Wake Up! Thou Woman & Let Your Little Light Shine

I thank God for my life for making me a married woman and marriage comes with a special blessing ordained by God. It’s the dream for most women to be married. In Africa, Families and societies puts a mirage of pressure on women to be married to such an extent that women tend to see marriage as a means to an end. As they get older they become more passionate about getting married. The desire and eagerness to become someone’s wife, to find their soulmate, to make their lives more comfortable and be respected in society increases. It is as this point in life that most women lost focus on who they really are and what they actually want to achieve in life. They tend to settle for any good looking man that society can recognize forgetting to put certain facts together such as will he be a mentor to me? Will he be a help mate in achieving my goals? Do we have the same perspective about life? They just get married and hope he will change in the future which is a miscalculation.

Another mistake mostly done by women is the moment their last name changes they forget or better say they stop dreaming. 80% of the conversation revolves around having kids, taking care of their husbands and homes, always trying to look good so that their husbands won’t leave them and for society to respect and recognize their new status.

The most interesting things about it all is that the educated ones are mostly victims. Our society makes us to believe that the more educated a woman becomes the less chances she has of getting married and no matter how successful a woman is if she is not married her success won’t be measured. This perception is not true, a woman must always believe that the more value she adds to herself the more her price tag increases in this competitive world.

Whiles acquiring education if you ask a woman what she wants to become? You will hear responses like “I want to make the world a better place for the under privileged” “I will love to empower my fellow women” “I want to become a global entrepreneur” “I want to become an agent of change” and it goes on and on. The moment they get married these dreams never becomes a reality, they tend to settle for less paid jobs with little demands, the passion for their goals and aspirations goes down the drain and they are unable to achieve their peak performances.

My advice to every single lady is to be careful who you say yes I do to, place your checks and balances together, have an in-depth conversation with your spouse about your dreams, don’t pretend to be who you’re not, be focus and never allow society and family to place anxiety on you getting married. Know who you’re before rushing into married and you’ll never feel complete if you get married incomplete. Marriage is for two complete people (Marriage is 1 +1 = 1 and not ½ + ½ = 1)

To my fellow married women, there is more to life than a happily married home. Being married is just fulfilling one of the many successes we must accomplish. Am greatly convinced that God created each and every woman with a unique feature and special purpose on earth. It is a choice to discover who you are in order for you to realize that purpose. It’s never too late to activate your dreams and turn them into reality. We have a world outside our homes waiting patiently for us, destines are being tied to our dreams, innovations are waiting to be found by us, youths are waiting to be mentored by us. It is selfish for us to just ignore them because we don’t want our children to live in an unjust society.

As a woman, you should know who you are, what you have and what do you want to be remembered for when you must have left the shores of this Earth. The World will only become a better place if every woman knows who they are, what they want and what they have to give back to their societies and families.