Because I am a woman

Annies_stowe
Posted December 7, 2018 from Nigeria
Because I am a woman
Woman who face her difficult time and overcome And the role model

The (brightness) was a girl, who stay in a slum(darkness)  The darkness arise when her father was broke and he was thrown out to the slum,  her father really want to give her daughters a good life. She was from a family of six,  mother, father,three sisters and a brother. They all try to help each other and never blame anyone for their situations, she was a very strong girl, she never wanted to see her parents think or cry over their situations. she try her best to make her career has a footballer, where all turns out to be a hard time after she was (raped) she was scared to tell her parents, she console herself and move on but her career was not where she expected it to be. She faced a new career as a football referee where her father believe in her dream, she met a boy who she thought would help her career and explain all issues she can never tell her parents, yes the boy was good, caring, and lovely, until she realizes he ways a gambler, he gamble with her school fees which affect her career again because the boy was giving her all she needed in place of her parents. She have to keep this pains to herself. she never have access/freedom to her own life in the name of relationship, the boy advice her to drop out of school and promise to fund her if she starts all over again, but it was a lie, he used her name for debt and she was accused of owing people debt, she suffer alone until her mother was a victim when she put her sim into her mother's phone, where a creditor call to embarrass her (there is pain behind every successful story) her mother pay the debt and advice her to make her best decision. The quit the relationship went back to the slum and make a difference, she believes in the power of a girl, work for herself in her  little ways cater for her family and was happy with the little she had everyone in her hood believe in her story and still support her dream as a cinematographer gradually she is planning on raising funds to go back to school. 

the poor girl is me.

I am the dream chaser. 

I am the girl born without a silver spoon. 

I want to make my dream real. 

I want to my pain to know I am happy because, I am a woman.

power of a girl.

I was born in the slum,  I was trained in the ghetto, I was born poor, poverty will only push you down when you never believe in yourself, I stay in the slum,i never behave like one I cry during my rape, I console myself and now I have to face the conflict. And for every conflict there must be a resolution.

this is my resolution, I will voice out, tell the world my story let the girls learn from me, I was thinking  the boy will give me all because I was a raped victim, but no he ruin my education until I believe and face the pain of working with my breath

                Stowe Anuoluwapo 

This story was submitted in response to What Gives You Hope?.

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Jill Langhus
Dec 08, 2018
Dec 08, 2018

Hi Stowe,

Welcome to World Pulse:-) Thanks for sharing your sad, but inspiring story. I'm glad to hear you're not giving up, and that you have a supportive family. I was impressed that you were interested in becoming a footballer or a referee. How come you lost interest in those dreams? How did you get interested in cinematography? How will you be fundraising to complete your education? Please keep us posted on what you will do to complete your education so we can follow your journey and progress, and to, of course, celebrate with you, when you have achieved it. You may also want to keep an eye on the World Pulse "Resources" page to see if opportunities arise for you to get funding. The link is here: https://www.worldpulse.com/en/my-pulse/resources.

I'm looking forward to seeing more stories and posts from you.

I hope you're having a good day, and good luck with your story submission.

Tamarack Verrall
Dec 08, 2018
Dec 08, 2018

Dear Annies,
I am glad that although you have been through so much, you are able to think back to, and hold onto your own brightness, even through the darkness of what little life with so little, could offer you. How beautiful that as a family you helped each other, and that you held onto your own strength and your spirit of being a dream chaser. You are so right that by telling your story, girls will learn from you and feel the support in following their dreams, too. Best wishes for your reaching your dreams, including the chance to do cinematography. You are a true story teller, and many girls will find hope through your commitment to them.

In sisterhood,
Tam

Ngala Nadege
Dec 14, 2018
Dec 14, 2018

Thanks for sharing. Sad but inspiring. Thank God all hope was not lost. I admire the power in your words.

Lisbeth
Dec 20, 2018
Dec 20, 2018

Thanks very much for your inspiration all story. Keep speaking out and one day you will own your silver spoon ha
Regards

Deborah Munyekenye
Dec 30, 2018
Dec 30, 2018

You are a strong girl, focused and full of hope

Adanna
Jan 16
Jan 16

Dear Stowe,

Thank you for your courage and for sharing your sad but inspiring story.

Life is full of challenges but do not give up.

Love,
Adanna

Jacqueline Namutaawe

Hi Stowe, the struggle continues and do not give up #winnersneverquit

Theresa Takafuma
Mar 08
Mar 08

Hi Stowe
You are a strong and inspiring woman. Your story will change lives. Keep on being amazing.

Bettina Amendi
Mar 16
Mar 16

Wow,my girl Annies you can narrate a story.Where are you now as per your life vision?

leila Kigha
Apr 29
Apr 29

You are a strong woman. That is all that matters.
You can sail through situations with grace.
Keep on keeping on, you will surely get there.
Keep us posted on your progress.
We are cheering you on!