ARE AVERAGE INDIAN WOMEN SHY SHAKY OR SCARED ?

Anisha Dutta
Posted November 6, 2019 from India

Are Average Indian Women Shy, Shaky or Scared?                      

                                                                                                               Anisha Dutta

 

The Title may seem ridiculous. Factually Women are neither shy, nor shaky nor scared. Indian Society wishes and compels average women to act shy, shaky or scared. ‘Shyness’ is considered to get associated with modesty of a woman, which is a stupidity.

   Compared to Men, Women are better sex being kind and compassionate by nature. But as women are physically weaker sex, they ate compelled to restrict themselves from free movement under pressure of male dominated society. In India any girl from adolescence stays afraid of sexual abuse. They are scared because of brutality of wicked males. Otherwise they are free-minded and brave. ’Fear’ is not at all an instinct of woman, so that any such stigma could be attached to women.

      In India, from very childhood a girl is trained to be back at home within scheduled time not late at night. She is not allowed to go anywhere any time like boys. On emergency she should be escorted. She is criticised to break the norm of wearing traditional dresses. A girl is put in strict enclosure of rows of fences with lots of prohibitions. A girl is taught to fear outer world. Now a days, parents are scared to let young daughters move freely as day by day crime and violence against women are increasing. Solution lies on the fundamental concept ‘Educate the boys to behave good honouring girls.’

Indian heritage instructs a girl always to be polite not raising voice but to surrender and sacrifice. The idea is that a beautiful family could be built up only by selfless service of a woman. In that case woman dedicating her life without self-care will be destroyed. Modern civilization will declare ‘Most beautiful family will be built up by joint service of Men and Women, not by sacrifice of wife or mother or sister or daughter.’      

   After a certain age naturally, a girl becomes attractive to a boy. Society has put barriers on girls to avoid sexual abuse or rape outraging modesty of women. Society thinks women should be restricted but don’t think that men should be controlled. Problem is not the free movement of women, but the real problem is the atrocity of men. Men are to be trained to act and interact proper paying due respect to women.

     Traditional Hindu Proverb ‘Shyness is an ornament of a woman’ warns a woman not to be bold and loud. Male chauvinism declares ’Courage of woman invites danger in society. How? A woman is endangered by attack of devils. Rapists have licence to attack women at any opportune moment, so women should be imprisoned! In India rapists are hardly punished. On contrary responsibility of crime goes to helpless victim. If a woman behaves shy, scared devoid of courage, adamant arrogant man gets the advantageous status to dominate.

      FEAR does not reside in minds of women, but it exists in surroundings. Now women are progressing achieving higher education, availing of new working opportunities, getting more and more exposures. Automatically darkness of outer world is getting removed. Stepping out of domestic arena women are now facing broad spectrum. Her venture should be smooth to attain her goal not to be oppressed or suppressed by abuses or glass ceiling.

    A woman should be provided a safe and secured society. All Men are not tormentors or rapists and a single Man should not be a rapist or abuser. A Perfect Gentleman is polite, courteous, courageous and compassionate and pays respect to woman. Abusers in working places are not uncommon. Yet good co-workers and colleagues must outnumber the wicked guys. Nice Men should also raise voice if a Woman be found to be tortured.

     Since Co-Education is continuing, unnecessary fear of interaction with opposite sexes is driven out. Co-education is the prime prop where boys and girls grow up simultaneously as competitors, friends with genuine fellow feelings. From childhood boys should be trained to respect and help the weaker sex. Men are physically strong to protect and support women not to overpower. Both the sexes should advance cooperating and assisting each other. They may be contestants but surely not opponents.

     In family, study-circle, working place or in any social field JOINT JOURNEY with GENDER EQUITY is mandatory for successful progress in Human Civilization.

    

  

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Basudha Modak
Nov 07
Nov 07

So true,at the same time I have always felt that even though men made the rules,it is always other women that forces us to follow them,or face the consequences .Hardly surprising that even with good education girls can't date to think free and act free.

Anisha Dutta
Nov 08
Nov 08

Yes. Right you are. Still most Women think themselves as followers of Men. Few percentages raise their own voices. Firstly most lack in self-confidence. Even being firm and confident educated independent women are also bound to surrender themselves
on account of social prohibitions. Regarding physical assault, if a woman is victim, she is helpless. So? A woman can think or act free only when gender equity will be admitted by Men and Men will not try to overpower Women.

Hello, Anisha,

I love this article. I think this is one powerful message, "Society thinks women should be restricted but don’t think that men should be controlled. Problem is not the free movement of women, but the real problem is the atrocity of men. "

Too often women adjust, but society forgets to put limits on men as well. Thank you for raising your voice on this topic. Although I could say that this practice is not isolated in India. There are same beliefs in our country as well.

Anisha Dutta
Nov 08
Nov 08

Right you are. All over the world, mostly men are considered as human beings of higher status. But in India, gender inequity is so problematic that sexual abuses and violence against women are committed by men on the concept that they have sole right to do so.
Blessing. Go ahead erecting your head.

Hello, dear. It's truly terrible when violence against women is seen as men's right. It makes me puke just thinking about it.
Thank you for raising your voice. Keep it up!

Jill Langhus
Nov 08
Nov 08

Hi Anisha,

How are you doing? Thanks for sharing your post. I agree that boys and men need to be socialized and educated to respect their female counterparts. I also think that worldwide victims need to stop being blamed for crimes and that the perpetrators need to start getting penalized for their crimes and thus having to take responsibility for them. It's a big problem.

You may want to consider submitting this story for the current story awards, or submitting another one:
https://www.worldpulse.com/raise-your-voice/istandwithher

Hope you're doing well and that you have a great weekend!

Anisha Dutta
Nov 08
Nov 08

Thank you for your comments in favor of my feelings. Indian culture teaches women to
follow their husbands, serving and obeying. Mostly, an Indian Man thinks himself as the Head of the Family and his wife is bound to act only under his instruction. Now the girls are equally educated and fully concerned about her human rights. So it's difficult for Men to overpower Women. Women are better sex but weaker in physique. Frustrations in Wicked Men's world are resulting in violence against Women. This group of criminals in India easily escape without punishment. For this reason in India crimes against women are increasing day by day.

Jill Langhus
Nov 08
Nov 08

You're welcome!

Yeah, that's not working for anyone:-( I like to think there are good and bad in both the genders, personally. It works toward a more egalitarian, healthy, balanced, and loving future existence for all of us:-) Agreed that the balance is way off as a lot of us are working to regain the balance that has been long since lost. I have a lot of hope, though, that a lot of good things are happening and that it's achievable.

Anisha Dutta
Nov 08
Nov 08

Sure. Numbers of Good Gentlemen are larger than that of Wicked Men. Problem lies in the outlook of male chauvinism and administration. If the criminals get immediate punishment, rate of crimes is sure to diminish. But firstly the society favors Males . Secondly tormentors think that they have the right to torture women. Thirdly Good Men do not raise voices but keep themselves aloof from disturbances. Lastly most important is, Police and Court don't cooperate rather try to harass the victim.

Jill Langhus
Nov 09
Nov 09

Yes, it most definitely doesn't help. I hear you!

Anisha Dutta
Nov 10
Nov 10

I am senior citizen. Hope young generation to come up with solution.
Blessing

Jill Langhus
Nov 11
Nov 11

I see. It's great that you're raising awareness around these customs and challenges, though, and perhaps you will be part of the solution, dear:-)

Anisha Dutta
Nov 11
Nov 11

Thanks for support n appreciation. Hope the solution soon comes up.

Jill Langhus
Nov 11
Nov 11

You're very welcome! Me, too:-)

Anisha Dutta
Nov 11
Nov 11

My email anishadutta53@gmail.com
If you wish, you can email me.
Best wishes n Love.

Jill Langhus
Nov 13
Nov 13

Okay, dear. You can private message me, too, if you like. I don't feel comfortable adding my email address on the forum.

Hope you're doing well, and having a great week!

XX

Anita Shrestha
Nov 08
Nov 08

Yes dear

Beth Lacey
Nov 10
Nov 10

Thanks for posting this

Anisha Dutta
Nov 10
Nov 10

I am senior citizen and not capable to to act hard. My effort is restricted only to voice raising. I hope young generation will come up with concrete solution.

maeann
Nov 14
Nov 14

Hi Anisha,

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I agree with what you said and I quote: Men are physically strong to protect and support women not to overpower. I hope that men understand that.

Anisha Dutta
Nov 14
Nov 14

Thanks maeann to appreciate. You have understood and agreed with me. But how to make understand Men the fact. Society is to be built with equal contributions of both sexes. As women are physically weak, Men have no right to torture using this facility bestowed by Nature but to protect them by their strength.