After a long morning of preparation to go for work, i had to walk to the bus stop to pick a matatu (mini bus). A half an hour drive turned to a two hours drive due to the bad traffic of Kenyan roads. After ten minute of drive the driver had to stop to let someone alight or board, this continues for a long time. I the bus i felt dizzy, this was as a result of the pregnancy i had. I felt something passing by my thighs, but i did not concentrate on that. I felt like vomiting and so i opened the window to let in fresh air.This condition became so uncomfortable and so i bent by my back on the bus sit. This made me feel better, at this time i decided to check what was passing by my thighs. I was so shocked to get a man's hand touching me, i pulled his hand and asked him ''what are you doing? why are you touching my thighs? don't you have respect to women? cant you see am pregnant?'' This man was so embarrassed and as the African culture men do not expect women to stand for themselves. To cover up for himself he started insulting me, ''You are so foolish, you think i can be interested in pregnant women?,'' All the men in the bus started insulting me, '' you do not have respect for yourself, you don't even notice that you are pregnant and give yourself time before you start chasing for men'' I looked the man in his eye and asked him.'' Can you talk to your wife, mum, or sister like this? how will you feel if your wife is sexually harassed by someone? if i was your sister and a stranger did this to her will you join the other men in insulting her?. You are men and your responsibilities are protecting women. All the men kept quite. ''Am so proud of you my daughter'' one of the women said, ''your courage and personality to stand up for yourself and other women has empowered me''. No one said a word till i alighted the bus.

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What a perv! you can imagine how many people he must have harassed before he met you, his match. It is so sad at the dominating male society that is obtainable in Africa where legal systems or society do not protect women. Instead of the other men to protect you they were chocking insults at you. Today it's you, tomorrow might be their mothers, sisters, daughters or female friend. Thank you for being so bold by standing up for yourself, Kenya needs more people like you. Way to go Maureen!



Thanks so much for your comments, I believe that stronger men protect women but this does not happen in Kenya and most parts of the world. I know this shall end once all women stand to fight for their rights.


You know how sometimes we find ourselves in situations where we didn't say what we wanted to say, and later think, "Oh I wish I had said THAT, or this, or the other thing..." Well, in this case, you said it SO perfectly to those men! Bringing up their sisters and wives was brilliant. It could not have been any better, any clearer or any more powerful. It even sounds like you said it with composure and grace. I love this story because you pave the way, teach and inspire. Thanks for celebrating your good work with the rest of us.


this is fantastic. it's a horrible double standard, isn't it, when men are protective—often even over-protective—of their own female relations, while treating strange women with disrespect and contempt. we're all proud of you for playing your part in righting this wrong!

xx ana