My Journey

Sophia Atadana
Posted December 16, 2016 from Ghana

I am a Ghanaian and lives in Ghana. I am the third born of a family of seven but the first girl among three girls and four boys.Both parents are still alive and very healthy. I was born and bread in the northern part of Ghana where polygamy is a common and acceptable practice and also where the tradition of the people teaches that men are superior to women and that women are supposed to be obedient to their husbands no matter what. So for Bendoweh Foundation to come out with an initiative to break the cycle of partner abuse and to support abused women makes the people of the area think that one is just out to teach their women or wives to be disrespectful and this is the biggest challenge.

So this has made the women very scared to talk about all the abuses they go through in their relationships because they think if they do, they will be tagged as "bad wives". So they try very hard to bear the unbearable and so end up suffering terribly the consequences (the effects) since abuse is not a respecter of persons. So the Bendoweh Foundation wants to break through this and is discussing this subject in schools and in some communities already. The Foundation is hoping that through this public speeches, victims will be able to come out and talk about it and also be able to give help to others also experiencing the same thing.

The foundation will like to continue with the education, awareness creation, training and the counseling of victims and couples and also be able to extend it to more schools and communities and make fellow ups as well. This actually supports or helps the youth, both in school and out of school, couples and victims of abuse.This requires funding to get a well furnished office space outside my home with laptops,printer, photocopier and stationary and to carry out activities in the communities. Having our own vehicle too will be better and cheaper for us. I would need more training and training materials in this area and more networking or exposer.

This Foundation is born out of crisis from my own marriage. so I want to able to help other abused victims survive and be able to accomplish their life purpose and also break the cycle of abuse.

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allie shep
Dec 16, 2016
Dec 16, 2016

Congratulations on being part of the foundation. It does sound a very good idea and a way of changing things in Ghana. Anything which brings abuse of women to the attention of the world is a good thing. Allie x

Jill Langhus
Dec 16, 2016
Dec 16, 2016

Hi Adisatu111. I agree with Allie. You are so brave and strong to not only come forward with your story but to help other women in the same situation. Be the change:-)

What is the website for your foundation? I would like to follow it.

I look forward to more updates from you.

Sophia Atadana
Jan 02, 2017
Jan 02, 2017

Thanks for the nice comments. We do not have a website yet but we have a facebook page which we will be active on begining this year. The address is bendoweh foundation

Natasha L
Feb 15, 2017
Feb 15, 2017

Dear Sophia -  Thank you so much for sharing your story with.  Your writing is very clear and gives us the chance to understand the issue of partner abuse in Ghana. You have come through your own personal adversity, and have turned that suffering and struggle in to your passion to educate, create awareness, provide training and offer counselling for victims and couples, with the goal to also extend it schools and more communities.  Your dedication and strength will be a guiding light for others who are searching for understanding, freedom and hope. Keep writing!  I look forward to learning from you.

Natasha L
Feb 15, 2017
Feb 15, 2017

Hi Sophia - I am interested to know what the name of your organization means - what does Bendoweh mean in your country?  Please enlighten me!

Sophia Atadana
Feb 15, 2017
Feb 15, 2017

Hi Natasha,Bendoweh  means there is nothing impossible to God. I chose the name because God is my my only strength. Knowing where I come from, who am I to have come out with this initiative of helping abused women and breaking the cycle of abuse.

Sister Love