"Suffering" - why I'm a member of World Pulse

allie shep
Posted October 29, 2016 from United Kingdom

A girl or a woman suffering, in any way, in London, Lahore, Las Vegas, or Lesotho, is a cause for concern.

Especially if it's because of something a man has - or hasn't - done.

But I must admit I was pretty naive. I joined World Pulse because I read a few articles on here which pointed out gender-bias or men discriminating against us. NOW I'm horrified by some of the things I read here, some of the heart-rending stories of females suffering BECAUSE we're females.

And that is totally unacceptable.

An earthquake, a flood, a famine - all are horrible, but we can't do anything to stop them. And they affect people regardless of gender, class, age, sexuality or income.

But a man hitting, molesting, assaulting, raping, or killing a girl or woman is something we CAN stop. BY NOT LETTING IT HAPPEN IN THE FIRST PLACE.

Through WorldPulse, and other organisations, we can bring news and features to the parts of the world and the people - like me - who are unaware of much of the pain our sisters are suffering.

I lash out if a male cousin criticises my driving, and I used to get REALLY annoyed when an ex-boyfriend told me off for seeing him on the toilet! Gosh - how feeble!

Those things are NOTHING in comparison with the hardships women across the world suffer everyday.

And when I read of the lack of respect for women in some Asian countries, I just weep at how those things can happen. (I knew of some suffering in Thailand and Malaysia, but that is mild in comparison.)

My only annoyance is that men - even the few civilised men that exist - aren't reading those. Unfortunately, as we're all too well aware, men have the power to do things which we don't.

We need a day every month when men are forced to read about their brothers' outrageous practices before they are permitted to drink alcohol or make love to their women.

I don't have a partner at the moment. But when I next do have, he will familiarise himself with the horrible problems women have BECAUSE of men - or he will, we'll I'd LIKE to say he'd be receiving a visit from Lorena Bobbitt.

But I suppose that suggests that I'm advocating violence against men!

(I'm not by the way - I'm being funny!)

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Natasha L
Oct 29, 2016
Oct 29, 2016

Hi Allie -

Yes, as you say, it is one thing for women to share their stories of outrage, injustice and discrimination with each other, but men need to be educated to have awareness of these atrocities too.  In your opinion, how can we go about educating to read and raise their awareness about their brothers' outrageous practices?

There are small local movements or initiatives in many countries to educate, sensitize and mobilize men to take action on women's issues, but I do not know of ones that have a global influence.  Are you aware of any?

We can stay committed, like you, in educating our male friends and family members.


allie shep
Nov 02, 2016
Nov 02, 2016

Hi Natasha - you are very good at making me think!

Do I know of any ways in which men are being educated about this?

Not really, I suppose I was hoping that saying it would provoke people to suggest things.

Which is unfair and almost saying that I'm part of the problem, as I'm telling people what has happened and saying that men need to be told - without actually mentioning or suggesting ways.  

Personally I think education of boys is necessary - I think that one of the prime subjects that boys must be taught is "equality" - not just with women in their own country, but worldwide. Boys everywhere need to be taught that girls are their equals IN EVERY WAY. Once they understand that, things might change (says she, as if she believes it!).  

Girls, meanwhile, should be taught to speak up when they feel an injustice has been done. One of things I get in my work is women trying to sue (male) employers, yet they say "well he was sexist before but I let it go". That is doubly annoying - one for her, but one for the law, because she has accepted it once and so the man has thought it OK to do it again (that isn't justifiable in the eyes of the law, but every little thing makes it harder to win a claim). So we need to teach girls from a very young age that they are entitled to COMPLETE equality and, if necessary, must fight for it because however non-sexist a male claims to be - he isn't!

Sounds harsh, but I've yet to come across a boy or man who is genuinely non-sexist. A friend would award one a cash prize and a lifetime subscription to "The Fem". Allie x

Hina Bhaagat
Nov 21, 2016
Nov 21, 2016

That's really Amazing! :)