Should women preserver in their marital home despite facing abuses and hard times?
From my observation and what I have witnessed in my society, women marry for varied reasons. Some marry as a result of true love; others because they feel they are not getting any younger so they want to get hooked up as such cling to any eligible man, some because of the man’s prestigious and affluent position nothing more, others because they are betrothed to a man by their parents. Some women like in Cameroon are excited about men living abroad referred to as ‘Bush Faller’, for them it is an easy way out of poverty, hardship and to seek greener pastures, others say they just wish to have their names imprinted in marriage records.
However, in most African settings especially when kids are involved, women are always advised and encouraged to persevere or hang on and not quit their marital homes no matter the consequences, harsh treatment and condition. Some men even will bluntly say to their wives – Why bother about me and my actions, have I not provided everything in the house. So what do you think, - Should women preserver in their marital home despite facing abuses and hard times?
Personally, I uphold that it is wise to try and seek ways to put things right in the relationship. But if things really continue to go sour and I can’t get to dialog with my spouse neither is he willing or ready to amend his wrongs then I rather quit.
I uphold that staying on especially if I am emotionally attached, I will just be unhappy and feel stressful, I guess I might as well develop pressure leading to hypertension and may obviously lead me to my early grave. When this happens eventually, what happens to my children? It should be made clear to some men that before I got married I had shelter, food and clothing, what I did not have was a husband as such, I can’t be comfortable and enjoy whatever when we are not in one accord.