Dear little child, I know it happens, and I stand with you.

Amonge
Posted December 11, 2019 from Kenya

Dear mother, am stuck into this situation because you don't know. How would you know anyway, I can't speak and move, am just Afew months old baby. I don't blame you mother for trusting people around you with my care, but mother whenever I cry during diper or pant change,listen keenly ,am crying for your help mother, they touch my private parts but I have no choice. 

Dear mother, whenever you come back, at least if not bathing my body, create time with me for minutes. Check if am OK because am not. The aunt you left me with has turned my body to war field, I get slapped whenever I pee on my clothes, is it my fault mother?am just a little  child without efforts to lift my legs, my cheeks is always pinched and slapped, you think am sick but no mother am being abused under your own roof, I have loosed my appetite  that's why my chubby body is shrinking, am not sick. 

Dear mother, would you believe uncle Abuse's me, yes, your brother. You won't know because all you value is your work, whenever your back and he sees me close to you, he looks at me harshly. How I wish you noticed those eyes. At times he gives me his phone for games and warns me not to let you know, of late he has been caring he even buys me candies, at least he care,how will I know it's wrong, if you mother has never told me what's wrong  and right. Am just four years  old. 

Dear mother, it's not my fault. Dady came into my room and found me undressing, that's when he forsefuly  threw me on the bed and raped me, my screams brought you here, why can't you seek justice for me. Why don't you stop blaming me, am just 15years ,though my hormones have overgrown my body. Am not capable of seducing a man as you claim mother, that is suppose to be my father mother. Is that why you lock me in this room, am no longer allowed to play with my friends and whenever  you remember that incident mother, the beatings I get mother. Slowly am sinking, one of these days I will die so that you can live with your husband mother. 

#today I stand with every little  child who undergo gender based violence. 

It happens and some go out untold,because the babies are too young to speak, or some die in the process. 

#being a victim of child sexual abuse, I know and I stand with all these young ones in prayers.

#to all the mothers it's your responsibility to take care and raise your children, don't just trust everyone with your  children ,at some point create time with them, ask them questions, teach then and most importantly understand and stand up for them, see justice  for them. 

Nasimama na true, it's amonge from Kenya. 

 

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Lisbeth
Dec 12, 2019
Dec 12, 2019

Hi Brenda,
I hope you are doing very well? What a sad narration of a story?
I like the way you depicted the role of motherhood in it. A mother's care, protection and love for her children.
It's just unfortunate sometimes how mother's are cocerce to believing others than their kids.
Thanks very much for sharing, it's really very nice post.
Hope you are having a good day.
Regards

Amonge
Dec 12, 2019
Dec 12, 2019

Hello Lisbeth,
Many types of violence happen to our children today because we allow it, however busy we are as mothers, we should also have time for our kids, take part in raising and knowing them too.
Am having a good day, what about you.
Thank you for reading.

Lisbeth
Dec 12, 2019
Dec 12, 2019

Exactly my point. And even believing what the child is saying.
Oh great. I am fine thanks :-)

Asaad Ali
Dec 12, 2019
Dec 12, 2019

Motherhood is very important to direct child for right way .
Thank you sister for sharing

Amonge
Dec 16, 2019
Dec 16, 2019

Dear Asaad,
Thank you for understanding, it so important the correct way, by mothers and also fathers.
Hope your having a nice time.

Asaad Ali
Dec 19, 2019
Dec 19, 2019

Yes , you are right my sister thank you .

Anita Shrestha
Dec 13, 2019
Dec 13, 2019

Thank you for sharing

Amonge
Dec 16, 2019
Dec 16, 2019

Dearest Anita,
Thank you for reading.

Kadi_lokule
Dec 13, 2019
Dec 13, 2019

This is very disheartening. This piece resonates close ot my heart because i have a daughter and i would never want her to got through the same devestating cycle that the girl in your story has. It is a lifetime scar and can never totally heal. Thank you for this poignant piece.

Jill Langhus
Dec 13, 2019
Dec 13, 2019

Hello Dear Brendah,

How are you doing, dear? Thanks for sharing your sad post and bringing awareness around child abuse. I do think it's both a mother and father's responsibility to care for children, though. All the responsibility shouldn't fall on just the mother and the mother shouldn't be solely blamed either for lack of care. I strongly believe it's a joint responsibility.

I hope you're doing well and having a great Friday, dear:-)

XX

Amonge
Dec 14, 2019
Dec 14, 2019

Hello Jill,
It's true that it's both parents responsibility. But most mothers tend to play a major role in the children's life, that's why I use her more but I don't fully blame her .yes both parents should take care of the kids.
Thank you for letting me know, I agree with you.
More love from Amonge

Jill Langhus
Dec 14, 2019
Dec 14, 2019

Hello dear,

Yes. I hear you. It just seems like the mother is always expected to handle almost everything and it just isn't right in my mind. I think it is part of the reason why there are so many problems related to GBV, socialization, and the way boy and men are raised. Wouldn't it be better if their fathers were around to be stellar role models in share in all duties and responsibilities?

I'm glad you agree, dear:-)

Hope you're doing well and having a great weekend!?

XX

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Dec 13, 2019
Dec 13, 2019

Hello, Brenda,

This is sad yet this is a reality to some households. :( I saw the news this evening about a mother who allowed her 10-year-old daughter to do sexual acts online in exchange for money. Good thing they were caught by the police and are being questioned. But really, it is sad and horrifying that these cases exist.

Thank you for raising your voice against gender-based violence, dear. Have a great weekend!

Amonge
Dec 14, 2019
Dec 14, 2019

Hello sister,
It's so horrible for children who undergo gender based violence, so painful. I hope we end it soon
Thank you for reading.
It's amonge from Kenya

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Dec 15, 2019
Dec 15, 2019

That's true, dear sister. You're welcome. Ohh, I thought you are Brenda. I copied it from Jill.

Thank you, Amonge!

Amonge
Dec 16, 2019
Dec 16, 2019

Hello karen,
Yes am Brendah Amonge.
Thank you for reading.

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Dec 17, 2019
Dec 17, 2019

Oh, yes. Thanks for the info. You're always welcome, dear. Have a great day!

Tembeng Eli-Anne Anwi
Dec 13, 2019
Dec 13, 2019

A sad reality in our communities.
Which I'm a proud survivor

Amonge
Dec 14, 2019
Dec 14, 2019

Hello strong woman,
I hope your fine, it's so sad that Child Abuse still occur in our society today.
But it's my wish It ends, it starts with us, because we know how it happens.
Much love
It's Amonge from Kenya.

Jap Mouki Christelle Alexandra
Dec 13, 2019
Dec 13, 2019

Hi Amonge,
I couldn't imagine what young girls go through until I had a one on one counselling session with class 5 and 6 girls of a school in Yaoundé-Cameroon. Each of these girls relate with the stories you just enumerated. I discovered a case of incest and I felt so sorry for the little 9 year old girl. I am working on an action plan for this , so that her mother who is ignorant of this because of her busy work , can understand what her daughter is going through.

Amonge
Dec 14, 2019
Dec 14, 2019

Dear leader,
How's you today? Yes it happens and am grateful you understand. I thank you for counseling those young girls too. And I stand with you in finding justice for that young girl, your among the few great people we have left in the world, keep on with that spirit.
Go girl
It's Amonge from Kenya.