Fill your sky with your own colors; Never Give up, Do your best in your own circumstances.

Adila Kokab
Posted March 28, 2018 from Pakistan

 

I am from rural Gujrat, Pakistan and not feel any guilt to be a villager or belong to rural area. But very firstly I felt the difference between rural and urban area when I am in my matriculation. That time when Deo visited our school and ask to me what you want to be in your life? And I replied that I want to be a doctor. He smiled and said you study the General science and want to be a doctor? I like your confidence but also want to tell you that for becoming a doctor you must be studied science subjects. I wonder and thought not a big deal Adila! You can do it. But these days I thought why here is no more opportunities in my village? That day when I back to my home I asked to my mother for science subject because I want to become a doctor. She smiled and said there is no science subject offered in your school. So if you want to be studied that subjects you should have to go to the city school. I thought and said if I studied science subject in my own school then it is possible? She said: “Daikhty hyn. Then she talks to my father and siblings (as I am youngest child). They all decided to help me out and give me permission to study science subjects. My mother herself was a teacher so the principle gave me favor and allows me to attend all compulsory subjects’ classes with my class fellows. My teachers have lot of hopes with me because I am the only girl who studied science subject in my school. At the admission time my principle Ms. Mumtaz called me and said: “Beta do your best because agar tum fail ho gai tu humara science ka result 0% aye ga agar tum pass ho gait u 100%, let see tum apny school ka nam kis taraf ly jati ho?” I replied: “g miss me in sha ALLAH pass ho jaon gi” and when the result announce everyone is wondering that how she got 65%. But after this I have to go to city for further studies. I select science subjects as my aim is to be a doctor. But daily traveling didn’t suits me so mostly suffered from fever. In the result, at the end of the academic year I was failed in Admission exams. The college administration offered me to send admission in easy subjects that’s I can pass within three months. But I refused and talked to my mother again. She asked me: then what you think? What is your next step? I said: “me ny daikh lia hy me science ni parh sakti q k science k subject ki base ni hy meri jiski waja sy mjy tution ki zrort hy pr tution be city me milti hy agar tution parh kr aon gi to maghrib ki azaan ho jati hy or sub gaon k log hyrani sy daikhty k ye is waqat a rhi, koi bus humary gaon tak ni ati stop py utar kar agy chal k ati hunt u maghrib k waqt stop py utar kar ghar kab puhnchun gi? Me science ni parh sakti yahan mgr me is bar paper ni deti next year achi tyari k sath new subjects me dun gi agy ap sub jo kehty hyn”.(We have a strong communication relation so mostly all the family members talked to each other and solved the matter). So we all decided and next year I took admission in that field in which I have low interest but I think these subjects I can studied with the help of my sisters and brothers but its often comes into my mind that why rural area didn't have facilities like urban areas? whenever I thought all those things I feel pained in my heart. This pain was actually the real motivation for me that encourage me to do my bests and proved that villagers even without proper facilities could do a lot in any field. I take apart in college dramas, debates and also became a debate and drama society member of college to prove myself. In BSc, once during a meeting with my Principle Ms. Shaheen Mufti, she said: Adila beta tum agar koshish na choro to buhat upar tak jao gi” these words are just like an energy drink for me. After BSc with statistics and economics when I developed my interest in statistics and got admission in MSc Statistics but during final exams I have Jaundice problem so didn’t prepare my exam and left the MSc Statistics without freezing my admission. Then in next year I got admission in Population Sciences and it was really surprising for me when I got my 1st assignments results in which actually I did not work hard but Sir called me on dice and admire my assignments and presented me a gift of 100 rupees. This encouraged me again and I developed my interest in Population Sciences and start to work hard. Sir Wajid (my teacher) always told us about stories of different girls who faced barriers in their education; these stories always motivate me a lot because I felt that I am the blessed one gifted with a loving family who fulfill my all wishes and listen to me what I want to be. Once I shared my thoughts to Sir Wajid he replied that your family is an exceptional case because mostly the girls are not encouraged by their families, families did not support them especially in rural areas even they did not like them because the girls are for them are just like a burden. I wonder and said: no sir larki to rehmat hy bojh kesy? Sir asked: beta apki family Rehmat samjhti, me rehmat samjhta but yes there are lot of people in our society who did not wish a baby girl because they thought boys are helpful for them in older ages. After this conversation I felt the love for my family was increased in my heart and soul.

In master, I developed my interest in research because of my inspiring teachers Sir Wajjid Tahir, Sir Rizwan Sajjid, Sir Shahid, Mam Asma, Sir Sayed Ahmed Watto, Sir cheema, Mam Fauzia and Mam Iram naz. They all are very dedicated teachers, they not only delivered the lectures but also support and guide the students toward their careers and real life. As I have interested in research so it seemed me to very easy but for my fellows the thesis was a very difficult task so I helped them out in every stage of thesis, this increased my knowledge as well. By helping others in research projects I knew how to deal the data according to nature. And what types of tests are suitable in what conditions or on what type of data. So I did not forget to pay thanks to all those fellows who provide me a platform to understand the research by practice.

In reward to help others I found lot of Love and prayers from every one which is really a big reward for someone. 

After master I join University as an enumerator and worked on pre-testing of HEC survey on“Demographic and Health Profile of University Project Area” and “Anthropometric Measurements of elderly in District Gujrat” funded by HEC in collaboration with University of Gujrat. These days, I also have a second big opportunity to work as data supervisor, enumerator and data editor in the project of UNFPA“A Survey of Health and Socio-economic Conditions of Selected Low Urban Settlements in Pakistan-2011” conducted by University of Gujrat. These were really a big opportunity provided by my institution.

Then after these projects I have a little break and start to teaching in a Govt. school as volunteer because there are lack of teachers for English subjects in that time. This was an awesome experience for me to deal with children.

After a long break, one day when I opened my email I am wondering that there was acceptance letter by well known journal for my research paper which I forget after sending so submission date was missed. So once again I decided to send my thesis for publication in a journal or for a site. With this I join an online institution for personality development and to understand my religion. In that institute, I met with a new teacher Sir Mubassir Nazir who motivates me toward writing,  when he read some of my emails and answers of the questions. By his motivation I wrote my first article in Urdu which was accepted and published within days then Sir gave me a task to write books on biography of Muhammad and His companions. By the grace of Allah I wrote more than 6 books on Muhammad’s and its companion’s biography with the help of my co-authors, supervisor and team members. I also start to write articles on social and moral issues which are published in different magazines and sites. As I have the habit of dairy writing from younger ages so lot of plots and ideas getting from my dairy and convert them into articles.

But on the other hand, I did not forget my interest in social research and successfully published some of my research articles and books in different journals, sites and institutions. I also join an Australian Enterprise as a writer and area coordinator and also write some books under the institution.   

I also present some of my research papers in international conferences at Pakistan under the PAP (Population Association of Pakistan) institution. I also selected and participate in “the 6thinternational Chemistry Conference in Riyadh, Saudia Arabia held on November 2016 as a paper presenter.

Although I am from village have lack of facilities at my time but I tried to be best of me and my journey is not over yet some time I thought it’s just a beginning. 

I learned some lessons from my life that if any 1 door closed for you don’t cry or curse yourself just go ahead 100’s doors are waiting for you. Many times in the life when life pushes you down but you is the only one who found new ways to push you up. Never give up, just try your best and best will come to you may be in different ways or different sources but it come to you definitely.

Work hard without counting what you lost; work hard for getting more according to your circumstances and opportunities.

Help others in any field you have expertise, this is not helps of others but this is actually helped you out indirectly.

Share your knowledge and expertise: you get more

Respect to others, be humble and go ahead with clean heart with no evil in heart.    

At the end I did not forget to pay me heartiest thanks to my Allah for all HIS blessings and to all my teachers whose names are here in my story and to those whose names are not included. I also pay thanks to my family who always support, care and encourage me in the time of trouble and illness.

My story is a lesson for rural parents that if you support your daughter and guide her in positive way She must be shine one day. Slute to my Parents.

This story was submitted in response to You Are a Silence Breaker.

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Jill Langhus
Mar 29, 2018
Mar 29, 2018

Hi Adila. Welcome to the World Pulse community:-) Thanks for sharing your inspiring story about tenacity and gratitude. I love that your family supported and encouraged you all the way. I also love how optimistic and grateful you are.... looking forward to seeing your next story:-) Hope you have a great day!

Adila Kokab
Mar 29, 2018
Mar 29, 2018

Thanks Dear Jlanghus.
Lot of best wishes for you.
Yes I am lucky to have such family where all are support and encourage others.

Jill Langhus
Mar 30, 2018
Mar 30, 2018

You're welcome:) Thank you! Too true... Hope you have a great day!

Adila Kokab
Apr 02, 2018
Apr 02, 2018

Thanks a lot