#IStandWithHer// Promoting Personality Development and Good Grooming

Personality development is the relatively enduring pattern of the thoughts, feelings, and behaviours that distinguish individuals from one another. Psychology today holds that personality emerges early and continues to change in meaningful ways throughout the lifespan. 

In this Commemoration of the #16th Day Activism Against Gender-based Violence, I am most glad to share to my fellow sisters around the world my own little way of uplifting unfortunate sisters and children who've been a subject of violence.

I am a sister, a daughter, a mother myself, and an educator by profession. In my three decades of existence, I can attest that there's no such thing as a pot of gold at the end of every rainbow...rather, a pandora box there might be....the phenomenal box which was full of sinning evils and wrongdoings yet there's that one thing that is just waiting to be unleashed... HOPE.

LIFE'S never will be easy... An ancient old history that's traceable way back to the very first man and woman, Adam and Eve who've been punished to stay away from the garden of Eden and were made to use their minds and hands to make their very first bread, the fruit of hard labor and sweat.

With great faith in the Lord and thyself, everything's will just eventually fall into the right places as what I've always mentioned during a series of talks.. 

Violence is not a stranger that I can't dreadfully look in the face. I've got my own fair share of it when it was the least that I expected, having been reared in a not well-to-do yet God-fearing family where laughter is our ultimate viand amidst coarse NFA rice. (You may refer to my first introductory post.)

Anyway, crying a river over an already spilt milk is definitely not my kind of personality, being Aries and Dragon by nature. Instead, those are my ultimate springboard for something better, thus motivating me to pour out the best in me instead. Same precise thing that I definitely want my sisters around the globe to feel and do.

Now, this is my story. 

A year and a half ago, I was invited by a known beauty pageant handler to orient a group of male and female candidates about Personality Development and Good Grooming. I was at first aghast to say YES yet also reluctant to say NO. At the back of my mind, my married life's story is not a secret that I know everybody gossipped and talked about. So that leaves me rather the very least resource person to be talking about such topic. Yet the burning desire to turned my whimpers into one solid voice is just way too strong. I know there's roam for me to be a one great speaker and this is my ultimate moment to start such! 

Hence, that was then the start of everything! I felt the same adrenaline as if I was a high school stud who brought home some gold medal and a cash prize after having won the first place of a declamation contest. I talked effortlessly just like a college bud who became a master of ceremony in every called occasions. The memory of myself winning titles onstage on particular pageantry came rushing back. Indeed this is me, the real me, the thing that I am greatly made for, to talk.... To talk, and bring one great VOICE. That was the greatest realization that hits me.

Thus, this started my journey... 

With the surge of confidence being alive in my veins again, I simply just can't refuse to be talking more about Personality Development and Good Grooming in every invitations that I was asked to. Colleagues and friends in the teaching profession used to invite and make me as one of the resource speakers in lieu with that topic. Which to my heart's delight, is as well being done by me on a group of students, children and women. 

It's just recently then that I had my recent talk about Personality Development and Good Grooming, yesterday in fact, in the Shelter of Women here in our city. My face is actually not new to some of them because clients do come and go after seeking solace for a few weeks or months yet the wonderful staff sisters as well Ma'am Carmella, the shelters head is way too accommodating every time I dropped a hello in some of my spur of the moment visits. 

At first, the women were just eyeing me as if testing waters, I triumphantly gained their winning smiles though when I started mimicking voices of national artists like Angel Locsin, Kris Aquino, Mommy Dionesia, Boy Abunda and even Manny Pacquiao, (a newly discovered talent that made me one amongst the 27 star hunt finalists in Samar and Leyte provinces), which astonished and left them begging for more, that was then I sang to them in a modulated JAYA and JESSA SARAGOZA voice. They were shrieking with delight and to my extra joy as well. 

It was the time then that I plunged and stressed the importance of personality development as well as good Grooming. And left them a good thought that I myself came to ponder a long time ago, " What particular thing/s that you can do in which others cannot?" A penny for some good thought indeed. 

They all bade with a hearty goodbye as well as with an invitation for me to attend to their Christmas Party in which I am most excited as well to join because it's a great time for me to showcase once again my voice prowess of those famous celebrities that I used to voice impersonate with. As they say, everything that starts well will eventually ends well. 

​​​​​I went home with the purest SMILE and with a lightest HEART. 

It never felt too good to give more cheers to beaming faces rather than grudge. The world is always a better place to live with, if given the best attitude to deal with it, and as long as we put God in the midst.

Thank you for reading my story. 

​​​​​​May our God blesses you our sisters around the world. ❤️❤️❤️