Reflections!

Aramide Oikelome
Posted February 28, 2017 from Nigeria

Given the circumstances under which I was raised, there was little hope that I would be able to go far in my education. I was 4 years old when Mother moved out of her matrimonial home to start a new life as a single parent.

After primary education, I was lucky to get admission into one of the foremost Secondary Schools in Nigeria – Methodist Girls High School, Yaba, Lagos; a high-brow mission school with enviable educational/moral standard. Incidentally, my half-sister also came into the school and we were both in Form 1; though different classes. I was 12 years old then and she 11 years.

How funny! We were children of the same father, in the same school but coming to school from different homes (remember my mother was already leaving alone while my step-mum and her children remained with my dad). About two years later, I suddenly discovered that my half-sister was no longer coming to school. I became inquisitive and visited daddy to know what had happened. And to my shock, I was told she had been ferried abroad to continue her life and education.

To say that I was sad is an understatement. I felt rejected and dejected. I felt lost and hopeless. I went back home that night in tears. And when I got home, I broke the news to mother. In her characteristic manner, she tried to console me but also challenged me to work hard. She assured me that with fervent prayers and hard work, the sky was indeed the starting point in my journey to stardom. But she cautioned: ‘A good name is better than silver and gold. Remember the daughter of whom you are. Make sure you keep your name and integrity clean. Stay focused and be prayerful. God will not fail you.”

Sleep failed me that night as I pondered on what mother had said. Through the tears, I resolved that I would not fail her; I would not fail myself and I would not fail God. I resolved that our suffering would not be in vain and that through prayer and hard work, I would succeed in life. Yes, it was tough but God helped me.

And ever since then, I have come to see life as a battlefield where if you must succeed or achieve anything, there must be determination, dint of hard work and relentless prayers. Above all, I believe that where there is a will, there is a way.

This has been my guiding principle. It has helped me to surmount many challenges in life. Like our lecturer, Busayo Obisakin of the Empowerment Institute said, we must believe in ourselves and take responsibility for our lives. When we blame people for our challenges, then it means we have given those people power over our lives. People will sometimes throw stones on our path but what matters most is what we make of the stones- Wall or Bridge.

I believe I have the will-power to create the life I desire, and that with determination, hard work and prayer, I can make it happen.

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Rahmana Karuna
Feb 28, 2017
Feb 28, 2017

Dearest Aramide

thank you for sharing your strength and determination. "Life is a Stage" and it can be a battlefield. And true Warriors would rather not fight, diplomacy. Responsibility for one self is so very important. Blessings on your path.

Aramide Oikelome
Mar 02, 2017
Mar 02, 2017

Dear Rahmana,

Thank you for you kind and encouraging words.

We are true warriors and together we shall win.

In Sisterhood!

Aramide

JANEKALU
Mar 02, 2017
Mar 02, 2017

Dear Aramide, Reading your story broke my heart, but thank God for resilient.

With Love

Jane Kalu

Aramide Oikelome
Mar 02, 2017
Mar 02, 2017

Dear Jane,

Thank you for identifying with me. Truly, God is our Refuge and Strength.

Remain Blessed!

Aramide

Alex DeCino
Mar 08, 2017
Mar 08, 2017

"People will sometimes throw stones on our path but what matters most is what we make of the stones- Wall or Bridge." What a fantastic metaphor for overcoming adversity!  Thank you for such an inspirational post Aramide!

Aramide Oikelome
Mar 13, 2017
Mar 13, 2017

Dear Alexdecino,

Your summary made me smile! I sure agree with you that here is a strong and inspiring metaphor that gives strength. 

Indeed, when we win the battle within, we become invincible on the outside. 

So lets keep the flag flying! We are together!

Aramide 

Natasha L
Mar 09, 2017
Mar 09, 2017

Dear Sister Aramide -

Another carefully written story by you!  You have a talent for writing with a beautiful clarity and vibrant simplicity that is packed with meaning, expressiveness and a powerful message.

How lovely that your dear beloved mother told you so fervently that "the sky was indeed the starting point in your journey to stardom".  Aramide -  as founder of the Bestspring Children & Youth Development Foundation you are shining bright as a star for the children in your community. You have not failed your mother - in fact you have taken her belief in you and turned it in to a prayer and a song of hope and love.

Please tell us more about Busayo Obisakin of the Empowerment Institute.  Have you taken training with her?  Is she a mentor to you?  What is the work that she does and how does it impact you and your community.

Looking forward to more inspiration from you, Aramide.  

Aramide Oikelome
Mar 13, 2017
Mar 13, 2017

Dear Natasha,

I am indeed very sorry for not replying your mail before now due to the problems l have been having with internet connection in the last few days.

Thank you for the glowing tribute you have to my late mother. It has inspired healing and strength.

Busayo Obisakin is one of the leading voices on world pulse community. She was facilitator at our 2nd live call session. She is a powerful voice and source of inspiration.

Thank you for cheering me on with your kind and encouraging words.

Sending Hugs!

Aramide

Mar 16, 2017
Mar 16, 2017
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Debby85
Mar 16, 2017
Mar 16, 2017

What a touching story! The strength in the words of a mother can not be overemphasized! God bless women

Aramide Oikelome
Mar 19, 2017
Mar 19, 2017

Dear Debby,

Your encouagung words inspire me. Thank you for your support.

Sending Blessings! 

Aramide

Opeyemibisi
Mar 24, 2017
Mar 24, 2017

honestly as your mum said 'the sky is the starting point' i love the fact that your mum did not keep quite that day cos those words of hers has power and we can see the results. keep it up ma!

Aramide Oikelome
Mar 24, 2017
Mar 24, 2017

Yes Opeyemibisi! Her words of counsel and encouragement spurred me on even when the going was tough. I didnt want to fail her! My goal was to make her proud at all cost.

Mothers hold the key to their children's success or otherwise. We must use that power well!

In Sisterhood!

Aramide