A press release was sent by MASES on 27th to few media and a 2nd release following AIDWA’s letter was sent again to all media People. Few Reporters got in touch with me. Indian Express had published the news on 29th august. Few Reporters wanted to reach Kaliammal. I spoke to Kaliammal and she is presently with her daughter in G.H, Thoothukudi. Eswari is under treatment. Since nobody is there to help them and be in the hospital to take care of Eswari, Cook food etc Kaliammal has decided to start her treatment after 15 days. MASES is in touch with her.

Jawan’s tonsure torture leaves wife scared

By J Jayasingh Sathyaraj | ENS – THOOTHUKUDI

29th August 2012 08:17 AM

A young woman who was periodically tortured by her suspicious soldier-husband has been lying in a hospital bed in Thoothukudi for nearly a month recovering from wounds inflicted on her. Strangely, police have so far failed to arrest her tormentor husband, who is a Lance Naik in the Indian Army and his brother who had allegedly abused her.

The 25-year old woman Guru Eswari married her maternal uncle Murugan eight years ago.

According to her mother, every time Murugan returned to his Army battalion, he would allegedly force his wife to tonsure her head “to make her look ugly.” Eswari was residing with her mother-in-law Poosammal at Tharuvaikulam near Thoothukudi. Kaliammal alleged that last month Murugan’s brother Shanmuga Sundararaja had visited Eswari’s house and stayed there for three days during which he attempted to misbehave with her. On July 24 the two brothers tortured Eswari.

Later they allegedly branded her body using a hot iron rod. “They also threw chilly powder in her eyes after tying her legs and hands,” said Kaliammal pointing to the scars on her daughter’s body. Eswari was allegedly tortured for six days whole days.

source: http://newindianexpress.com/states/tamil_nadu/article597455.ece

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Thank you for sharing this story. In India are there legal consequences for these men? Is anyone held responsible in anyway for these acts? I can not imagine enduring such torture, and beyond that, that this kind of treatment of any human is in anyway normal or even acceptable. I know this happens in my country, too, but it is hidden and not as common maybe.

In any case, I am looking forward to hearing more from you, and what particular steps can be taken to bring about change.

Please take care and be well.

Let us Hope together- Michelle aka: Cali gal Listener Sister-Mentor @CaliGalMichelle facebook.com/caligalmichelle Tweets by @CaliGalMich

It is good that Kaliammaal and Eswani are being helped. I agree that aside from medical treatment both ladies need psychiatric attention. Physical wounds may heal in one month or so but psychological wounds may take years or may never heal at all. But I believe that these mother and daughter victims will rise above their bitter experiences and will come out stronger and bolder.

Kotravai, if you will have the chance to connect with Kaliammaal and Eswani, please let them know that someone in the Philippines believes that they are beautiful, awesome and admirable. They are an inspiration to many people around the world. Do tell them that.

Ma. Lydia G. CallanoIloilo, Philippines+63 33 3158137 or 5138830

Sure Lydia, will do that. Through a contact of mine in-house Psychiatrist has been arranged to meet with them.

Kotravai M.A.S.E.S - Movement Against Sexual Exploitation and Sexism

Thank you for sharing this case. These men need to be brought to justice. It is a pity what is happening to these women and in the case of Eswani, is there anyway that she can return to her parents? I know that in India this is not traditional practice but she has to find another solution by not returning to her husband's family. The police will need to ethically conduct an investigation. Please keep us posted on her update.

Thank you for sharing this case with us, as it is a constant reminder that even today women are mistreated and abused by their families. This is a case that Gayatri Spivek speaks about when she says that women in India are the subaltern. Nevertheless, it is wonderful that the World Pulse can give these women a voice to speak up, to become stronger, and overcome what they have faced.

I agree, that they do need mental and emotional assistance as it will be difficult for them to "forget" such abuse. However, we hope that through professional assistance of a family therapist they will be able to bounce back.

Please keep us updated.

Many Thanks, Bina

Kind Regards, Bina Patel hc Mediate, LLC www.hcmediate.com

Thanks Bina. Yes there are setbacks bcos of traditional practices that stops women from returning to her parents, but recent days, the economic independence overthrows it...but I want to point out that sometimes, own father turns out to be a rapist!!. http://masessaynotosexism.wordpress.com/2012/09/05/update-on-usha-ranis-...

As i mentioned earlier AIDWA is working with police demanding ethical investigation. They conducted demonstration.

Reg. Spivak, i just recently translated one of her interviews in Tamil for a literary magazine's 1st issue launched by my Husband.

World Pulse is a great platform.

An in-house psychiatrist arranged by us has visited them and offered to take help when needed, bcos they are being treated in another ward & there is a team already treating them. (both Eswari and her mother has been tortured) http://masessaynotosexism.wordpress.com/2012/08/27/mother-and-daughter-t...

Will keep you updated.

Kotravai M.A.S.E.S - Movement Against Sexual Exploitation and Sexism

I am glad to hear that these women are getting the psychiatric help they need as well. While it is important to save those from abusive situations, the after-care is just as imperative. I pray these beautiful women can know their worth and importance in our world, and that they are given the grace they need to make it through the darkness.

Blessings to you all!

Let us Hope together- Michelle aka: Cali gal Listener Sister-Mentor @CaliGalMichelle facebook.com/caligalmichelle Tweets by @CaliGalMich

Thank you for sharing this story with a caring audience. You have given Kaliammaal and Eswani a way to be heard and provided them with the supportive counseling they need now and in the future. I hope that both women will continue to know that they have a network of support and compassion and that they will remain in safe spaces as they continue to heal and move forward in their lives.

Warm regards, Sarah

Thank you for sharing this story. Giving a voice to these women is a vital part of changing the social and legal attitudes of the society as well giving them a supportive community.

It would be helpful for both the story and Eswari's case to have more details about what actions were (or weren't) taken during those eight long years and the way she has been received in the community before and after this terrible incident.

I hope Eswari and Kaliammaal continue to heal and know that they have the support of a strong, vibrant and nurturing community as they try to move forward with their lives.