It was raining on one Saturday night in 1987 when I opened my eyes on this beautiful planet. When I was 11, I was introduced to a new outlook of my family: A Rajput Family (Rajput: People who descended from Princely warrior clan in India). Here, our own family is against our freedom than somebody else outside. Women in our family enjoys controlled freedom, even in basic choices in life whether what to wear, places to visit you name it and I would say, “Yes! I didn’t have freedom to choose that myself”. The biggest challenge we face is, our family will never let us study. “Why do we need to send girls to school? In the end they have to get married” What I feel sad most about is, society, women are the equal partner in this conspiracy. Mothers won’t allow them to do anything out of predefined set of task from the fear of getting defamed by male members of family. Mothers-in-law don’t want the same either because they are sadist enough to see us in same situation where they were or just from a sense of owning us as their son’s wife.
Exceptionally, my mother, whom I admire most, besides all the discouragement she received regarding her wish for higher education, she was restrained to go out of home to attend college. But she managed to get admission and later continued to study from home and managed graduated in Economics and English. Afterwards she wanted to study Law but while she was studying she had been married and had to drop it. She led a normal life of a housewife. Now, after 27 years I have decided, I will do whatever it takes to make my mother complete her studies, to see her becoming a lawyer, fulfilling her never diminished dream. Today when I write this article, she is filling up forms for several colleges at the age of 53 to complete her law. I find it’s her who has enabled me to take such a step. She sent me for higher studies and job away from home, against will of other family members. At this moment I feel a sense of absolute gratitude, “Mom, you let me be who I wanted to be. Now your daughter will make sure you become what you wished to be, against all odds. ”
I had decided, I will not live a life the way my mother had to. That’s when I started setting my own rules, as an independent woman and things have definitely improved for me. But
My first cousin didn’t have the same luck, may be. She was working in a MNC but one sudden day, her brothers took her back home without even explaining why she cannot work. Every time I look at her and I see a entrapped soul trying to be happy with whatever she has been given by others.
It made me think again. I desperately wanted to do something for such women who have talent just like anybody else but bound to be behind the walls.
After countless hours spent in thinking, I decided that we all have to stand together and dare to fight for our rights and cannot succumb anymore to these age old mindset which will lead us towards darkness. My vision is to employ every women sitting at home irrespective of her status, caste, location. I named this venture as ‘I Do Dare’, the unuttered words we must say loud for ourselves. With this every woman can earn self-satisfaction of doing something meaningful and money while being at home either by creating any product or value by encouraging other women in their community.
I believe that if we are clear with our vision and really want to be a change in this world then we got to do what we have got to do. Currently, I am trying to do my bit by supporting women in my country, whenever and wherever I can:
At Home: I try to set an example for my sisters as I am the only one working and financially independent girl in my family. I call them frequently and motivate them not to give up their studies to fight to become independent.
In office: As we all know, in corporate world women face so many challenges in order to grow up the ladder. . I am working on a report of UN women empowerment principles which our company is in process to sign and I hope this will help us to overcome gender biased issues.
Elsewhere: With my organization currently working in 3 states in 3 months we have spread a wave of hope and employment across and working even more to see day when we DARE TO win together.
Take action! This post was submitted in response to Girls Transform the World 2013.