How My Childhood Issues Impacted on My Emotional and Social Well-being as an Adult

Aderonke Adeyemi
Posted June 18, 2020 from Nigeria

I've been depressed for over two decades yet people don't see mental health issues as some thing to give utmost importance to.

I started getting depressed at 8years old. Before now, I used to be a confident little girl full of life and energy. My mum said I started walking and talking at 7months of age. Now this is not something you see every day.

 

As I grew older and started recognizing what was going on around me, I started getting affected.

My father was a soldier in the Nigerian army who was not always around and whenever he does come around he and my mother get to fight in the public which makes me very embarrassed. With time I began to wonder why my family isn't as lovely as some of the other families I do visits in my area. There was nothing of the qualities that makes up a family, no love, unity, care, cooperation and everything you know that a family should have.

 

I got so lonely and withdrawn most especially because I had to hawk bread every morning before going to school which means I always go late to school and get flogged for late coming even though I never wanted that.

 

All these broke me and then , there are issues of molestation and sexual harassment I will never get to talk about because I've lost my voice, the voice of a baby girl who started talking and running at 7months old.

 

I will share in another post how this mental issues affected me into teenage hood and still wreck my personality.

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Chi8629
Jun 18
Jun 18

Hello beautiful sister,
How are you doing today?
Welcome to worldpluse .
Iam sincerely sorry about what you passed through and
I want to let you know that we are here for you and that we love you so much . You are valuable . With time everything will be alright sweet sister . Sending you cyber hugs and love .

Chi8629
Jun 18
Jun 18

Sweetness , Depression is a thing almost
Everyone goes through .So don't be afraid to ask someone for help. The golden rule for people suffering depression is to stay open and tell your troubles to your friends (worldpluse family) and your family .We are here for you darling.

Aderonke Adeyemi
Jun 18
Jun 18

Thank you so much. At a point I had to confront it for what it is and accept the fact that I was depressed. I am healing and enjoying the process.

Busayo Obisakin
Jun 18
Jun 18

Dear Ronke,
I am sending you right now HUGS and Love! Can you feel my heart beat as I am hugging you with the strength of all our sisters round the world, I can feel your heart beat my Sister. I want you to bath yourself in that Love. You are a very strong and brave women
Warmest Love
Busayo
Busayo

Aderonke Adeyemi
Jun 18
Jun 18

Thank you so much ma'am for your gesture of love. I have finally found the strength to share my story and embrace the fact that I've been depressed for a very long time. My hope right now is to create awareness for parents especially in Nigeria to know that children experience mental health issues too.

Oluwadarasimi Adeyeye

Thank you very much ma for this story. It's really sad to see that attention are not given to people suffering from depression. Most times they regard it as an act for seeking attention.

Hello, Aderonke,

Welcome to World Pulse! What a joy that a new voice from Nigeria is rising up!

Hugs, dear. Depression is real even at the age of 8 years old. Studies back that up. It's tough to grow up battling with depression. I am glad you found the bravery to share about it. You went through so much pain, dear. You are in the right place. Keep sharing your stories and your will own your voice again. We are here to encourage you along the way. Looking forward to your next posts.

Welcome again to our growing sisterhood!

Ana Lozano
Jun 20
Jun 20

Dear Aderonke,
I'm so glad you found World Pulse, and I hope one day you make it your home base. I'm sure you'll find the way to raise your voice again, because your voice IS there. Depression is brutal, and I agree it's absolutely crucial to talk about it. I'm sure your bravery, paired with this wonderful, encouraging, loving sisterhood will help you find your voice again. You are already on the path to do so.
Sending hugs,
Ana

Raziyaa
Jun 21
Jun 21

I hope you are feeling better now and lot of love for you. I hope you will raise your voice again and fight against the depression. You are the best and beautiful.

Sinyuy Geraldine
Jun 24
Jun 24

Dear Adeyemi, thanks so much for your story about your terrible childhood experiences. It is really too bad that we talk of mental health, but most of us can't define it. I encourage you to trample on that past and forge ahead. Take courage dear.

Thelma obani 2020
Jun 27
Jun 27

Welcome to world pulse.
We will hear from you always