With the hustle and bustle that goes hand in hand with everyday life in today's society, it's quite easy to take our very existence for granted. Most people feel at ease in their own routine and don't dare leave its comforts. However, there are those who strive for bigger and better things -whether out of ambition or simply a will to survive, those wonderful women who strive to help others reach for the stars and arrive at their destination. I wanted to become one! I knew it was not a cake walk.

I have encountered daunting obstacles in life but have overcome by utilizing grace, determination and an undying love of life.

I turn the pages of my diary back to 2006 – The worst disease in the world is "being unwanted" and I was that unwanted since then. As a victim of domestic violence many times I chanced upon death. Even the very thought of the torturous nights I had spent was spine chilling now. I remained there as a useless bundle for months.

Inspite of all this pain and pressure, an inner voice spoke – Where is the woman who was once a community organizer, a team leader, social worker bringing changes in the lives of women? who organized campaigns for girl’s education, gender equality, sexual abuse, rapes and all that attacked both urban and rural women? A counselor who rendered psychosocial/trauma care to the witnesses of the giant waves of tsunami swallowing their loved ones?

It struck that for quite some time I have been out of my track and now regained my vision. That was the day when Google took me to World Pulse. “A former patient can make an excellent doctor.”The pain of rape victims, innocent widows, trafficked children ran through my head. Now it’s not only my activities but my voice that will echo this pain.

To others around me I don’t look normal which they infer from the way I dress, in an out of fashion manner, don’t conduct myself normally, speak in a language that only I understand and not others. But World Pulse understands my language, appreciates me for what I am.

Overcoming each set of challenges has enabled me to augment my stature as an activist. But entering into World Pulse has made my journey of the challenging past into a mere chapter and opened the gates wide to expand my vision, my future – a reality.

Now I have the opportunity to reach out to thousands of women worldwide whose voices have been shut by the vices of culture. We the women are responsible to lead the nations into the future. We must show courage and leadership by engaging in all aspects of our democratic processes to truly realize our demographic dividend. We need not look back when we realize we are responsible for our lives.

For that we should right the wrongs we witness by becoming voices of the global media revolution – “Voices of the Future.”

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Thanks for your story! No wonder you are such an inspiring teacher and nurturer -- you are also a survivor! Now I understand why you have such a generous spirit, Sharontina. Suffering has strengthened you and as you gave your heart to others, the blessings returned to you a thousandfold.

Blessings, libudsuroy

''Every Day is a Journey and the Journey itself is Home.'' (Matsuo Basho)

I am yet to strengthen myself dear Sister. Its a long way to go and WP has given me such wonderful sisters like you that i get it done easily in the process.

Much love

Merlin James

Sharon,

You are a survivor, a passionate writer and a beautiful mother. Such a motivated lady. Am so glad through Wp, i got to know women like you, who fought ,survived and lived to tell it all.

Keep it up.

Love,

Mukut Ray

WP is a blessing to me really that i have found such wonderful frieds and family here.

Thanks for hearing my voice.

Blessings and love.

Merlin James

Dear sister, you are strong enough to win challenges and defy pain. Im so proud to have you as one of my best sisters in WorlPulse. Please stay so and keep fighting with your mighty will. I appreciate every attempt of this golden-hearted lady. I am with you. God bless!

Dear Sangita you have put me on top of all expectations and i am determined that i should keep up to that in every way possible. Will do it.

Love.

Merlin James

You are such an inspiration Sharontina, your story I love, you are very courageous, your strength I admire. Keep up my dear. Love Passy

Dear Sharontina, hugs and love to you. You are an amazing woman. Your strength, fortitude and rejuvenation is an inspiration to us all. Wish you all the success and happiness.

Love bhavna

When one woman meet another woman who has experienced violence - they are equals and share common threads that are interwoven by supporting each other and caring for each other. We ARE sisters! Because you, and I, have had violence done to us, does not make us less than anyone else. I think it increases our value for the world because we learn so much living in a violent relationship! It is a negative experience and we turn into a positive one by making the world a better place. Thank you for your words!

"Be the change you want in the world." Gandhi Debra K. Adams, MA Survivors In Service: Self Empowerment Strategies (SiSSeS) Consultant/Speaker/Author & Owner/Founder. Please learn more about me here: http://re.vu/debrakadams

i am glad that WP has given this great opportunity to learn, teach and be the voices for one another. Each one's life experience teaches volumes to another person on that side of the globe. Yes we are Sisters, sharing our voices and shoulders for each other to rest and raise.

Love and Peace

Merlin James

Hi Sharontina,

What an amazing story of an amazing woman, so open and honest. It has been hell for you. I can tell. Yet, you have a spirit that insists on moving forward and upward. I know the loneliness of being completely "alone",. It is in my life now as it has been for most of my years. it is not a life I wish on anyone, but there is a reason for it to be this way. I believe you are being prepared for something great. It is like you are in earth school, learning your hard lessons and then you will emerge a strong force for women and all humans.

You have made me realize I will try harder to find a way to download my book "It's Hell In The Hallways But I'm Beginning To See The Light" as you requested because we have many similarities and I know we can learn from each other.

Thank you Sharontina, for expressing what could not have been easy to talk about. You are a winner. You have a purpose that has not been told to you yet. You are NECESSARY and you matter.

Love and ubuntu (I am who I am because of who we are together),

Wendy

Wendy Stebbins Founder/CEO I AM ONE IN A MILLION Non-Profit Organization focused on helping street orphans and vulnerable children in Livingstone, Zambia Africa.

I feel great and on top of the world to receive such valuable feedback and comments from an experienced, high profile woman, friend, sister, mentor and guide with a much louder voice that makes sense in every bit of it. i feel up. This is a real booster to work even hard to be the change.

Waiting eagerly for the book.

With much love

Merlin James

You ARE the change, my dear, Sharontina,

It is just that you and the world don't know it yet ! But it's coming! Keep it up. What I love about you most (and there are MANY things) is your tireless COURAGE in the face of adversity.

Love and ubuntu (I am who I am because of who we are together),

Wendy

I wrote to another WP member who was able to download the book for herself and asked if you give permission for me to give her your email address will she download it to you. So, let's hope. I think she will. Do you give me permission to give her your email address? She is Kirthijay and has written many wonderful articles for WP because she is wonderful like you.

Wendy Stebbins Founder/CEO I AM ONE IN A MILLION Non-Profit Organization focused on helping street orphans and vulnerable children in Livingstone, Zambia Africa.

Hi Sharontina,

Okay.

I have emailed Kirthi and she will download when she can.

Hang in there, girl.

Wendy

By the way, the picture of you (or a girl) lying in the grass is wonderful.

Wendy Stebbins Founder/CEO I AM ONE IN A MILLION Non-Profit Organization focused on helping street orphans and vulnerable children in Livingstone, Zambia Africa.

Sharontina, you've inspired me to go back and read all of your other pieces, particularly the one on marital rape, which is an issue that deserves significantly more coverage.

In the meantime, I think you would be interested in the writings and resources of Leonie Dawson (www.leoniedawson.com). See what you think, specifically with regard to her older writings.

In friendship,

~ Maya

Dear Maya, you are an inspiration too. This is the speciality here at WP that each one becomes an inspiration to another following and guiding and being there for each other. Yes when i was writing that 'marital rape' piece, here in India that was a period when rape was at its peak. Not only that i have personally witnessed somany in my neighbourhood and next doors. But in the town, women remain silent either to safeguard the dignity or fearing the stigma. I spoke to a few, but for them its just a hope in the long run that they will taste self esteem and freedom someday. I found my appraoch towards the women in the village was easier.

And thanks for that link dear. I will make the best use of it.

Love and peace

Merlin James

Dear Sharontina, Thank you for your insightful article about World Pulse and building community. I too remember the tsunami and the huge number of lives lost due to that calamity. I urge you to continue your work with World Pulse and helping others in India, help that is desperately needed, especially among poor girls/women. You are making a difference in India and elsewhere and I'm proud of your efforts. blessings, William

When great and experienced hands such as yours is guiding me through here at WP i feel so encouraged and my energy level gets boosted up each time i receive a comment or feedback. I feel up when that positive response pops up in the screen. I am so lucky to have found this family of WP. i am working on higher level activities and its expansion to create a platform here too for the disadvantaged women and girls.

Thanks and regards

Merlin James

Dear Sharontina,

Thank you very much for sharing such a powerful post. It was amazing to read your life transition, now you're a advocate of the sufferings women around the world facing and going through difficulties. I am happy you found world pulse, which is providing a forum for women around the world. Here we can share our life experiences without fear of being judged.

Well done. I look forward to read your future wonderful posts.

Riya

Hello, Sharontina --

Your description of your state in abuse and your process of rising up from that are very powerful, Sharontina. I am moved when you move from being a "useless bundle" to rising up recognizing your power and greatness, the courage and generosity you had shared being part of the strength that bolstered you up.

Wow, Sharontina. I and the world are all glad that you made that realization of your power....the strength of a woman who has grown through her misfortune and struggle is ten times that of another. I am not saying the struggle was okay, I am saying, though, that what it took to get out of it will serve you strongly throughout the many years that you continue to serve the world.

Many blessings,

Anna

Speaking my Peace

Its a great honor to receive such wonderful feedback from an experienced person with so much expertise and calibre. I am driven to strive hard to keep up to the expectations and work even more in a much better and innovative way so that i reach the destination of greater heights where i hope to see all my sisters around the globe, everyone with their story of success. I wish to hear each one say, "I have done it, I have lit the light in the lives of my women". I dream of every girl empowered, educated and made a leader.

love

Merlin James

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