Let's end HIV and Aids stigmatisation.

Amonge
Posted December 1, 2019 from Kenya
Let's end stigmatisation it kills more than the virus
Let's end stigmatisation it kills more than the virus: 25years living negatively having been born by a HIV positive mother, (1/1)

Today being first December and world aids day, reminds me of that terrifying year, yes 2007.I loosed my mother out of stigmatisation, it is real and it still happens, growing up, I was looking  up to be like her, a strong woman, but I finally never grew up beside her. This woman's strength  was crushed by the community she valued, it took her to her grave, so painful. The community has a tendency of blaming the women,they Jude them without seeking other side of the story, yes, they blamed it on my mother for having  infected and killed my dad  with HIV and aids. 

Back in those days she had become the talk in every household  and of the town, whenever  we passed it was gossip ,spying eyes or strained necks just to confirm that my mum was infect with HIV and aids. I was young but I saw it, I heard everything. My mum then withdrew from her medication, those last days she locked herself in her room and cry,she would  scream  her lungs out, I would  heard her cursing the world and my dad, Ifelt her pain but I did not understand her, if she was here today when am this grown the she could have never died. Her body was full of rashes, herpes, she even  developed ulcers ,she was not eating. She grew thin so withdrawn and within a month she was fully blown. She was not the woman we once knew. 

Our house which was always full of visitors was now being isolated,many children  were warned not to eat or drink in our house, at times they ran away from me when I went playing, I never understood, but today I know the reason. They thought  I was infected. They had been warned that maibe if they touched me, the would get infected. 

Being the last child in our family, when my mum got I'll, they knew she had given birth to me positively, when she died I heard people  gossiping that I wouldn't stay for long, they said I would  die. I grew fearing and waiting for my death wich never happened, I was scared of testing my status, I couldn't  imagine  life after the test, then that day I tested, the results were negative I was not positive. My mum is and will remain the best woman, she had protected me against  being infected. Even positive parents give birth to negative babies, am that  baby, I have lived for 25years healthier and stronger. 

#i stand with anyone affected or infected with HIV and aids 

#Let's end stigmatisation  it kills more than the virus. 

This is to honour my mum, Rose Amonge. 

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Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Dec 01, 2019
Dec 01, 2019

Hello, dear Amonge,

I'm sorry to know what happened to your mom and the stigmatisation she experienced. She seemed to be a great mother because you became a wonderful and strong woman. Thank you for raising your voice on this issue. It would be great to submit this to #IStandWithHer call for stories.

Please keep up the great work! I know your mom is proud of you.

Amonge
Dec 02, 2019
Dec 02, 2019

Hello Karen,
It pains me to understand how she wend through so much pain today when am this grown, she was a great mother, strong and if she was here today then she could be so proud to be my mum.
Its my prayer stigma ends, and we shall end it definitely.
Thank you sister.

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Dec 03, 2019
Dec 03, 2019

I'm so sorry for your loss, dear sister. Yes, may this stigma end. We love you, dear. We love your mother, too. You're welcome.

Anita Shrestha
Dec 02, 2019
Dec 02, 2019

Thank you for sharing

Amonge
Dec 02, 2019
Dec 02, 2019

Thank you for reading, I pray stigma ends.

Jill Langhus
Dec 02, 2019
Dec 02, 2019

Hello Brendah,

How are you doing, dear? So sad about your mom:-( How come men never get blamed or shamed... unbelievable and sad:-( Rest in peace, dear Rose:-( I agree. Let's end stigmatization, dear.

Hope you have a good week, dear.

Amonge
Dec 02, 2019
Dec 02, 2019

Hello Jill,
Am fine thank you, the society has a tendency of demoralising women than men, it will end and it's us to end it.
May My Rose rest in peace, and may stigma end, yes it should, it kills more than the virus.
Thank you sister.

Jill Langhus
Dec 04, 2019
Dec 04, 2019

Hello Brendah, dear:-)

I'm glad you're doing fine. Yes, it it does, now anyway:-(

I agree and admire your determination, too.

You're welcome!

Hope you have a good week!

XX

Amonge
Dec 04, 2019
Dec 04, 2019

Hello Jill,
Am doing fine, thank you so much, I hope one day I achieve my dreams.
Nice day

Jill Langhus
Dec 06, 2019
Dec 06, 2019

Hello there:-)

Good to hear, dear. You will!

You, too!

XX

Corine Milano
Dec 02, 2019
Dec 02, 2019

I stand with you, Amonge, and with your mum, Rose - may she rest peacefully. I am so sorry that she had to go through this pain, and that you had to go through it too. I am grateful that you are negative, for your health, and that you are here to tell us your mum's story. Stigma is a powerful thing, and I so hope no one ever again will go through what she went through. Thank you for sharing and thank you for honoring her memory. I stand with you as you call for an end to needless stigma - it is true it is more harmful than a treatable virus like HIV.

Amonge
Dec 02, 2019
Dec 02, 2019

Hello Corine,
How are you today?,thank you for reading and standing with me, it's such a great blessing to have all of you here at world pulse.
Yes stigma kills more than the virus, and it's my prayer it ends, it ends with my mums story am trying to figure out on how to create awareness on how stigma kills, thank you sister.
Amonge.

Lisbeth
Dec 03, 2019
Dec 03, 2019

Dear Amonge,
I stand with you and with your mother. Thanks for standing up and voicing out this your experience.
We are happy you are speaking up. Take care of yourself.
Hugs

Amonge
Dec 04, 2019
Dec 04, 2019

Hello Lisbeth,
Thank you for standing with me and my mum. I fully represent her.
Am glad am able to speak up, and that I have you sisters.
Thank you.

Lisbeth
Dec 05, 2019
Dec 05, 2019

That is splendid! Take care
Hugs