When people talk about trauma, they never talk about the ways in which it affects survivors lives. How it creates chronic poverty and homelessness, destroys potential and steals opportunity from those who have been victimized. Trauma can make you lose hope, kill your faith in institutions and governments and--most painfully--separate you from your family, friends and fellow citizens, none of whom seem to understand your pain or the ways in which it immobilizes you.

There are lots of non-profits that exist who say that their goal is to empower trauma survivors to lead full lives, but they are failing miserably, particularly in the U.S. Employers in my country don't care about how hurt you are, about the flashbacks you're forced to live with or about the panic attacks that creep up on you when you're forced to engage with mean-spirited or cynical people, people who know your history and your pain and whom seek to exploit, market, mock or deny it.

Upon realizing this, I decided that I needed to start my own business. I want to make my own money, and to do so without feeling like I'm less than in somebody else's business because of what has been done to me. I'm studying construction and want to build recovery towns for trauma survivors, so I'm teaching myself to make building columns by making mini-columns then turning them into jewelry. I want to consult with political and NGO/Non-profit leaders around the issues that effect trauma survivor's lives, so I'm reading and studying and working on writing white papers that I can sell to fund my education and my dreams. No one seems to care about my trauma, or about the fact that it affects my quality of life in so many real ways. I live in a country that has little sympathy for its own and little patience for those who can't just pull themselves "up by their bootstraps," but because I #MeanBusiness, I intend to build a successful international business for myself. My goal is to generate enough income so that I can have a great quality of life and then build those recovery towns that will allow others to find a safe space where they can heal, work and play in peace. It may take me a long time, but I will forge my way ahead, one piece of wood, one word, one prayer at a time.

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Hello there,

Thank you for this piece. I think trauma healing has been one of the issues the world never pay much attention to. In my country we are so engrossed with other issues and those who have been victimized are hardly followed up. We normally focus on getting redress, advocating for justice for the victims, most times believing in prayers and charity support.

I just proposed trauma healing for Boko Haram victims in Nigeria which I attached to a pilot project on training on peace building for faith and community leaders in Nigeria. The idea was accepted by our partner and hopefully the project will commence in October 2016. I really feel excited about that as it is another level of discharging selfless services and touching lives. I look forward to meeting traumatized women especially from northern Nigeria.

I wish you luck in your ambition and pray along with you.

Cheers,

Celine

Hello Amikijera,

Thank you for your post. I don't know the traumatic experience(s) you have had but, as I read your post, it resonates my soul.. I couldn't lay everything down on this comment but perhaps, in an article/story about my own journey toward freedom from traumatic experiences to touch/inspire souls. I haven't yet reach the freedom that I desire but I could say that I am on my way there. I have kept old secrets of abuse (for 15 years) but it has taken its toll on my view of myself and my worth, until I couldn't keep it anymore. For me, abuse is a poison that will entirely ruin yourself if kept within. It will deplete your spirit.

You're so right here. There are really mean-spirited people who instead of lifting you up, pulls you even more down than you were. And, if you react, they make you feel like you have an attitude problem.

"Employers in my country don't care about how hurt you are, about the flashbacks you're forced to live with or about the panic attacks that creep up on you when you're forced to engage with mean-spirited or cynical people, people who know your history and your pain and whom seek to exploit, market, mock or deny it."

Working full-time from home; having my own business which I could run, anytime, anywhere; and growing my speaking skills to motivate people to live the lives they are called to be are among my dreams.

Again, thanks for your post. and, hope to read more from you. Hope your visions will come true and may you continue to shine.

Kind Regards,

Jhen

Dear Amikijera - it takes courage to write a post such as yours. You very boldly and bluntly call out a truth that most of us do not want to hear.

..."I live in a country that has little sympathy for its own and little patience for those who can't just pull themselves "up by their bootstraps"...

I sadly agree with you that we are a nation that has little tolerance for people in pain, especially the kind of hidden pain that occurs from a traumatic experience. But I applaud you for your determination to create your own business and I truly hope you succeed in building the "recovery towns" one day.  I encourage you to stay the course.

And please know you have "sisters" here at World Pulse who have heard your voice!

In love and peace,

Terry Mullins