Removing a ball from the belly!

Anum Shakeel
Posted March 17, 2020 from Pakistan
Ball in the belly?
Her 15 Days old Daughter
Her 15 Days old Daughter: A girl child (1/1)

“Congratulations, you are pregnant!” said the Doctor…

Looks of pure happiness emerge on the faces of the husband and wife. They leave the hospital to announce to the whole family that we are parents to be. Smiles and blessings come from the whole family. Everyone is happy and excited - Grandparents are wishing for a baby boy. Sister & brothers in law all are thrilled to have a first baby at home. The parents-to-be say whether it’s a son or daughter we will love our baby as much as we can. “We are lucky that we are having a child who is actually an affirmation of our love.”

Husband and Wife are sitting and having a cup of tea; seeing the positive report again and again as they are so overwhelmed by the news that they are about to become parents. “It’s her 4th month so she should be very careful from now on as she has completed her first trimester”, said the mother in law. Wife left the room as she felt nauseous.

The real struggle starts and will continue for a good nine months. Now she has nausea, swollen feet, increasing belly, pimples on her skin, pain in her body and back, loss of hair, mood swings, anxiety, and rashes on her body. But she perseveres as she can’t take medicine because the baby will be affected. She is forced to bear it all.

She wanted to go to her cousin sister’s wedding in her 7th month but she can’t as nothing she wants to wear fits anymore. She even can’t wear her beautiful wedding dress because of her overgrown belly. She has to sacrifice everything just to see everyone happy. She needs to bottle up her emotions so that her in-laws and husband won’t see her screaming out which is what she terribly needed to do. “A woman has to sacrifice incredibly in these nine months.”

She was near her 9th month but before the final month could arrive, she had a very severe pain. The family took her to hospital where the staff said we need to operate immediately. “Who is the husband of patient”, said the nursing staff! “I am the one”, cried the husband. “Please fill out the form and submit the fee urgently so that we can start our procedures. Also, please read the form clearly as hospital won’t be responsible if anything happens to the patient and your wife’s case is very risky.” The husband with shivering in his hands signs the form and requests the doctor to please save her wife as he loves her a lot and cannot live without her.

She delivers a baby girl. The father said “Thank God, we have an angel at our home. And how’s my wife?” She is also fine, you can take them home in 3-4 days, said the doctor. Everyone is congratulating the parents on becoming the parents of a beautiful daughter. Balloons, flowers, smiles, and prayers all around.

They are home after 4 days, but the wife is still not well. She has pain and swelling in her body. She can’t walk properly - can’t even sit properly. And yet some aunties in the family said we’ve also delivered babies, she is not the new in this world. It happens after delivery - a lot of pain inside and a lot of taunts outside.

Husband took her to the hospital again after 10 days of delivery. As she is not well she isn’t able to hold her beautiful daughter in her arms even. Wife is hospitalized and doctors are saying she will be fine, not to worry. On day 14 in the bland hospital room with pain in her belly, she (the wife) decided to have a video call with her soul sisters - her university fellows with whom she shares everything about her life. She told them that she is recovering and the doctors are saying she will be fine and can go home in the next couple of days. She said she will come to town as soon as she recovered and will bring her beautiful daughter to introduce her to her aunties. Everyone was waiting to welcome her - friends, family and well-wishers.

The 15th day came, and so did the news… She is no more with us. She had a heart attack and after the post mortem report came, it blamed the poor hospital hygiene conditions. She had a towel forceps in her belly. The health conditions are so poor in the interior parts of the province that they operated on her and left a surgical item inside her belly. Is it like to remove a ball from belly?

At the age of 28, she left a 15 day old girl, a loving husband, a lot of unrealized dreams…

I am the unfortunate friend of this 28 year old loving caring girl. Yes, I have lost my soul sister and my best friend.

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Oh dear, sister Anum, my heart is broken! I am so sorry for your loss. How tragic that your soul sister and best friend would leave in this world because of medical negligence. How painful this is! Are you going to sue the hospital? Oh, how sad that this beautiful baby lost her mom. :(

How are you coping, dear? Love and hugs to you.

Anum Shakeel
Mar 19
Mar 19

Even I was in deep pain when I was writing this story. It took me 6 months to write about it and to cope up from this. I did counselling sessions with the doctors. I went for healing sessions to cope up with this. Her family is more towards to give better life to her daughter.

Hello, dear sis Anum, please grieve. We never move on from grief. We move on in life with it. Hugs, dear. My heart breaks with you. Please stay safe from the coronavirus, too.

Rahmana Karuna
Mar 17
Mar 17

I am so sorry for this Anum. thank you for sharing your heartbreaking story.
Recalled to memory all the times i was on the floor looking for a needle which was unaccounted for while the patient was being "closed up".
the patients we operated on with 4x4s left inside..........or whatever.
sad indeed. that is the purpose of everything having something on it that an xray will pick up-in case it gets lost inside.

Anita Shrestha
Mar 18
Mar 18

Thank you for sharing

Beth Lacey
Mar 18
Mar 18

Such a sad story. I am sorry for your pain

Oluwatoyin Olabisi
Mar 19
Mar 19

I am sorry,please accept my sympathy.

Tamarack Verrall
Mar 19
Mar 19

Dear Anum,
What a senseless tragedy. I am so sorry that you lost such a soul sister, and all from the malpractice of medical staff and the inability to really listen to what this young woman was saying. You have honoured her with your story.

Anum Shakeel
Mar 21
Mar 21

Hey Tamarack, Thank you for understanding. I believe it's not just a death it's killing of innocent person and the dreams. I request you to just pray for her and her daughter.

Tamarack Verrall
Mar 21
Mar 21

So true, so tragic. I surely will remember her and her daughter in my prayers.

tpalmares
Mar 19
Mar 19

Thank you for sharing your story. I'm truly at a loss for words. I offer you support from afar and I'll hold you and family in my prayers.

Anum Shakeel
Mar 21
Mar 21

Thank you and do remember my friend and her daughter in your prayers.

Jeanine A
Mar 19
Mar 19

How lucky your friend is to have someone to share her story. Many blessings to you and I am sorry for your lost.

Anum Shakeel
Mar 21
Mar 21

Keep her in your prayers. Pray for her daughter to have a good life. Thank you

noelleelyse
Mar 19
Mar 19

This is so tragic to hear your story and the loss of your soul sister. Yes, so many unrealized hopes and dreams and a child who will know her mother. I'm sorry the hospital didn't realize the error and maybe could have saved her beautiful life. Take care.

Anum Shakeel
Mar 21
Mar 21

I am lost of words. But thank you for understanding the pain.

lemonadelemon
Aug 31
Aug 31

thank you for sharing your story. keep strong.

Anum Shakeel
Sep 17
Sep 17

It's my best friend story, I lost her last year on 20th Sep 2019 :(

Shirin Dalaki
Sep 25
Sep 25

Hello Anum,

It was so nice to see you and hear you at encourager party today. I enjoyed listening to you.
I came to read one of your stories and my God, this story is such a tragic story. I am sorry for the loss of your soul sister and best friend. It has been a year since this has happened. How are you feeling now?
I love to see you more on WP.

Shirin

Anum Shakeel
Sep 29
Sep 29

Thank you Shirin. It's always very comfortable to be here and to share my stories. You know it's very painful time. Since last Sep I am facing a lot of challenges. My father expired in April 2020. I am coping up with all of these together. Will write more soon.

Shirin Dalaki
Oct 02
Oct 02

I am sorry dear, I hear you and we are here for you. I look forward to more of your writing.

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