My Gift from God

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi
Posted October 15, 2019 from Uganda
My Heartbeats
My gift from God with her father and cousin.

My Dear Daughter,

I never imagined that I would ever be a mom. Looking at the way my mother sacrificed everything for us when we growing up seemed like so much responsibility for one person. It terrified me so much because I wanted to be a good mom, a perfect mom. The only school that teaches us about motherhood is the school of experience.

After I married your father, it took us a while before we were able to conceive and this was because I had a hormonal imbalance that needed to be treated. We were lucky that the doctors were good and after several tests they detected the problem.

I remember when I found out that I was expecting, I was so excited. I didn’t know what sex it was going to be, until almost the second last scan when the radiologist told us that we were expecting a girl. I remember I had sleepless nights looking for a perfect name that would describe our first born daughter. When I found the name, your father was not very excited because he thought that many people would not pronounce it right and that you would be bullied in school because of your name.

“Donata” means a gift from God and you were indeed a gift from God. I had many doubts on whether I was ever going to be a mother and God blessed us with you. You were a strong and persistent baby and that says a lot about your character. I remember when the labour pains started, I had no idea that they were labour pains. The first scan showed that you were to be born on the 25th of July but you decided that was too far and you arrived on the 10th of July. I was in labour from 6am up to 7: 15pm when you arrived in a unique way. The labour pains felt like cramps and no one believed I was in labour.

Being a first time mother I had never experienced labour pains and didn’t know what was happening, until I felt so pressure pushing downwards and that is when I was rushed to hospital and as soon we reached the labour ward you arrived. So my dear Donata your spirit and character is very strong. I can see a leader in you, you are very beautiful, intelligent, determined, loving and caring. I know you will always look out for your siblings. What we didn’t have God gave you and you will always be our gift from God. 

The dreams we have for you are so many. We want you to be a God fearing girl and you have showed us how you love the Lord. You always remind us about Bible study and what Jesus says in the bible about good children. I want you to be an all rounded and a grounded person, someone who everyone aspires to be like. I see the way you lead your friends and give instructions.

My dear daughter the world is a tough place and I can see you have a very strong character that will transform the world. Always be respectful and mindful of others, never look down on others. Always help those who are disadvantaged no matter the situation.

I want you to live to your fullest potential, don’t let negativity hold you down. Always raise up and keep you head up high. It will not be an easy journey but knowing the cloth you are cut from, I know you will always be up there. Have friends who have your best interests at heart, invest time in your family and friends because that is the only way to build, maintain and nurture relationships that will lead you to success.

Always remember that you a special, you’re a star that never stops shining. You are the future and you should always make sure that you lead by example and always lift someone up. Never push or hold people down no matter the difference in culture or opinion. Circumstances change people but that should never affect you. Always be you, be who you are on the inside. Never be a hypocrite but always stand your ground and always speak out what is on your mind. You can never be wrong but you will many times have a difference in opinion and that should not affect your confidence or self-esteem.

I don’t know what the future holds for you and your siblings but I can only pray for the best. Do not try to be someone else, we are so proud of you and love the way you have become so creative in everything that you do. The way you built a house where you can spend time with your sisters and friends was quite interesting. We love you all to the moon and back and we want you to always love each other because before anyone else you have only each other.

Donata you a special girl, very intelligent, beautiful, artistic, loving and caring with a high spirit. I know there are days that you are low but before we can pick up you, you always pick yourself up and move on. The world is waiting for you and your ideas.

Be blessed my dearest daughter. We love you and will always love you and be here for you and your sisters.

 

This story was submitted in response to Supporting Our Girls.

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maeann
Oct 15
Oct 15

Hi Anita,

This is so touching, a wonderful letter for your daughter.

She is blessed to have you as a Mother.

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi

Thank you Maeann for your kind words.
Have a blessed day.

Lisbeth
Oct 16
Oct 16

Dear Anita,
Thanks for sharing your letter for a daughter with us. It's an amazing letter. Yes it's a dark world but I pray for your daughter to over come them. How old is she? Hug her for me.
Regards

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi

Hi Lisbeth,
Thank you for your kind words. My daughter is 9years. Will deliver the hug for sure.
Stay blessed.

Jill Langhus
Oct 16
Oct 16

Hello Dear Anita,

How are you doing? What a lovely letter to your daughter. Thanks so much for sharing. I love her name, too:-) Very beautiful and appropriate, too. Tell us more about her house:-) I want to see it!

Did you see my letter to my Little Soul? You may be interested:-)

Hope you have a great week!

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi

My dear sister Jill,
Thank you so much for your kind words. I will share the pictures of the house soon. And I read your letter to the little one, it was so beautiful. Thank you for pouring out your heart.
Have a lovely week

Jill Langhus
Oct 18
Oct 18

Hello Dear Anita:-)

You're very welcome! Oh, good. Thanks for reading! I wanted to make sure you had seen it!

Hope you have a great weekend, dear:-)

XX

Tarke Edith
Oct 16
Oct 16

Hello Anita
Thanks for sharing this precious letter to your daughter with us
Let her be a blessing to you sister

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi

Hello Edith,
Thank you so much for your kind words. She is truly a blessing.
Have a blessed day.

Anita Shrestha
Oct 16
Oct 16

Dear
Anita
Thank you for sharing, it is model for us too

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi

Hi Anita,
Thank you so much. Have a lovely day.

Hello, sis Anita,

What a lovely letter to write to Donata. It made me tearful. I agree motherhood is quite terrifying and fulfilling at the same time. As long as you want the best for your daughter that already makes you a great mother. I love the photo you shared.

Please hug dear Donata to us. Yes, she is God's gift. It doesn't matter if the world is less welcoming to girls. With you as her mother, she will make it great whatever her calling will be.

Thank you for sharing this with us. You are such a gifted writer. Hope you have a great day.

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi

Hi Karen,
Thank you so much for your kind words. I will surely send Donata your regards.
Have a blessed day.

You're welcome, dear. That would be great! Have a blessed day, too!

Stella Paul
Oct 17
Oct 17

Dear Anita

There is only one photo in this story, but as I read, a few dozen images jumped out in front of me as I could imagine moments after moments of love, joy, excitement, worries and wisdom of a mother. May Donata be a gift of God not just to you, but to the entire world! Big love, Stella

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi

Hi my dear sister Stella,
Thank you for your kind words. I wanted to add more pictures but I was sending from my phone. I will surely send her all your wishes.

Have a blessed day

Jill Langhus
Oct 18
Oct 18

What a lovely comment, dear Stella:-)

Tamarack Verrall
Oct 17
Oct 17

Dear Anita,
What a precious letter to your wonderful daughter. The photo too shows such love and happiness with everyone in your family. How lucky your Donata is to have such a wise and deeply caring mother who sees her abilities and gifts so clearly.

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi

Thank you so much Tam for your encouraging words. She is such a blessing to us all. Have a lovely day.

Jacqueline Namutaawe

Hey Anita hope Donata has already read this story. It's beautiful and inspiring hope she grows up to be transformational woman.

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi

Hi Jacqueline,
Thank you so much for your comments. Donata sends her regards. Thank you so much and be blessed.

Lisbeth
Oct 17
Oct 17

This is so inspiring my dear. Thanks very much for sharing.
Regards

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi

Thank you Lisbeth. Have a lovely day.

ANJ ANA
Oct 17
Oct 17

Dear Anita,
Thank you for sharing your experience, It was ditto to mine :) :) , I was 22 when my daughter born, I was also not aware that it was a labour pain hahaha because my daughter was also born before 20 days the due date doctor has given. It sounds funny when I remember those days, but at the same time, how vulnerable those days. I sympathy myself for being so naive and innocent that time and wish i could return those days a love and care myself lot :) :) .
anyways, those were the moments <3 <3 <3

please convey my warm love to adorable Donata
Love and regards,
anjana

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi

Hi Anj,
Thank you so much for your response. I also sit and remember my labour experienced and just laugh out loud. Sometimes it is so hard to explain to anyone. Thanks for sharing your experience as well.
Stay blessed

Olutosin
Oct 17
Oct 17

You are blessed to have each other my sister.
Thanks for being the best mom to a deserving daughter.

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi

My dear sister Olutodin,
Thank you so much for your kind words. Have a lovely day.

efe
Oct 18
Oct 18

What a beautiful love letter

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi

Thank you my dear sister Efe. Have a blessed day.

Rosylyne Nabaala
Oct 18
Oct 18

I thank God and I'm happy for you and your daughter, children are gift from God cheers.

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi

Thank you dearest Rosylyne. Have a blessed day.

ashton_madigan
Oct 24
Oct 24

Dear Anita,

What a beautiful letter to your daughter! She is a gift to your family and the world around her. I hope her spirit continues to shine. Bless you!

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi

Thank you so much Ashton for your kind words. She is truly a blessing. Thank you and have a great weekend.

mbennett
Oct 24
Oct 24

A touching love story to your daughter. Thanks so much for sharing.

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi

Thank you so much mbennett.

SeemaKhandale
Oct 25
Oct 25

I'm really happy for you both

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi

Thank you so much Seemakhandale. Stay blessed

Anum Shakeel
Oct 30
Oct 30

Thanks for sharing, love for your daughter :)