Growing up for me was pleasurable. I was not exactly born with a silver spoon, but I guess fortune smiled on my father early in life. Unlike some other children, I and my siblings (4 sisters and 3 boys) had a very supportive father who believed in us all irrespective of our sexes. He was all out to see that we attain great heights in life, especially the girls. It is only now that I reminisce that I realized how much we all have evolved and blossomed over the years.

Even with the obvious stereotyped roles carved out for both sexes in our society; my father never for once applied its rules through all our growing years. All eight of us were treated equally and nobody was made less important to the other. So we all grew to respect ourselves and never looked down on our abilities.

Over the years, I never got to understand why my father had that strong stance about giving his girls a platform. Only recently did it occur to me. Memories of his childhood haunt him. Being a product of polygamy himself, he never wished that any of his children suffer similar cruelty, untold poverty and hardship that came his way as a child and his mother. I remember him telling me that despite the harshness of his growing years, his strength laid in his mother’s undying love, courage and sacrifice, which saw him through the hell.

And so it is against this background that I approached life. I knew that there was something wrong with the system and began searching for answers with the assumption that life’s journey ought to be seamless. How will I ensure that my father’s legacy is passed on? What can be done to ensure the next generation enjoys a life of freedom?

In my quest for solution, I joined a women’s rights organization focusing on women’s rights advancement. For over 9 years, I have committed/continue to commit myself to seeking best practices and information via all forms of media and creative options, to challenge existing cultural/traditional norms affecting women’s development. My eagerness to learn and desire to impart knowledge led me to ‘Voices of Our Future’.

I believe that World Pulse and Voices of Our Future perfectly fit in with my vision considering that it is a platform that will enable me interact with a various stakeholders in multidisciplinary environment who have significant experience and understanding of human rights management and advocacy. With links and media knowledge, I believe I can be a key player in bringing about the desired global change and lend my voice for the benefit of more women in my constituency.

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Thanks for your comment. Living for others is my life. I am glad I can contribute in my own little way.

Still forging ahead. No plans of retreating. We will get there!

Beejay Fabamise, Nigeria

at times I as others do underestimate what I do or how it may help. we enver know even what a kind word may do that will help. I worked in a place food service years ago and a man came in down and out he had worked hard and was that close to getting his degree etc was broke and lost his job . I bought his meal and went to my tip jar and emptied it out and gasve it to him and we had a talk. 18 months later i got a card thanking me he made it and the 35,00 dollars and the meal helped him get there not much but it was a baby step to a bigger step. One drop of water leads to a glass we can all fill and then end thirst for others you do this more thn you know

Just re-read your post. You see why you are so important? You are the answer and solution to someone else's problems, a bearer of good tidings and you deserve more than a pat on the back. Never relent, your efforts are not in vain. It is a seed that has been sown unto greatness. Cheers

Beejay Fabamise, Nigeria

As an environmental activist, I view almost any and every thing through the eye of the environment, so kindly permit my interpretation of your story. Sustainable Development is all about meeting the needs of the present generation, without compromising the ability of future generations to meet their own needs. In passing on a worthy legacy, you would be securing the future of upcoming generations. I salute your courageous adventure!


yes Lady Niks, we are all partners in achieving sustainable development. I applaud your view. imagine what this world will be without the courageus adventure you talked about. I guess we just have to continue exploring. thumbs up sister.

Beejay Fabamise, Nigeria

Thank you for your kind words. How's your project going? I would be more than willing to lend a hand, suggestion, advice,................................Thanks for using Niks, I like it!

Best regards Ma'am.


My dear Lady Niks,

Well, thanks. We are forging ahead. I promise to invite you to our events in the near future. I an glad you liked what I called you.. lol kindred spirit I guess. xoxo

Beejay Fabamise, Nigeria

My sister,

Sooner than you think, we will definitely meet I tell you. Even beyond WorldPulse, I already found a friend, sister and partner in you. I am so blessed to interact with you and all the wonderful women with voice here.

Thank you too my sister.

Beejay Fabamise, Nigeria

Some decide to become rebels because life leaves no other options for them. And then there are some like you who makes a choice, to join the cause of others. It takes guts! And you are a gutsy woman! Wishing you all the best

Stella Paul Twitter: @stellasglobe

Hey Sisters,

Thanks for your comments. I am so blessed to meet you here.

I tell you - we’re at a great place in many ways and there’s something that has clicked—there are still energy leaks that allow momentum that we gain.

Let us keep up with the force

Love ya loads

Beejay Fabamise, Nigeria

Dear AmyC

Thanks for being so encouraging. I guess we all have to keep up with moving the women agenda forward. We will achieve the desired change.


Beejay Fabamise, Nigeria

I really enjoyed reading your story and how you picked up the threads of it to bring you to an understanding of what you want to do and what you choose to do with your life. I look forward to hearing more about the work that you are doing and your journey.

Yours, Julie


Dearest Beejay,

Thank you for sharing this really BALANCED piece with us. I really valued how you shared the memories of your childhood, your appreciation for your Father and the clarity of where you see your QUEST in relation to VOF.

I wish you all the best in your ongoing journey!

Follow YOUR voice.

Best wishes Kaleidoscope Girl

"Write your life so others may be ILLUMINATED."

Thanks my lovely ladies -Bussy, Julie and Kaleidoscope Girl. You are all simply amazing. I am surely in the right place. Surrounded by women who beleive in the power of women and our abilty to use our personal experiences as stepping stones. We all have stories to tell no doubt. We will be better off learning from one another.

I cherish you guys

Beejay Fabamise, Nigeria