CONFLICT OF FEELINGS

albert_2
Posted September 26, 2019

Most of the girls have conflict of the feeling because they have been abuse by their fathers and their brothers,so like many survivors of childhood sexual abuse,don’t struggle with conflict feelings and don't have misplace of loyalty to your brothers or your father who are directly or indirectly assured you that they have special relationship,they were times that those families are kind to you.on the other hand don't felt helpless and repulsed with feelings of guilt and shame.feelings of intense dislike for perpetrator are not uncommon.However,i also heard girls says,"but i don't want to hate my father and push him out of my life."it is not easy to understand why a girls walked in thin line between blaming and rejecting her fathers and keep them in families.try to hang on to the fantasy that their caring loving fathers.

This story was submitted in response to GirlForce: Unscripted and Unstoppable.

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Tarke Edith
Sep 26
Sep 26

Dear Albert 2
Thanks for sharing this story
You know sister is really hard for one to reject his father.
As concerned fathers who have asuated their children.
It's a better pile sis but you must try to swallow just for sake of famil
Thanks for sharing dear.

Anita Shrestha
Sep 26
Sep 26

Dear Albert
Thank you for sharing , Keep it sharing in future too

Lisbeth
Sep 26
Sep 26

Hi Albert,
You are very welcome back to world pulse. Here it's about speaking up you know already. A big congrats on your first story. Your message is amazing and I relate to you very well. I Know our culture makes it difficult to reprimand a father or a father figure. However, I think a father who boast of raping the daughter is not worth to be called Dad.
It's highly time victims of abuse stand up for their own voice than hiding in the name of culture and tradition.
Thanks very much for sharing and highlighting this message.
Hope you are doing well?
Regards

Hello, dear,

Congratulations on posting your first story! That is so brave of you.

Thanks for opening up this topic. It’s hard to heal when the perpetrator of sexual violence is a father or father figure, the one who supposedly protect us from danger. That’s a huge betrayal of trust.

I think you’re right on that fantasy, a hope, that the fathers would change. It’s more on a denial of the wound, I guess.

I hope this did not happen to you. Hugs, dear. Looking forward to reading more from you.

Jill Langhus
Sep 27
Sep 27

Hi Albert,

Thanks for sharing your first story! Yes, these poor girls are in between and a rock and a hard place, for sure. Thanks for empathizing with girls/women that have been abused, for being an advocate of girls/women and for spreading awareness on this issue. How has the "relationship" between girls and their fathers most affected your life?

Hope you're having a good day! Looking forward to seeing more posts from you.

Evelyn Chioma Joseph

More strength to keep standing up for humanity.

Evelyn Chioma Joseph

Thanks for sharing your amazing stories.

Tamarack Verrall
Sep 29
Sep 29

Dear Albert,
Thank you for having the courage to write on such a difficult topic. It is a deep dilemma of the heart when a girl is abused by a father, brother or other male family member. I am glad you call for girls who have been so violated, to not hold onto guilt or shame. It is a horrible and confusing position to be in, to weigh expected loyalty to family with the reality of having been abused. Trusting one's right to a life without abuse is the most important. Men who abuse lose the right to be respected.

maeann
Oct 06
Oct 06

Helo Albert,
Welcome to World Pulse. Thank you for sharing this story. Continue to have courage in writing.

Beth Lacey
Oct 07
Oct 07

It is difficult to comprehend

IjeomaSO
Nov 12
Nov 12

The truth is that abuse transcends sexual abuse. It covers varied essence of living of which sexual abuse is just one aspect. The feeling of despondency is worse when you can not even share your story to someone because of fear of the unknown and fear of breaking family ties. Thank you for sharing Albert.

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