TFR of 5.7 which ranks among the highest in the world. This however is just a national average. In reality, the distribution is skewed to some parts of the country which is also notorious for cases of GBV, early marriages and other vices against women. The call to end these must include birth control. When people produce children uncontrollably, then they can give them out in early unhealthy marriages with little or no remorse. 

I feel that it is long overdue to call for stringent punishments for parents who give birth to children they have no future plans for or how else can one deprive a child of life just after been delivered? I had a thought recently in which I asked myself how come I never see girl children begging on the street (alamanjiri; as it is called in Nigeria) like their male counterparts? Answer; they are manipulated and given off in marriages they have no privileges in. Bitter, very bitter!

The women affairs ministry, women in judiciary and other notable agencies need to be 'reminded'. Maybe we can work together to come up with action plans.

Dear Ruth, thank you for bring this issue to the public it is a pathetic situation that  if not handled, the girl child will always see herself as being inferior.

Cheers

Jane Kalu