Save your life Not a toxic marriage, #Nasimama na yeye

When she closes that door, and walks in that cell of a house, she turns into a drowning girl in the middle of an ocean. She removes her clothes and walks to her mirror ,the only friend who knows her little  secret. She wipes her face make up off, then boom! The bruises are clear. Her body is covered by bruises and marks of older bruises. If you see her in that state you will either run or wonder, if that is the smiley strong woman you do know.

Tears roll down her cheeks, she keeps on cursing the day she met that man, she asks the mirror if it's her fault, but alas! The mirror will not answer.Then her wig falls from her head, she has terrifying marks, her hair is patched on her head, but nobody knows, apart from the little mirror she is crying before in her bedroom. 

She looks at her body, it promts her to compare her features with the ones on the photo she is holding then she realises they are two different bodies with one sole, she is skinny, tired and don't hold to any future  promises, because she doesn't know he fate in that house (prison) .

Do you know  why she can't move out?,she is trying to be strong for her kids, she doesn't  want to be judged by the community of being a single parent, she keeps praying and hoping this man will change. But for ten years, ten good years? Of such violence?  You who is reading, do you think he will change? 

A bell rings, probably  it's the monster. She dries up her tears, dresses up and runs to the door to welcome him. He has brought the kids from school, the only greeting she gets its a slap because she wasted time opening the door.the kids being terrified, run to their room and lock the door. 

She can't speak up, why? Her grandmother  taught her a man is the head of the house and you don't question him, and you commit your self to him. That doesn't work with an abusive marriage ,it happens with a man who respects you and know your worth

He forsefuly rape her, she tries screaming but he slaps her mouth, after he is done, he dresses up, leave her on the bed, places some cash on the stool beside the bed, I think is for food and walks out of the house. It's on Friday, definitely he won't come back until Monday morning. 

Then that is what  you call marriage, women let's learn walking out of abusive relationship /marriages. Let's learn to show we are suffering.Dont wear a confident face just to fit in, let the community judge you but at the end of the day your a happy woman living in peace. 

Let's stop gender abuse by sharing our fears, our sufferings,our pains,walk and if possible run out of abusive relationship, 

That story is based on what women go through, in one way or another, just to fit in and save their marriages and name. 

Lastly  digest this, will you save your marriage  or your life 

• Its Amonge from Kenya 


• I stand with her.