Women empowerment - what would I do if I were not afraid?

Anna Dylewska
Posted October 25, 2021 from Poland

I consider myself a lucky, privileged woman. I got a proper education, live in a wealthy country, and make my own money. I want to give back to the communities and women empowerment is an important topic to me.

I’d say that the “luxury part” of women empowerment, like having more women advancing their careers, resonates with me a lot, as this is where I can also share my personal experiences.

I was recently taking part in a very interesting session, where I was asked questions about leadership and also about my career choices. One of the questions that popped up, was “if you could turn back the time, what would you do differently?”

And I had to think for a while, as I usually make my decisions carefully and in line with my personal values. So after giving it some thought, that’s what came… if I could give a bit of advice to my younger self, I’d say – don’t be afraid, be a brave girl! Ask yourself a question – what would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?

I’ve been stopped by fear so many times in my life, totally unnecessary!

Women tend to think we need to be perfect to fit our roles and, I agree, this can be a driver for development, and at the same time can slow down the growth, development, career so much …

So, be brave, make this decision, apply for this job, ask for this promotion, stand up and speak up!

Good luck ladies!

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maeann
Oct 25
Oct 25

Hi Anna,

How are you? Thank you for sharing your reflection.

I would love to know how are you now giving back to your community, as being a successful career woman.

Thank you for your advice, to stand up, speak and be brave!

Anna Dylewska
Oct 26
Oct 26

Thanks for your comment, Maeann! I would not like to use this platform to advertise what I'm doing :-)
I am involved for a while in non-profit work on women empowerment as well as driving education, entrepreneurship employability of undeserved youth - a really inspiring and fulfilling journey! In case you'd like to know more, let's pm.

maeann
Oct 27
Oct 27

I would love to learn from you.... thank you

Anna Dylewska
Oct 27
Oct 27

Thanks so much! I am lucky to work for the organization, which puts a lot of attention to making good for the communities and our planet, and had a chance to join the voluntary works of our foundation. On one hand, I have an opportunity to contribute to driving our work in this field and at on the other to get engaged directly with some of the local organizations to support the local communities - and this is soo inspiring!

Tamarack Verrall
Oct 26
Oct 26

Dear Anna,
So true, fear all too often can get in the way. Fear of failure, fear of being misunderstood, fear of not being good enough. Thank you for this reminder to trust ourselves!

Anna Dylewska
Oct 26
Oct 26

Thank you Tamarack! This is also soo much about the fear to stand up for me, to say no, to say no second time, to say no again ... can be related to many realities

Tamarack Verrall
Oct 27
Oct 27

As women we have been taught to never say no. It is an empowering act, to pay attention to ourselves and what we do and do not want. Your words reinforce our right to our own paths. I love that you are encouraging our fearlessness.

Anna Dylewska
Oct 27
Oct 27

Your words are so encouraging! We need to de-learn the "not-to-say-no" kind of thing :-)

It is our right to say NO! As much as to say yes.

And there is also something that probably comes with age - we do not only need to realize what we want in life. Equally important (from my point of view) is actually to find out what we do NOT want in our lives, for what we do not give permission or space in our lives

Tamarack Verrall
Oct 27
Oct 27

So true. Soar on, sister!

Anna Dylewska
Oct 27
Oct 27

Thanks and all the best!

megsmueller
Oct 29
Oct 29

Greetings Ana
Thank you for your powerful post and your hand of generosity.

I know all too well about being stopped by fear.

Thank you for caring and for your love for women empowerment.
Much love

Anna Dylewska
Nov 01
Nov 01

Thanks and all the best for your journey

megsmueller
Nov 01
Nov 01

Thank you!

Annick BG
Nov 17
Nov 17

Thanks so much for sharing ! This reflects my personal motto, inspired by Pippi Longstocking's words : "I've never done it, so I think I can do it". That's exactly the change of mindset all women should have: instead of saying "I can't, because I've never done it" realise that you can not know that before trying. No fear, be brave, be Pippi ! :)