Comme le mot l’indique, la violence c’est faire quelque chose à quelqu’un sans son consentement. Il y a plusieurs sortes de violence entre autre :
- La violence sexuelle ;
-La violence domestique ;
-La violence symbolique ;
-La violence structurelle ; la liste n’est pas exhaustive.
Aujourd’hui en République Démocratique du Congo, il y a une sorte parmi celles précitées qui est devenue une monnaie courante pour certaines autorités pourquoi pas les organisations qui œuvrent dans ce domaine ? Oublient qu’il y a d’autres sortes qui a une grande emplaire et déséquilibre la vie de la population louchée par ce fléau.
Nous allons parlés aujourd’hui de la violence domestique en donnant deux réalités ou cas pour rendre intelligible notre information selon nos recherches sur le terrain.
1er cas : Dans nos familles les garçons sont privilégiés plus que les filles du point de vu éducatif, les parents priorisent les garçons que les filles ; vous aller voir, ces enfants quittent tous à l’école vers 13H00 arriver à la maison la fille commence à faire la vaisselle, la lessive, la préparation de la nourriture, elle doit torchonner et après elle part à la recherche d’eau pendant que le garçon révise ses cours ; vers la fin de l’année le garçon réussi et la fille échoue ; deux ou trois fois, les parents prennent la décision selon laquelle, la fille arrête les études pendant que le garçon continu. Faute de taux élevé des filles illettrées que ceux de garçon ; selon nos recherches sur le terrain.
2ème cas : une femme mariée et mère de quatre enfants a été violée par son mari à Kashasha en territoire de Kabare !!! La victime était partie au petit marché pour acheter la farine de manioc afin de préparer la nourriture pour ses enfants ; Arriver au marché elle a commencée des disputes avec une autre femme qui vendait la farine ; quelque minute après son mari était de passage et lorsqu’il a vu sa femme entrain de se disputer avec une autre femme, il a prit la victime en la frappant très fort jusqu’à son domicile où il y avait une casserole sur le feu qui contienne de l’eau chaud ; le mari a exiger sa femme de s’assoir dans cette casserole qui contenait de l’eau très chaud, la victime a refuser de le faire, son mari l’a fait par force et la femme a eu de brulures sur tout les membres inferieur et les organes génitaux ont été touchées. Selon nos sources deux jours après le mari a épousé la femme qui se disputait avec la victime au marché.
PISTE DE SOLUTIONS
-sensibiliser la population pour qu’il y est la division des travaux domestique entre filles et garçons ;
- créer un centre de réadaptation pour ces filles qui n’ont pas eu la chance de terminer les études faute de cette violence ;
- organiser des formations familiale pour la lutte contre ces violences domestiques ;
- ester en justice tout homme ou mari qui viole peut violer sa femme ;
Nous ouvrons une porte pour d’autres chercheurs qui vont évolués dans ce sens. Vos remarques, commentaires et suggestions nous sont très nécessaire pour enrichir d’avantage nos idées. Merci

English translation by community member amys

Domestic Violence

As the word indicates, violence means doing something to somebody else without their consent. There are several types of violence, including:
– sexual violence,
– domestic violence,
– symbolic violence,
– structural violence. To name but a few.

Today in the Democratic Republic of Congo, one of these types of violence has become common currency for certain authorities; so it’s natural that the organisations who work in this field also focus on it. They forget that there are other types which are very widespread and which destabilise the lives of people affected by this scourge.

We are going to talk today about domestic violence, looking at two cases to illustrate the information we have gathered in our field research.

Case 1: In our families, boys are favoured over girls when it comes to education; parents prioritise the boys over the girls. You see, when school finishes at about 1pm and the children come home, the girl starts washing the dishes, she has to rush around doing the laundry and preparing meals, and after that she goes to fetch water, while the boy goes over his schoolwork. At the end of the year, the boy passes and the girl fails. After this happens two or three times, the parents decide to stop sending the girl to school, while the boy carries on with his studies. According to our researchers on the ground, this is why the illiteracy rate is so much higher among girls than boys.

Case 2: A married woman and mother of four was raped by her husband in Kashasha, in the Kabare territory! The victim had gone to the local market to buy some tapioca flour to make a meal for her children. When she got to the market she began to argue with the woman who was selling the flour. A few minutes later her husband passed by, and when he saw his wife arguing with the other woman, he grabbed the victim and took her home, hitting her very hard. When they got home there was a cooking pot full of hot water on the stove; the husband told his wife to sit in the cooking pot with the scalding water, but the victim refused, so her husband forced her to, and the woman ended up with burns all over her legs and genitals. According to sources, two days later the husband married the woman that his wife had been arguing with at the market.

POSSIBLE SOLUTIONS
- Raise awareness amongst the population so that domestic chores are divided between girls and boys.
- Create a catch-up centre for those girls who have not had the chance to finish their studies because of this violence.
- Organise education for families, to fight against domestic violence.
- Put to justice any man or husband who rapes his wife.

We welcome other researchers who want to investigate this area more. Your remarks, comments and suggestions are essential for us to develop our ideas further. Thank you.

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merci Moza je t'aime parceque tues couragese continuer devotres histoires qui peut change lemonde interessante nousommes ensemble

Muhorakeye Esperance

Nous disons aussi merci pour votre courage de nous lire chaque jour ma soeur continuons la lutte de parler à la place des autres femmes qui n'ont pas cette possibilité. Merci et a bientôt en ligne

arianemoza

Domestic Violence

As the word indicates, violence means doing something to somebody else without their consent. There are several types of violence, including: – sexual violence, – domestic violence, – symbolic violence, – structural violence. To name but a few.

Today in the Democratic Republic of Congo, one of these types of violence has become common currency for certain authorities; so it’s natural that the organisations who work in this field also focus on it. They forget that there are other types which are very widespread and which destabilise the lives of people affected by this scourge.

We are going to talk today about domestic violence, looking at two cases to illustrate the information we have gathered in our field research.

Case 1: In our families, boys are favoured over girls when it comes to education; parents prioritise the boys over the girls. You see, when school finishes at about 1pm and the children come home, the girl starts washing the dishes, she has to rush around doing the laundry and preparing meals, and after that she goes to fetch water, while the boy goes over his schoolwork. At the end of the year, the boy passes and the girl fails. After this happens two or three times, the parents decide to stop sending the girl to school, while the boy carries on with his studies. According to our researchers on the ground, this is why the illiteracy rate is so much higher among girls than boys.

Case 2: A married woman and mother of four was raped by her husband in Kashasha, in the Kabare territory! The victim had gone to the local market to buy some tapioca flour to make a meal for her children. When she got to the market she began to argue with the woman who was selling the flour. A few minutes later her husband passed by, and when he saw his wife arguing with the other woman, he grabbed the victim and took her home, hitting her very hard. When they got home there was a cooking pot full of hot water on the stove; the husband told his wife to sit in the cooking pot with the scalding water, but the victim refused, so her husband forced her to, and the woman ended up with burns all over her legs and genitals. According to sources, two days later the husband married the woman that his wife had been arguing with at the market.

POSSIBLE SOLUTIONS - Raise awareness amongst the population so that domestic chores are divided between girls and boys. - Create a catch-up centre for those girls who have not had the chance to finish their studies because of this violence. - Organise education for families, to fight against domestic violence. - Put to justice any man or husband who rapes his wife.

We welcome other researchers who want to investigate this area more. Your remarks, comments and suggestions are essential for us to develop our ideas further. Thank you.

Merci Ariane, pour partager ces pensées sur le sujet de la violence domestique. Les deux cas que vous avez décrits sont des types de violence très répandus, qui ont un effet très nocif sur toute la société, mais cependant, ils sont faciles d’oublier puisqu’ils sont moins visibles. Je crois que les solutions que vous avez suggérées sont très pertinentes. Ça serait intéressant de savoir si elles ont été implémentées quelque part, et quels ont été les résultats.