Appreciating Sisters As Springs Of Hope

ARREY- ECHI
Posted January 20, 2020 from Cameroon
World Pulse Sisters join my Sickle Cell Colour Awareness Campaign, June 2019
World Pulse Sisters join my Sickle Cell Colour Awareness Campaign, June 2019 (1/1)

As a young girl growing up, I always heard these words: "Women are their own worst enemies; they can never support each other".

For some reason, even at that young age, I never truly believed that. Unfortunately, this rhetoric is so strong in most of our communities that we often see women pitched against each other. Women fighting each other. Women quick to put another woman down while elevating traditions and customs that mitigate against the woman.

Fortunately, from my mum, aunt, sisters and other female relations, I have been surrounded by confident, powerful women ready and willing to lift other women up. I have equally be fortunate that most, if not all of my female friends as I grew up make up the clan of women who do not fit into this rhetoric of women being their own worst enemies but rather, are determined to uplift each other, change the narrative by giving them a shoulder to lean on, a wrapper to cover them in time of need and preserve their womanhood and a hand ever ready to extend and say rise again because you have sisters willing to lift you up.

In the course of my sickle cell advocacy journey, I have met amazing sisters who are willing and ever so ready to join me in whatever way possible to them to make this dream of breaking the silence come true. 

For example, during my yearly June colour awareness campaign in 2019, it was heart warming to see so many of my World Pulse sisters come out in their red/black and shades of white representing sickle cell colours to stand with me. From Cameroon to Nigeria and all the way to the Philippines, World Pulse sisters joined in strong.

I made a collage of pictures of all who joined me across the globe. World Pulse sisters had a special collage of only World Pulsers and each time I look at the collage, I feel happy, grateful and hopeful.

Happy that I have a worldwide support system of amazing sisters who got my back because they believe in me.

Grateful because I couldn't have asked for a more powerful, impactful and better group of amazing and purpose driven sisters for support and encouragement.

And hopeful because seeing women united in love and a strong desire to see each other rise and shine irrespective of where we come from, only convinces me that women indeed can and are most capable of working together and standing for each other. It gives me hope that the long held belief and rhetoric of women being each other's worst enemies is fake and once women understand this and dedicate their time to discovering the strength in each other and themselves, it becomes easier to scale mountains and build dynamic queendoms.

It gives me hope that there's strength and unity in sisterhood and if we all do our best to be a sister's keeper, we will make the world and women's lives a lot better.

I am thankful to all the World Pulse sisters who are working hand in hand in dispelling this myth and proving that women are indeed other women's best friends. It is a privilege to be a World Pulser, a space which continues to serve as springs of hope.

This story was submitted in response to Moments of Hope.

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Wusufor
Jan 20
Jan 20

Dear Arrey,
How are you lately? Hope by grace you are fine? I am not also doing bad here.
Thanks for your inspiring post. In fact I actually did enjoy reading. Especially the portion of women been their own enemies. This is really happening but I think it's done with ignorance. It's mostly within uneducated women. Hatred, resentfulness and pull me down syndrome etc.

However, we world pulsers have grown beyong that. We are intelligent, well educated women who care for one another. And we are very proud of this title ha :-).

If you are with me, let me hear you say yeah :-). Hope you have an amazing day and take care of yourself.
Warm hugs

ARREY- ECHI
Jan 20
Jan 20

Dear Lizzy, Thank you very much. Happy to hear you are well. I am OK, a bit busy lately but OK.
I agree that women being their own enemies still happen though more and more women are embracing their strengths and changing the narrative. I disagree that it happens only with uneducated women. The narrative has been for so long that many literally believe it and they leave that believe to cloud their judgement of other women.

Thank you for reading and for the input. Yeah, I agree we are changing the narrative ob Worldpulse.

Wusufor
Jan 20
Jan 20

Great you are doing very well :-). Haha yeah we together can change the narrative. Continue to take care and rest more :-)
Cheers ;-)

Tarke Edith
Jan 20
Jan 20

Hi mun Arrey
How wonderful and pleasant it is for sister of different countries, rases, colors, altitudes and mothers to leave together as one in all aspects that we share on this platform. Let me tell you dear when ever l am chatting with my sisters here dear l feel very much at home. when ever l received an email from a sister here l know my birth sis is saying something.
Let's keep this love dear and be ready to pass it to our children for continuity.
We are one in the spirit.
We are one in the Lord
And others will know we are sistrers by our love.
Thanks for sharing dear.

ARREY- ECHI
Jan 20
Jan 20

Dear Sister Edith,
Always so good to read from you. Thank you so much for always taking the time to read and leave an encouraging comment. I hope you are well
Yes, you are right. It is a beautiful thing when sisters dwell together in love and unity . I am confident we at worldpulse we continue to work on that to pass on to our children and community because we desire to #LetThePulseLoveFlow!

maeann
Jan 20
Jan 20

Thanks Arrey.... I agree that here on World Pulse women works together :) encourage and support each other.

ARREY- ECHI
Jan 20
Jan 20

Thank you dear sis for agreeing that love and support are the trademarks of worldpulse

Hello, Love,

Society as a whole spread that message about women hating each other. That has been the case in our country, too. I’m so glad I found World Pulse to prove this notion as false.

You launched an effective Sickle Cell Campaign last year. Great job to you! It was truly my pleasure to show my support in my little way.

Keep fighting, my 27-year-old sister!LOL. Hugs!

ARREY- ECHI
Jan 21
Jan 21

Thank you dear Sis Karen. Truly, that narrative is still every much alive. But it is sure a source of hope, seeing more and more women uniting together in love and sisterhood to prove it false.
Thank you once again for standing with me and adding your voice to the campaign. It did mean a lot.

I sure will keep fighting after all being 27 is a long way to go

Love always ❤

You're welcome, dear sister. I am so glad that we can support one another through digital technology and to prove that narrative false.

The pleasure is truly mine, dear. It is my great honor to stand with you.
Hahaha! You are forever 27, dear. Love and hugs!

Jill Langhus
Jan 21
Jan 21

Hello Arrey Love,

How are you doing? What a beautiful collage. I really should be part of this:-( Next time!

I definitely believe there is strength and unity in sisterhood and that we can all make the best effort possible to be the best sister's keepers:-)

I am thankful to you, dear. One of the best sister's keepers on the planet, easily:-) We are privileged to have you on the forum, and as a dear friend!

XX

ARREY- ECHI
Jan 21
Jan 21

Dear Sis Jill,
I am doing OK, thank you. Still on the busy end of things but OK. Hope you are too.

It would sure be a real pleasure having you be a part of this campaign next time.

Yes, I do so agree, there is indeed strength and unity in sisterhood and we are stronger when we choose to be our sister's keepers.

Thank you for being a sister and for helping me share this unique sisterhood with you. With much love and appreciation.

Jan 21
Jan 21
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Jill Langhus
Jan 22
Jan 22

Hello dear,

Just okay? I hope you're doing better than okay:-(

It would be a honor to be involved in your campaign.

You're very welcome, love.

XX

Tamarack Verrall
Jan 21
Jan 21

Dear Arrey,
What beautiful, radiant proof that sisters stand up with and for each other. Truly it is so strong within World Pulse, a strength of bonds in determination for change and in profound respect and love that we have for each other. That these sisters responded so visibly to your call for action toward the need for sickle cell advocacy is proof of what is happening more and more. Women showing that by standing openly in support of each other we dissolve the damaging myth that 'we are our own worst enemies'. That was and is still taught to keep us from questioning, and creating change together. Now globally our arms are linked for all to see.
with love in sisterhood,
Tam

ARREY- ECHI
Jan 21
Jan 21

Hello Mama Tam,

Thank you so much for these kind words. You summed it all up here nicely..."Truly it is so strong within World Pulse, a strength of bonds in determination for change and in profound respect and love that we have for each other"

Ode to all the strong sisters standing for each other to dismantle such negative narratives against women.

Thank you for the role you so passionately play in helping women stay and stand together.

With love and appreciation ❤

Marie Abanga
Jan 21
Jan 21

Hurray sis,

Always an honour to join you in your campaigns o

ARREY- ECHI
Jan 21
Jan 21

Hurray! An equal privilege and honour to have you join me in this noble cause, Thank you.

Jan 21
Jan 21
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lizzymark
Jan 23
Jan 23

Hi Arrey,you are always great doing great and inspiring things too. Appreciating sisters, its beautiful. And am with Lisbeth my name sake.

ARREY- ECHI
Jan 24
Jan 24

Thank you very much dear Lizzy. It is a good thing to appreciate others and especially so, sisters doing amazing things.
Thank you for the kind words.

Elizabeth Ziro
Jan 23
Jan 23

Dear Arrey,
I can't agree more, There's so much positive energy in here.
Kind regards

ARREY- ECHI
Jan 24
Jan 24

Thank you very much dear sis. You are right, the positive energy is contagious, pushing us all to constantly strive to be the best versions of ourselves.
With hugs

Chinyere Kalu
Jan 24
Jan 24

Indeed the narratives are changing.
We have been held down for do long with those rhetorics .Amazingly there is a drastic movement today quashing all the lies we have been made to believe.I believe in the New Woman who is ready to lift the other.Lets do it Sisters!

ARREY- ECHI
Jan 29
Jan 29

Hello Chinyere,
Thank you very much. Yes, indeed, the narrative is changing and it is great seeing women and sisters standing together. We can do it!

Felicitas Wung
Jan 24
Jan 24

Hello!
Unity is strength. How good it was for you to have so many world pulse sisters who stood with you strongly for your campaign.
I really feel bad when I see or hear about fellow women who are against others. Some people usually say my friends who are girls will never stand with me. Rather men will do. I think we should always try to help one another. Together we stand, divided we fall.
Have a great day.

ARREY- ECHI
Jan 29
Jan 29

Dear Felicitas,
Thank you very much. Truly, many women say that because of the narrative they have been fed. But that is changing and women are standing strong with each other daily. It was a big moment having so many world pulsers join the campaign.

Felicitas Wung
Jan 29
Jan 29

That was awesome. Have a cool evening.

Anita Shrestha
Jan 26
Jan 26

Wow dear beautiful sisters ............................

ARREY- ECHI
Jan 29
Jan 29

Thank you very much dear Anita.

ARREY- ECHI
Feb 06
Feb 06

Indeed. It was a beautiful moment.

Busayo Obisakin
Jan 26
Jan 26

This is a very inspiring updates of your work! Yes so much strength in sisterhood!
We will continue to be spring f hope for one another
Love
Busayo

ARREY- ECHI
Jan 29
Jan 29

Dear Sister Busayo,
Thank you very much. Yes, indeed, there is strength in sisterhood. And we will keep that springs of hope alive.
With love,

TataWirba
Jan 28
Jan 28

Hi Arrey,
Your story is a source of inspiration to many. Together we can achieve great things and I am glad here in World Pulse we are already doing it.
Women voice most be heard out.

Thanks
Tata

ARREY- ECHI
Jan 29
Jan 29

Hello Tata,
Thank you very much.
Yes, indeed, many hands do achieve great things. And collectively, women voices will continue to thunder for positive change.

Beth Lacey
Jan 31
Jan 31

Congratulations on your Spirit Award!

ARREY- ECHI
Feb 06
Feb 06

Thank you very much, dear Beth.

Wukwen Destiny
Feb 02
Feb 02

Dear Array
This is a wonderful initiative thanks for sharing . I'm grateful for the world pulse sisters for always being there for one another. Let's continue to encourage our fellow women in our society and younger girls too. I love this story.

ARREY- ECHI
Feb 06
Feb 06

Thank you very much dear. Yes, the world is a lot better when sisters all uplift each other.

uduakedet
Feb 02
Feb 02

Hello Arrey, thank you so much for your dedication and congratulations on your award

ARREY- ECHI
Feb 06
Feb 06

Hello Udua,
Thank you very much for the kind wishes.

bridggyella
Feb 06
Feb 06

Hi Arrey,
Reading this piece confirms to me that there is hope in finding friendship in people and supporting them. We rise by lifting others.
Thanks for sharing.
Cheers,
Bridget.

ARREY- ECHI
Feb 11
Feb 11

Hello Bridget,
Thank you very much. We rise indeed by lifting each other.
Thank you for reading,
Love

Stephtalks
Feb 07
Feb 07

GS I love how you inspire me.. Every advice you give is so dear to me. I remember you encouraging me to share my mental health advocacy plan here on the pulse, which I did and a fellow sister reached out to pledge her availability on the project. I am grateful.

ARREY- ECHI
Feb 11
Feb 11

Dear Steph,
Thank you very much dear.
I am glad to have you here on the pulse talking about something plaquing our communities but receiving little or no support. Glad you found someone already ready to walk with you here. All the best and keep up impacting.
Love always

Kristine Yakhama
Feb 08
Feb 08

Thank God for you and the family of world pulse

ARREY- ECHI
Feb 11
Feb 11

Amen. Together, we stay stronger.

Ekitah
Feb 08
Feb 08

There is no joy greater than that of being together. unity is strenght and believiing this is what worldpulse does for us. We are strenghten each day with hope we get from our sisters on this platform. Thanks sister for this inspiring writeup.

ARREY- ECHI
Feb 11
Feb 11

Dear Ekitah,
Indeed, unity is strength and Worldpulse is on to making this possible in every way.
Thank you dear sis for reading .
Love

Ekitah
Feb 11
Feb 11

you are welcome

Kristine Yakhama
Feb 20
Feb 20

Kenya is worse women are majority in numbers women want leadership its unfortunate on election day the will vote in men