Everyone has a future

Ache Violet Fonda
Posted January 5, 2022 from Cameroon

I have often realize that persons with Disabilities are often disadvantage in many situations. It starts from the families if we don't support them from Tender they will grow up to feel inclusive in every societal activity with a feeling of inferiority but if we do not support them from Tender,they will feel excluded and so no future. I am citing this words from a story a Reverend sister told me today about some child with hearing and speech impairment she works with. She said she took those children when they were at age 14 and 12 respectively. She said the children got the feelings they have the world of thier own since no one regards them as a part. She was like in every effort they do to get them educated, they become worst because on taking them, they already got a certain character instilled in them so to change it is a whole struggle. She said the children are 2 a girl and a boy. They have tried every means to get the girl educated but the results was pregnancy so they had to send her back to the village where she came from but unfortunately she gave birth to a blind child. Why I am I narrating this story here? I am doing so because I want to encourage parents of children with Disabilities to first accept thier kids, give them love before they send them out to the society. The society will love and respect your child if you parents first love and respect them. Let's give our children with Disabilities a future. Everyone is entitled to a future. 

Happy new year to everyone

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Tamarack Verrall
Jan 05
Jan 05

Dear Violet,
This is a sad story on so many levels, with hope contained in your voice, and knowing of others like the Reverend sister. So true that we all as members of this human society must take our part, to support everyone with disabilities, and parents, and leaders such as you. We all need to speak out in our communities and find ways to bring accessibility and respect in place. Your voice is powerful. May it continue to ring out in this new year. Happy New Year to you!

Ache Violet Fonda
Jan 05
Jan 05

Happy new year Verall. They are so many issues of concern when it comes to Disability and inclusion. we got so many gaps to fill we are hoping for a better future.
Cheers
Love
Violet

jomarieb.earth
Jan 05
Jan 05

Dear ACHE VIOLET FONDA,
I totally respect everything in your post. But now I will add my own point of view. Buckle your seatbelt sister! Here we go!
Parents should give their children love whether they are disabled or not. Love equips every child with a way to filter and distinguish right from wrong. Love from parents has a way of normalizing and overlooking weaknesses instead of pointing them out and discriminating against them. Love makes all children strong. Disabled children should not be treated differently because they are disabled. Life is a struggle for all, that is reality. Love gives everyone the tools to get through the struggles. Too many parents cannot accept their children for simpler reasons than disabilities. It can be a different hair color, eye color, skin color, shape, way of expression. Parents need to love their children no matter what. Love from parents does not earn any child love and respect from society. Disabled children also need love, but society is always cruel first, and tolerant when corrected. Love prepares any child to carry themselves equipped to demand love and respect. This can only come from learning self love and self respect. Then they just might get it from others. Being loved by ones family is wonderful, but being loved by society is just a bonus if one gets lucky. Most of all, they must learn to love themselves. Self love radiates and passes all understanding. Thanks for sharing, this is great!
Hugs...JoMarie

Ache Violet Fonda
Jan 05
Jan 05

Hi Marie
Happy new year. Just read your comment and I agree with you that every child deserve look irrespective of whether they are Disable or not. But Marie what I shared of from my personal experience too as a woman with Disability. My mother loved me but my father rejected me and suggested I put by the stream and be swept by water because they saw my disability back then as witchcraft. But as a mother she couldn't bear that and kept me sold cocoyam and did all she could to send me to school. She will always tell me know that everything is your pen. She sent me to a boarding school and interacting with other kids for me was not a problem since my hole already solidify my love. It's not the case with other Children Marie.i don't know the continent where you are but I bet you my context is where there is the highest level of descrimination and marginalization of children with Disabilities. I know of a woman who gave birth to 4 kids all have 1 or more Disability. She has kept them in her fence compound no one passes there for any reason to even greet or chat with the children. Marie tell me how will those kids ever been embraced by the society when they are not given liberty from home? Where and how will they get thier own futures?

jomarieb.earth
Jan 05
Jan 05

I'm from the North American continent where children, both able and disabled are also abused, neglected, trafficked, despite how wonderful and amazing people think it is here. Thank you for sharing your passion. And I see from your mother, you have learned to love yourself, living proof that love is necessary. We both agree, that all children should be loved by their parents. In China, being a girl was up until recently a disability. Thousands of baby girls were murdered for being girls. Society is cruel everywhere, not just where you are. That is real life everywhere. Some places appear to be more tolerant, while disabled people are highly overlooked and shunned. We do agree, even though is sounds like a debate. Love does conquer all when and if it is present.

rebecca.tang
Jan 06
Jan 06

Thank you for sharing. We do need more inclusion and diversity. Everyone has the same human right, have education, be loved, etc. regardless their gender, races, disabled, etc. Disabled children can have their own future and dreams.
We can see there is some improvement in some parts of the world in the last few decades. But, it is not enough. We still need to do more to make improvement in entire world.
May Almighty God bless you and all disabled children in the world!

Regina Afanwi Young
Jan 09
Jan 09

Hello Violet. Thanks for your story. You are right about responsibility of parents towards their children in every way.

belinda mayar
Jan 10
Jan 10

I am very happy to meet again on this platform, I have always admired your persistence in everything you do, like your story you have proven every child including children with disabilities can have a better future, keep inspiring the world my sister.

Beth Lacey
Jan 11
Jan 11

I agree with you. It does start with the love and support of parents

Thanks for sharing with us your story. I pity those girls and secondly they didn't have that parental love and since they didn't have the base in education it was so difficult for them to adapt to the society.

Tarke Edith
Jan 11
Jan 11

Hello sis Violet ,
Happy to meet you here on this platform. My dear sister people disability has not been looked upon since the creation of this world.
But thank God such attitude will come to pass when we are together.
Thank you for sharing your story so freely with us.
Love you sister

Grace Iliya
Jan 12
Jan 12

Dear Violet,
I totally agree with you, parents need to show love no matter what. This is truly sad. We need to continue to raise our voices for these and more. Happy New year dear.

Queen Sheba D Cisse
Jan 13
Jan 13

Greetings Violet,
Happy New Year2022 and be blessed as well.
I really admire education on all of these important subject matters. I work with many women and families in USA and in Senegal and what inspires me is the appreciation many have been of the services offered in this field of work. Our children and so many others whom have a mental or physical or both challenge should be honored and cared for.
Everyone is special and we leave no one behind. We have come far but we have so much more to go in this line of work and definitely in rural and remote areas in Africa.
Thanks for writing this story and keep up the good advocacy of this work,
sincerely,
Mama Queen