When boss proposed me..........................................

Anita Shrestha
Posted September 12, 2019 from Nepal
Aware to girl about sexual harassment in village
Writer with village girl

 

When I was 19 years old aged innocent girl, I passed ISc forestry. Being poor economic background of family, I had to do job but I must leave home and go to remote and away for getting forestry related jobs. Therefore, generally, people used to say that forestry is a hard job for women but I didn't believe it and I thought always positive. Meantime I came to know a job vacancy in very remote area which was 14 hours long drive distance from capital city Kathmandu and Kathmandu is located 8-hour drive distance from my home. Anyway, due to my family situation I applied for job, and went there for interview by night bus. I reached there after 14 hours at 1:00 pm. I was so tired due to long drive but immediately I went to the office which called me for interview of the vacant post for contact. Head of the office called me after 5:00 pm to contact him. I went the office little bit earlier to meet him after the office time. He proposed me for night stay at the office guest house which was located in office premises. Therefore, I put my bag in a room of the guest house and managed to all things there. One support staff of the office called me at 5:00 pm and said to come down as the head was waiting for me. In January usually dark happens quite earlier than other seasons so that at 5:00 it was little darkening. Then, I went to down with a bit fear in my mind so I stayed outside whereas the head (boss) was standing inside the door. He started to talk me indirectly to fulfill his physical desire and he said me that he would give questions prepared for tomorrow exam if I accepted his propose. I became so afraid and I looked outside and prayed to be somebody there to support me if anything happened from the boss. Therefore, I felt unsecured and my heartbeat was so fast. Then, I prayed God to save my life. It was being much dark as if nothing could see in front. He continued talk giving many examples name of past of many beautiful girls they fulfilled his demand so that girls got many opportunities, scholarship, and promotion in senior post. Look! Those girls are in the USA due to his support. Look! those girls are in senior post due to his grace. Therefore, he said," Take opportunity, this is a golden opportunity for passing tomorrow exam. Please come inside and see the questions in the computer. I will show you questions and guide you how to answer it.”

Few people had access to computer in those day in Nepal. Therefore, I had no idea of computer operation but I had heard that desk top could not open without electricity power. There was load shading (power cut) at that time so that I was sure the computer was not in operation and I did not enter in the room. Meantime he became so angry and said “What types of nonsense girl you are, as I want to give opportunity but you didn't agree my proposal.” Then I became so fear and suddenly I said “I will come later because now I am so hungry, I need to go to hotel for eat somethings.” Saying that I ran to hotel quickly which was nearby the office. Luckily, at the hotel, I met one senior sister whom I knew and who had also come with her husband and a little baby for the interview of same position for which I applied. Then I said to her all the conversion happened with the boss and she said me to stay with her that night. Coincident, there was double bed in her room. When I entered to her room, a support staff of the office came and called me again. He said “The boss has called me.” Then I became so fear again and looking my gesture, the sister angrily said to the support staff "Anita will not come to the office, she will stay with us.” Then, the staff shouted and said " I don't know, what happens to you if my boss became angry''. In this way, I saved my life from the notorious boss in the night in unknown new place. Then, in the next morning, I returned home without attending interview. Still, the boss is a senior position of a reputed organization of Nepal, and he has a great name and fame, but I hate him in his duel controversial image to the society.

This story was submitted in response to GirlForce: Unscripted and Unstoppable.

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Hello, Anita,

You are so brave to open this incident to us here. Thank you for sharing your story. You are a wise woman. It's a great thing you listened to your instincts and found a way to escape. It's sad to think of how many women became victims of this man. Thank you for speaking up.

Anita Shrestha
Sep 13
Sep 13

Dear Karen
Thank you for encouraging me, after seeing many story in world pulse, I remembered past events sothat I wrote.

Hello, Anita,

You're welcome. Yes, that's how it is on World Pulse. As we read stories from our sisters we are compelled to share our own, too. :) It's great to be able to do that here because this is a safe space. :)

DrSpirit
Sep 13
Sep 13

Hello Anita,

My heart goes out to you for dedicating your time and energy to get your degree and then to have been treated so disrespectfully. His behavior is common in different industries. We as women must stick together. We must get into corporate positions to help other women succeed in business.

Thank you for sharing.

Anita Shrestha
Sep 14
Sep 14

Yes, DrSpirit
I am supporting now women in the case of violence.

DrSpirit
Sep 15
Sep 15

Great Job Anita.

Lisbeth
Sep 13
Sep 13

Dear Anita,
Give me hi five for your bravery. I hope you are on your way to the other young girls to follow your footsteps. I am very proud of you.
Have a great weekend.

Juliet Acom
Sep 14
Sep 14

Hi Anita,

Thank you for sharing this heartbreaking story with us. I am glad to hear that you were not compromised though its sad that many girls have fallen victim of this "boss".

Your experience is a sad reality that happens even in my country and through this many desperate girls I have seen are now victims of HIV/AIDS and unwanted pregnancies.

Were you able to finaly get a job? Do you have some ideas of how this man can be held accountable for his actions?
I wish you all the best with this story submission.

Have a blessed weekend.

Anita Shrestha
Sep 14
Sep 14

Thank you Juliet. When I returned from there after not giving interview, then I became so frustrate seeing men behave. Then, about around 2-3 month I felt in depression. I stayed doing nothing. Then again, one job open near my place so I applied and got job in another office, but in that office there was provision of Gender focal person. That Gender focal person strictly raised issue about women violence, therefore, it made me easy to do job. Therefore, my career improved.

Beth Lacey
Sep 24
Sep 24

That sister was your angel

Anita Shrestha
Sep 24
Sep 24

Thank you dear

HusnaMurad
Sep 25
Sep 25

Great to know your story how you saved yourself from that evil one ! Women should be wise to protect themselves from the evil ones.God gave us that strength to protect us.Go ahead sister !
Love & blessings to you , Husna

Anita Shrestha
Sep 25
Sep 25

Thank you dear for encouraging me. we need to encourage each other. Otherwise we could not alive