I was not informed about this matter until a friend of mine told me her story.
One day the telephone rang. My friend was asked me to come and visit her at hospital. I was shocked. She was laying there with broken limbs. So many bruises were on her face that I hardly recognized her. Doctors had to perform nose surgery. She was alone and crying in the silence of the room. She started to telling me the story of her life. The pattern was the same as in many other stories about abused women.
She was born in a small village, where all the inhabitants were like a family, she thought. She finished primary school. and had to go to work. Her husband was a good looking and nice “guy”. When they started dating she was so happy. After a year he proposed her. She was eighteen. She gave a birth to a baby-boy one year later. Then all started. Her husband spent less and less time at home. When he came home, in the early morning hours, he used to wake her up and demand breakfast. Whatever she cooked was not good enough for him. He would throw plates on her. He had so many reasons to beat her. She always found excuses for his behavior. Then she got a part-time job and had to give all her salary to him. She had no money to buy bread for the children. They were hungry. She told him she will leave him. He threatened to kill her if she does so. She asked her parents for help, intending to move to their house. They did not let her come. They told her that it was a shame, and wondered what the neighbors will say. I told her she can go to the Safe House where her children will be protected. She agreed. But what after leaving the House? An abused woman can stay in the House for only a few months. She has no money, no home and no job. Finally, she goes back to her husband. She endures the violence, but at least the children are at home and get their meals. This is a never-ending story! Is there a solution? This woman can live in one of the abandoned houses in a village. There she can work in the fields, produce organic vegetables and fruit for the demanding market. First, they must accept the fact that they are being injured and maltreated. They have to see the reality of their everyday life and only then they will have a possibility to heal. They have to pose and answer questions which will help them to overcome the status quo which always brings a new cycle of disappointment and pain. By doing so and connecting other women in trouble she can show the growing Pulse Wire Community that there is always a way out and that they are not alone.
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