Who being loved is poor hearted?-perhaps none! Love –free unconditional love has the magic power to make of a beggar a king. Love without which the intimacy of marriage must prove degrading to both the woman and the man. Marriage may have the power to bring the horse to water’ but has it ever made him drink? Many love birds walks in marriage so drunk in love that they assume they have began a love-romance phase and shun marriage responsibilities. For any marriage institution to learn smoothly the spouses must be ready to give and take. They must be ready to balance between work, friends, Relatives and their spouses. Incorporate your partner in your hobbies -if they are different from your own A girl-child is tired with the marriage confusion from a tender age. she is constantly told and re-told that marriage is her ultimate goal-thus all her energy in education and all other areas of life must be directed in achieving the best in her marriage, yet little is discussed fully and openly about the function as a wife and mother. She is kept in pitch darkness of her only assert in the competitive field-sex. She enters into life-long relations with a man only to find herself shocked. Most marriages are sex starved .A great marital disaster! When one spouse is sexually dissatisfied and the other is unconcern and uncaring, it deeply hurt the other partner. In a normal marriage couples fight about anythingfrom why the tooth paste was left open to why your mum is coming over again’ but after the fight sex is known to soothe the bad feeling-kind of a new begging-a forgiving ritual ,but when one is deprived of even that, bitterness, resentment and desperation creep in and accumulate with time, leaving the starved partner with only two choices-an affair or divorce-most go for the former and the marriage take a zigzag routes. Marriage is not a ritual or an end, advised Amybloom .It is a long intricate intimate dance together and nothing matters more than your own sense of balance and your choice of partner. If then you have the right dance partner why is it then so hard to balance the moves?