DAUGHTERS(Young Ladies) CHOICE TO CHOOSE HER HUSBAND SHOULD BE RESPECTED BY PARENT.

Its a sad moment for emotional love torture from both woman and man. In this 21st generation where force matching and aged match making is the order of marriage,leading to martial violence and martial suicide.

After six years of relationship in between the good and bedtimes of pains turbulence from the young lady named BIDEMI and her family most especial because they in the middle class,Looking at culture and tribes they want their daughter to get married to their statues and region for interest and unconflict purpose of exchange of family Culture bond,Political bond,or Business bond of empires,at the end,she is not happy with her home. she is now telling her stories to her child,That:

Remind me of Ms.Hajara who got married at 16yrs without her consent because the purpose was for business/contract base standard,she fought to make sure the marriage was divorced involving Human Right Commission,but the battle was very tough and rough because it almost took her life.

Domestic violence or suicide could have taken places because,she always go to bed at night with a sharp knife ready to stab the so called husband and her self.

I have to preach and counsel her be her best friends,confidants and motivator,but the stories was a very sad experiences for a young lady whose father was late and she was staying was staying with the elder brother,but all of a sudden all the love,affection went off because she stood her ground and take right to her destiny.

Only person she see was me and God,It got to a point I was afraid of my life not to come after me but I believe in life make a positive change and be a change maker,Some will be happy with you and while some we be very angry.

My greatest joy and happiness for Hajara she was a brave fighter and a courageous young lady who stood test of time,to fight her battle in midst of frustration,negligence,homeless and all she never given up,but was determine to take her right of saying no to early marriage without her consent.

Hajara a woman which words,wounds and stories can be heard,She is a student and a self employed with empowered skilled.No matter how pressing ,abandoned life can give you as a young lady or woman,You have a right to your life to live,stay and build to be home or communities of Changing the old and bad norms of our societies.