Life After Divorce

Dr Anita Smith
Posted July 21, 2020 from United States

Going through a divorce is life-altering and devastating. It can turn your world upside down and affect you emotionally, physically, financially, and spiritually. It can leave you helpless and hopeless, and broken and bruised. It can lower your self-esteem; it can make you feel like a victim; it can decrease your confidence; it can make you lose your identity and your mind.

Personally speaking, I know firsthand that a divorce can affect your mind, body, soul, and spirit. When I went through a difficult divorce, I experienced a lot of pain, heartache, emotional trauma, and setbacks. Deep inside my core, I literally thought that “I could not make it!” Negative voices (self-limiting beliefs; the adversary) told me that “you are a failure; you are defeated; you are bitter, frustrated, and confused; you are worthless; you will not love again; you will not survive.”

After battling with self-doubt and hearing those negative words constantly, I decided to overcome my fears, persevere through my distress and sorrow, and defeat the adversary. I made an informed decision to rise up, level up, and speak up! I took control of my life and took action to get help and become a conqueror.

God reminded me that “I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13). God turned my pain into purpose and my tears into smiles! Today, I am  fearfully and wonderfully made, and unapologetically me: confident, self-assured, and tenacious! 

Hello Beloved, I am Dr. Anita K. Smith, America’s #1 Life After Divorce Strategist. I am passionate about empowering women to become relentless, courageous, and fearless as they recover, re-ignite, and rebuild their life after divorce. You are worth it, and you can make it through your circumstances, if you just believe!

Life After Divorce is beautiful and purposeful...God is with you in the storm, and He is with you, after the pain. Take control of your life. You Can Make It!

 

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Shirin Dalaki
Jul 22
Jul 22

Anita,

Welcome to World Pulse and thanks for sharing your first story with us. I hear you...the self-doubt is the worst and I had to rise up...pick up my broken parts one by one and rebuild my life gradually but the courage and faith never failed me. I am so happy for you and what you have done for your life, you are an inspiration.

Dr Anita Smith
Jul 22
Jul 22

Hi Shirin,
Thank you for your kind words. I am glad that my story inspired you. Proud of you for having the courage to rise up and rebuild your life. You are a conqueror! Stay safe and be blessed!

Shirin Dalaki
Jul 22
Jul 22

Thank you, the same to you.

Chi8629
Jul 21
Jul 21

Hello Beautiful Sister,
How are you doing?
Trust you are safe?
Welcome to worldpluse
Congratulations on your first post . Thank you for sharing .
Iam sorry about what you have been through, iam so happy that you were able to overcome .I want to let you know that you are are amazing, you are important ,kind , precious and loved .
Keep shining beautiful .

Dr Anita Smith
Jul 22
Jul 22

Hi Chi8629,
I am doing fine and staying safe. Thank you kindly for your response, and words of comfort and encouragement. Praying that you and your family are safe. Blessings and favor to you!

Hello, Dr. Anita,

Welcome to World Pulse! I'm happy that you are here, rising up and speaking up!

You're so brave to survive a painful experience in your life. You are indeed an overcomer, and I commend you for helping women on how to live a full life after divorce.

Please keep on writing. We would love to know more about you. I hope you can connect to our global sisters and access opportunities on the Resources Page.

I'm looking forward to reading more from you. Welcome again to our growing sisterhood!

Dr Anita Smith
Jul 22
Jul 22

Hello Karen,
I am glad to be a member of the World Pulse sisterhood and connecting with many wonderful sisters from different parts of the world.

Thank you for your positive response and heartfelt words. It touched my soul. Yes, I endured a lot of pain and trauma, but I am stronger and better now. I am using my experience to help women who may face divorce or adversity in their life.

I am looking forward to learning from you and other ladies, and accessing the Resources Page. Be safe and stay strong through this pandemic.

You're welcome, dear sister! You are awesome for helping women. Please stay safe, too!

Stacie Dickson
Jul 22
Jul 22

Hi Dr Smith,
Thank you for sharing this empowering story. Divorce is never easy so I’m so glad you had the courage to do what was best for you and your future . I know this post will inspire many to take the hard step into a better life !

Dr Anita Smith
Jul 22
Jul 22

Hi Stacie,
Your message is a blessing and confirmation that I needed to speak up and share my story with women, who are facing divorce or may have already divorced. Yes, it is a painful process, but it gives you the courage to overcome it. May God continue to bless your endeavors.
Sincerely, Dr. Anita

Heather Deeth
Jul 27
Jul 27

Thank you for this powerful reminder. I am in the middle of my divorce and it is truly crushing in moments. And yes I will overcome this and I am already choosing my own path and I know deeply that it will be okay. But it is always immensely helpful to meet women on the other side! Thank you!

Dr Anita Smith
Jul 29
Jul 29

Hi Heather,
You're welcome dear sister.
I am sorry to hear that you're going through a divorce. I know that you're feeling hurt and pain from the divorce. Stay strong...be courageous...be relentless. One day when the crying stops and the healing begin, you will make it through as a conqueror. Keep the faith.