My Superwoman

Anita Kebila
Posted March 20, 2019 from Cameroon

Most times when I want to seek inspiration, I don't have to look out through the window or go searching far away. My inspiration is always  within me. Yes! I'm talking about my mother. The toughest and bravest woman I know. A widow and single mother who has seen it all through thick and thin. I call her my "King".   

 Let me tell you a little story....          

About nine years ago, our family home got burnt. Every single thing we owned got consumed by fire. My mother's investments went down in just one night. She wailed and wailed. Yet she picked up and moved on.

Two years on, my father passed away. Asides mourning, there was this cruel cultural initiation awaiting her. Tradition demanded that when a woman lost her spouse, after the burial and celebration, she was obliged to go through the rites and initiations of widowhood. This meant, shaving her hair, chanting incantations, taking oaths, taking spiritual baths at a stream, getting rubbed with mud and palm oil. Getting cuts with a blade on some of her body parts and the list goes on. These acts were indeed too harsh for anyone fresh in mourning. But that was tradition's demand so no one cared.

When it was time for the traditional rites and initiations to be performed, my mother stood up and refused to give in. Being a staunch Christian and an elder of the church, she said her faith and tradition had no link. Hence, she could not adhere to cultural demands. Her resistance came as a big blow on the faces of observers of tradition. It equally raised brows especially because of her gender.  She had village natives constantly coming at her. Some trying to convince her to reverse her decision, others warning her on the consequences of her resistance. But she took the bold step and stood her grounds and she succeeded in  sailing through.      

Flash forward to a few years later, she has moved on. She rejected self-pity and continued to breadwin her family as a dual parent. She went on to build a house after loosing her first house in fire and even got a promotion at her job among other achievements. Women in the community look up to her as a source of inspiration and encouragement. She counsels married couples too. Through her, I have learnt to use my voice to ignite change.                                      Indeed she is a "Superwoman".

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Corine Milano
Mar 20
Mar 20

Wow, Anita - this is beautiful. Thank you for sharing this tribute to your mother, your inspiration! She indeed seems like a strong and powerful woman, and how great that she has raised YOU! Another super woman, using your voice to ignite change! Happy to having you as a part of World Pulse!

Mar 21
Mar 21
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Anita Kebila
Mar 21
Mar 21

Thank you Corine. We must continue to celebrate women like her all around the world. She is indeed a powerful woman.

SIMON MUREU
Mar 21
Mar 21

I am now tired of traditions which destroys the heart of beholder--good telling

Jill Langhus
Mar 21
Mar 21

Hi Anita,

What a great story. Thanks for sharing. I'm glad you returned to World Pulse to share your powerful story. Your mom sounds like an amazing woman, and role model for you and many others in your community, and the world for that matter. I wish there were more of her:-)

You may want to consider submitting your story for the current story call, "Change starts with a story?" If so, this is the link:
https://www.worldpulse.com/en/voices-rising/story-awards/89833

Hope you're having a great day!

Jacqueline Namutaawe

Wow cheers to the super woman in your mother. I am inspired indeed by the bounceback in her, a path every woman should emulate.

Araba
Mar 22
Mar 22

I believe in the power of a woman. It create rippling effects to empower other women. Indeed she is a superwoman!

Anita Kebila
Mar 23
Mar 23

Thank you all. We are all "Superwomen". Lets not relent.Thank you too for the suggestion @jlanghus. I will surely submit. Y'all stay blessed.

Lisbeth
Mar 26
Mar 26

Great to know you got some one to look up too in trouble times. We all need great mentors to look up to them. Thanks for sharing.