Remember the girl child her place is not only in the kitchen

Anuli
Posted July 17, 2020 from Nigeria
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Im always impressed when I go to STEM classes at St Abigails Schools Isolo Lagos and I observe the girl children, what I notice always is their enthusiasm and most times they’re ahead of the boys in their class.

We learnt earlier not to the introduce gender roles in our school. Everyone is important and every child is valid. We encourage the girls as well as the boys to reach for the stars. So often times , during career week I see my girls come out and say ‘Oh Mrs Ezeigwe,I want to be a pilot, I want to be a scientist like Marie Curie. I want to code, at moments like this my joy is full.

Recently my daughter said to me i’d like to be an artist not just an artist a collage artist. I smiled and said to her “you can be anything you want to be dear”. We’ve risen from obscurity to light and every time the girl child is lifted from the pangs and pains of traditions and cultural prisons then a light emerges and the future is sure.

Lets not be weary in championing the education of the girl child . Don’t stop fighting to see girls lifted from obscurity. Don’t allow society place obstacles on her path. Any time you sit at a table of opportunity make sure you open the doors for other women to pass through.

Education is the lighting of fire, please pass on the light. Remember the girl child, her place is not only in the kitchen, she has a right to be anything she wants to be and whom ever she wishes to be.

 

 

 

 

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Busayo Obisakin
Jul 17
Jul 17

Dear Anuli
You are very correct! Girl child place is beside the boys doing amazing and great things to move our world forward. Thank you for sharing this
Love
Busayo

Anuli
Jul 17
Jul 17

Dear Busari,

Thank you for reading, I appreciate and yes the place of the girl child is beside boys doing great things.

Kind Regards
Anuli

Tamarack Verrall
Jul 17
Jul 17

Dear Anuli,
You are a gifted writer with a beautiful heart. Yes, we need to keep opening those doors for all the girls. I love your daughter's description of what kind of artist she is, and your reply. I have such hope in all of the work being done by World Pulse sisters, meeting with girls.

Anuli
Jul 17
Jul 17

Dear Tam,

Thank you for reading and reaching out. I appreciate you. Thank you for all the work you do.

Kind Regards
Anuli

Chi8629
Jul 18
Jul 18

Thank you for sharing.

Anuli
Jul 18
Jul 18

Welcome

Anita Shrestha
Jul 18
Jul 18

thank you for sharing

Anuli
Jul 18
Jul 18

Welcome

Judith Debbie Kabango

Dear Anuli,

Yes, very true. It is important to promote girl child education in our societies. How do our society think of achieving the global 50-50 participation in the labour market, if we are not giving our girls the same opportunities as our boys?
Thanks for sharing.
Debbie.

Anuli
Jul 19
Jul 19

Dear Debbie,

Thank You, I appreciate

Anuli

MUVUNYI FABIENNE
Jul 19
Jul 19

You are right dear Anuli . Everyone is important and valid in our communities, so we should fight against the gender inequality.

Thanks for sharing your story

Anuli
Jul 19
Jul 19

Dear Muvunyi,

Indeed everyone is important and valid.

Thank You, I appreciate
Anuli

esther atosha
Jul 20
Jul 20

hello Anuli
thank you for sharing your beautiful post

Anuli
Jul 20
Jul 20

You’re welcome Esther.

Kind Regards

Anuli

Rosylyne Nabaala
Jul 20
Jul 20

Thank you so much for sharing this is very important.

Anuli
Jul 21
Jul 21

Welcome Rosylyne I appreciate

Nab
Jul 21
Jul 21

I had a distant uncle once who commented on his daughters going to college. He said there's no need to learn that high because a woman's place is in the kitchen. He is a successful restaurant owner and it made me sad when he said that to his girls. They went to college nonetheless, and he even helped paid for it.

Now his eldest owns a house, which she bought from her own money. His middle and youngest daughters are proud co-owners of a clothing (shawl) online store. They started the business with a bit of help from their mother, and a lot of their of their own hardwork.

As for the uncle... I can see his proud smile when he talks about his daughters. He changed his point of view through the love of his family.

Anuli
Jul 21
Jul 21

Wow! Thanks Nab for sharing. Education remains a strong tool for the eradication of poverty and the restoration of dignity for every man.

rgulson
Jul 22
Jul 22

Hi Anuli, thanks for writing this and sharing,

As a male and father of 2 girls I have a responsibility to help girls and women get access to equal opportunities, be it in school, work or home. Your story resonates deeply and I know my daughters have, can & will do amazing things.

Richard

Anuli
Jul 22
Jul 22

Hi rgulson,

I’m happy for all you do for your girls and women. Having solid male figures in the lives of young girls and women goes a long way as we try to find our path in life. I’m sending love and light to your girls and I wish them all the best.

Kind Regards

Anuli

Mohini Soman
Jul 22
Jul 22

Dear Anuli
I read a wonderful story about a woman's experience of the power of "owning her space" and how liberating it was to finally reach a space of complete equality, with no apologies! If we can teach our girl child this and create an environment for her, then I believe we have already created the future! Love your story!

Kind regards

Mohini

Anuli
Jul 22
Jul 22

Dear Mohini,

The more we have these conversations, the more we create opportunities for change not just for our girls but for women in general. Thank You Mohini, I appreciate.

Kind Regards

Anuli

Hwa Choo
Jul 22
Jul 22

So true, every child, girl or boy deserves education and to dream doing great things.

Anuli
Jul 22
Jul 22

Dear Hwa,

You’re right. Equal opportunities. Thank you for your comments. I appreciate

Kind Regards
Kelechi

Nini Mappo
Jul 23
Jul 23

Dear Anuli,
I agree with you 100% that that a girl has so much capacity to make good in her world beyond the kitchen, and that we who have been liberated from the kitchen should help the girl child believe that and create every opportunity to facilitate her liberation.

But the interesting thing is that growing up in rural Kenya, school completion rates were much higher among girls than boys, just as you describe in the first paragraph. Now, as a teacher I support both, but I see in the girl that it is her lack of faith in what she can achieve, fuelled by cultural expectations, that I need to undo.
There is a lot that needs undoing, isn't there? So hank you for sharing and doing your bit in helping girls believe in better

Anuli
Jul 23
Jul 23

Dear Nini,

Thank You for this great feedback. You know our culture subjugates the girl child. She already came disadvantaged . And often times when you continue to tell someone they can’t , they begin to believe it and dance to it.

Again the examples of women in our communities and the images it represents are not encouraging. Often times, the girl approaches education from a disadvantaged angle and only few ,through observation of women within their circle rejects the future presented to them , breaks away from it and aspires to more and wants more. There lies the lack of faith for many ,because they’ve come to believe that they cannot do more than their mothers or other female examples in their community. I love it ,when you say the liberated should liberate others. Thank you so much. Let’s continue to light the path for the girl child! Let’s continue to say no to traditions that holds her down and cages her. Let’s provide the opportunity for her to break away any time such opportunities presents itself. The girl child must rise, there’s so much prosperity and liberation in her rise.

Thanks Nini for all you do

Kind Regards

Anuli

ARREY- ECHI
Jul 24
Jul 24

Dear Anuli,

I hope you are doing well today.
I love your post. Thank you for all the world you are doing as an educator. Children listen to and often believe their teachers.

I especially love this paragraph : "Lets not be weary in championing the education of the girl child . Don’t stop fighting to see girls lifted from obscurity. Don’t allow society place obstacles on her path. Any time you sit at a table of opportunity make sure you open the doors for other women to pass through"

So true!

Keep impacting.

Anuli
Jul 24
Jul 24

Dear Arrey,

I’m doing well. Thank you for asking. I hope you’re fine too. Let’s keep paving way for other girls and other women. Thank You for all you do

Kind Regards

Anuli

Veronica Ngum Ndi
Jul 25
Jul 25

Dear Anuli
It's a pleasure reading your write-up. I totally agree with you on the fact that the place of a girl is not in the kitchen. It is so inspirational to hear the girls fully taking part in STEM classes.I like to read more from you.
Veronica Ngum
Cameroon

Anuli
Jul 27
Jul 27

Dear Veronica,

We should keep encouraging our girls , keep opening more doors for them. Thank you for the feedback I appreciate.

Anuli

Fefe22
Jul 27
Jul 27

Anuli,

Thank you for sharing your story with us. Your daughter is blessed to have a mother who nurtures and champions whatever path she may walk. One day she will also be able to piece her words, passion, history into her art.

Anuli
Jul 27
Jul 27

Dear Fefe 22,

Thank You for the feedback. I can’t wait for her to emerge as well as young girls every where.

Kind Regards

Anuli

Queen Sheba D Cisse
Jul 30
Jul 30

Dear Anuli,
At our charity village in Senegal, we say "Right On"!
We love to hear and read stories of our sisterhood promoting and advocating opportunities for female children. So what we "female lover" do? We take the opportunity and create change for them by providing opportunities and getting involved at the grass-root level if we are able to do so.
Keep rooting for your precious daughter and encouraging her in whatever positive endeavor she desire because we adore our young girls so much and wish them the very best blessings and success ahead.
Thanks for sharing,

Mama Queen

Anuli
Jul 30
Jul 30

Dear Mama Queen,

Thank You for all you do. The only way Africa will grow and advance is, if we continue to create opportunities for our girl children!

Kind Regards

Anuli

Queen Sheba D Cisse
Jul 30
Jul 30

Yes absolutely!
Thank you my dear Anuli.

Leonida Odongo
Jul 31
Jul 31

An important eye opener .Thank you for sharing Anuli

Leonida

Vanora.Lee
Aug 07
Aug 07

Thanks for your sharing and encouragement.