After sending my editor the final edit of my memoir, "They Only Eat Their Husbands," I realize that some stories that didn't make the final cut still have a lot to say to women. Allow me to share with you a slice of wisdom from the women elders of the Alaska Native village of Barrow, in my new blog post: "The Last Sunset."


Thanks so much for taking the time to comment, Maria. I'm gratified you liked it. I thought of you when I posted the link. It's a little scary writing about Alaska, knowing that every Alaskan has his or her own unique view of what the place is all about. But I think when you just write what you truly feel, most people respect that. Take care up there as the dark winter envelops you!

I was lucky enough to visit Barrow in the summertime, when the sun never sets and ice on the Arctic Ocean has just broke. Thank you for sharing this glimpse into life in Barrow at a completely different time... a time of complete darkness and desolation. Amazing place and even more amazing people!

Cheers, Jade

Thank you for sharing that. Lucky is right. You've made it definite: I must go back sometime to see Barrow at summer solstice, when the sun just rotates around the sky.

Many thanks, Cara

Your journey sounds very adventureous and courageous! I look forward to reading more about it.

I really like that you have a passion for creative writing and expression for girls. Can you give me any tips on writing prompts or ideas of girls who have been abused (physically and/or sexually)?

Until then, much peace and love!



Oh my, I think my Girls Lead Too name has been misconstrued... I meant "Girls" as in Girls of all ages, as in women and girls. I cannot claim to be an expert on creative writing for children, however as a writer with many years of experience, I do think I have something to offer on your subject...

About writing prompts for girls who have been physically or sexually abused, I recommend also seeking a psychologist's input. As someone who was seriously neglected in childhood, and sexually assaulted and physically abused in early adulthood, I can tell you it is overwhelming to even consider putting pen to paper. However, here's my take on it: What if, to get girls excited about writing, so they can understand how healing it can be, you let them get their feet wet by first writing about a less terrifying personal experience? For example, I think it would be helpful if someone first asked me to write a story about a childhood memory in which someone took something away from me, how it made me feel, what I did when it happened, and what I would say to that person if I could talk to them right now. Then I wouldn't have to immediately confront the fear of writing about the abuse, but about other ways in which I have lost power and control. The healing from writing about that just might open me up to wanting to write about the abuse. I hope that helps.

Every time I write about a bad experience I've had, I feel an incredible relief. It is as if the words on the page carry the burden for me, and I don't have to carry it anymore. I also notice that sometimes when I write down things that I've either blamed myself for, or cruel things people did to me that I convinced myself maybe weren't so bad... the writing has shown me it really wasn't my fault, and that it really was that bad. In other words, when I see my experiences in print, I feel validated. Sharing it with another person can be a tremendous release, though I do keep some of those kinds of writings to myself. I've discovered that, even when our experiences don't exactly reflect another person's, we all have so much in common that we can easily imagine and empathize with each other's pain in the places where they intersect with our own.

Thank you for your interest in my writing & my input.

With warm regards, Cara