‘Kumli’ was a suicide case due to Family and Social violence- My villager case of Nepal

anita shrestha
Posted October 10, 2018 from Nepal

All people of my villagers ridiculed her due to she has disorder in her backache. Her backache had big cyst (Kumli) about football size from her birth. Therefore, everybody said her ‘Bad looking, bad girl and unlucky girl’. She has dream of marriage to handsome guy but due to great ceast in backache she compel to bow down her body. Even village  children also joked her. Therefore, she felt more humiliation and powerless. Even in the house also everybody said due to her bad work in the previous life she got that types of body.  Therefore, she was violated from home, youth, children and everybody in the society. And every body said Kumli, Kumli, Kumli..........instead of calling in her name Sakuntala.

Gradually, Shankuntala showed aggressive behavior  and she became mad. And when everybody ridiculed her she became so furious and she hit every body by throwing stone.

At the last she became mad and wept loudly. Even she bit her mother, brothers and neighbours. Initially as a neighbor she loved me very much because I was 4 years old and she always bathed to me, clothing to me and made me fashionable girl. But after mad, she became more furious to everybody. Therefore, her mother and brother kept her in the one room locking from outside. She could not permit to go outside. As a child, I could not understand anything about that why such things happended her. But now I remembered due to social violence she became in a such condition. In that time , I remembered only small things but now I analysed if she were not ridiculed by anybody. She never showed such types of behavior. I saw that many times she jumed down from window for suicide. Finally, when she was in banned in the one room as a home jail, she cut door by her   and went to river and did suicide. Her dead body was found after only 12 days about 15 KM far from where she suicide did. Therefore, negative mind set people compelled to make woman as change as mad. Therefore, positive awareness should be provided in village level, how to act to women, disable and poor people. Society also doesn’t understand other heart. How to react other, not need to dominate. Small things need to change by society by using appreciate inquiry tool. Otherwise more and more women will do suicide. I wanted to put her photo but I had not photo of her because that time photo camera was not in village. Therefore, when I aware about gender case and woman sensitivity case then I always remembered that case. If I was in this present condition, I encouraged her and saved out from suicide case. I heartily express my condolence to society victim woman Sakuntala.

This story was submitted in response to The Future of Security is Women .

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Basudha Modak
Oct 10, 2018
Oct 10, 2018

one more incident of how society is dealing with anything that is not the norm.I have a special needs daughter , and the ostracism i faced from my own ,as a mom has been real. I can connect what compelled her to take this drastic step.. She needed another strong woman to be with her.As a mom i am doing that for my daughter.

Anita Shrestha
Sep 18
Sep 18

Thank you dear

Jill Langhus
Oct 10, 2018
Oct 10, 2018

Hi Anita,

Thanks for sharing your sad story about this poor girl. I can see why she ended up taking her own life:-( I totally agree that sensitization toward people like this girl is needed in society so people are kinder and more compassionate.

Good luck with your story submission.

Anita Shrestha
Sep 18
Sep 18

Thank you dear

Jill Langhus
Sep 18
Sep 18

You're welcome:-)

Beth Lacey
Jan 18
Jan 18

Such a sad story. It is good that your heart sends you in the right direction.

Anita Shrestha
Sep 18
Sep 18

Thank you dear

leila Kigha
Jul 11
Jul 11

such a sad outcome.
society has such a wrong way of responding to what they consider "unnatural"
we have been educated to think we have a mastery of what is acceptable and what is not and tis education is what has let us to silently kill our fellow humans.
if only she felt love and acceptance... would have been a different ending.

Anita Shrestha
Sep 16
Sep 16

Great for sharing by myself and saw after one year.

DrSpirit
Sep 16
Sep 16

Hello Anita,

Thank you for sharing your story. Perhaps there will be people that are transformed by understanding how they may impact others with their words.

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Abundant Blessings, Dr Liz

Anita Shrestha
Sep 18
Sep 18

Thank you dear

DrSpirit
Sep 18
Sep 18

My Pleasure. Have a Great Day.

Anita Shrestha
Sep 19
Sep 19

Same to you