The Mentee-Mentor Effect

ARREY- ECHI
Posted September 17, 2020 from Cameroon

On the 26th of August 2020, we had a mentoring orientation call. After that call, I was excited to see who I would be paired with. You can imagine my excitement and joy, when I was told Stella Paul would be my mentor! I have for some reason even I cannot fully explain, always admired this dear sister since I started my World Pulse experience. There's a certain warm and comfortable air around her I find appealing. So as you can see,  I was super excited to be paired with her.

Now, I had to reach out as a mentee which I did on the 4th of September 2020. There was a certain well, I dunno how to put this. But there was a momentary confusion how to address my first official 'contact mail' out of anything World Pulse related to her. Every connection we have had was on a pulse platform. My mind raced. How do I send this mail? Dear Ma'am? Ms? Stella? Then I heard my dad's tiny voice somewhere in the sub conscious mind ' Do not call anyone you are addressing by their name if they have not told you so'. The African Child in me won. So I started my mail with a 'Dear Ms Stella ;). Being the warm and friendly person she is, she replied and said : 'First things first : Call me Stella. I am your sister and Friend...'

That was the first ice breaker.

She told me she's busy with covering a children's project which could be running until the 11th and we could set our first official meet on the 12th, 5pm my time. Yeah, she did the time calculations and gave me the time as in Cameroon. I was like thank God for that! Nothing confuses me more than converting time differences!  That was fine with me. We agreed on that. There was a little mix up on the dates and 12th was to be Sunday not Saturday lol. 

Finally, Sunday 5pm my time. I stepped out briefly and left my phone home to come meet a missed video call. I was like oops! Thankfully, I wasn't gone for too long so we had our first real meet.

After the hellos and all, we got to knowing ourselves better. I learnt that in our respective families, we are almost on the same 'baby of the family' level. We spoke about our early child hoods and I got to discover we indeed share similarities in many instances. For e.g, we both carry scars we were at first ashamed of but which, looking at the scars in perspective, we started seeing them as our cherished trophies which remind us of our different battles for survival and so, we started seeing the scars as something to be proud of.

Stella is a journalist with a vast experience. I am the daughter of one of the first Anglophone journalists. So, there's something journalistic in our lives another shared similarities.  We both love something about our various countries. I look forward to being draped in a Sari and eating Indian Food while she looks forward to being served Cameroonian Food prepared by me and of course, we have Lena, a sister we both love very much. I learnt about her Kenyan 'heritage' as well as her love for Africa. In fact, there was so much we shared.

I also learnt about her mentoring journey and I was thrilled when she said she was equally excited to be my mentor and I would say, I got to feel that warmth and care I have always found appealing. Voicing out my concerns about some challenges I face with mentoring others, I was reassured by her thoughtful words of encouragement that I am on the right track of the mentoring journey.Having a mentor is great. Having one who is empathetic, loving and encouraging is super!

This was the second and final ice breaker.

Our first meet was great. I am so excited about this 6 months and I hope I would be able to give as much as I receive as we embark on this journey. It is my wish that at the end of this 6 months, we build a strong, lasting relationship beyond the 6 months of being mentored.

I am grateful and thankful to Jill who first told me about this program and encouraged me to apply. I am equally grateful to Dawn, Manasa and the entire World Pulse team for the beautiful job  done to see this program succeed. I am grateful for the opportunity to be a mentee and my wish is this experience will also help me hone my mentoring skills for the future.

Thank you dear Sis Stella for agreeing to be my mentor despite the busy life and schedule you have and for making it easier for me to get into the flow. So looking forward to our next and future meets.

NB: The rains were singing lullabies in India that day making network erratic so, we couldn't switch on videos for a good pic, hopefully, next time ;).  

This story was submitted in response to Stronger Together.

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Stella Paul
Sep 17
Sep 17

My dear Arre
Wow! Reading through this is like walking through that evening a week ago second by second! Thank you for this - it feels like a gift to revisit such a beautiful time.
Thank you also for your kind words of appreciation, expression of your honest feelings ( one of the many endearing qualities of yours) and above all, for being my mentee. I can't wait to walk the next 5 months with you as your mentor - it's going to be beautiful and uplifting all the way, I promise you that. Meantime, Keep fighting the good fight and keep lighting the world.
Hugs, Stella

Jill Langhus
Sep 18
Sep 18

What a beautiful post, Stella:-) It's so great to hear about how successful your first meeting went. I can't wait to hear how the others go! Arrey is so fortunate to have you as a mentor, and you're also very fortunate to have the lovely Arrey as your mentee, too!! I think it will be beautiful and uplifting all the way, too!

Hope you're doing well, and that you have a great Friday and weekend!

XX

ARREY- ECHI
Sep 19
Sep 19

Hello Sis Jill,
Indeed, beautiful signature Stella words . It is a wonderful opportunity and I am truly fortunate. I can't wait to see how the journey progresses.
Wishing you a beautiful weekend as well.

Jill Langhus
Sep 19
Sep 19

Hello Lovely,

Yes! She's also fortunate to have you, dear, as a wonderful mentee:-) Me, too!

Thank you!

XX

Nini Mappo
Sep 18
Sep 18

Hello Stella,
I appreciate, on behalf of Arrey-Echi and all here and beyond who will benefit directly or indirectly from your mentoring her, your availing time and skills to invest into others.
skills are a wealth that builds wealth, so thank you for sharing yours!

ARREY- ECHI
Sep 19
Sep 19

Hello Nini,
Thank you so much for these thoughtful words.
I sure look forward to sharing the mentor journey and I pray it directly or indirectly help others as you say.

I appreciate you ❤

ARREY- ECHI
Sep 19
Sep 19

Dear Stella,
Thank you so much for these lovely words. I am truly grateful for walking this path with you.

Yes, indeed, I so look forward to the whole walk.

I sure will keep lighting the world the best I can. You too.
Love

Jill Langhus
Sep 18
Sep 18

Hello Arrey Love,

Yay! I'm so excited to read your post and to learn about your first mentor meeting!! Too cool. I so want to see you in the sari eating Indian food, and Stella eating Cameroonian food, too:-) I love, too, that you have a lot in common and that Stella was like, oh, "call me Stella. I am your sister and Friend"... too cute:-)

Oh, I also love this pull quote, "I was reassured by her thoughtful words of encouragement that I am on the right track of the mentoring journey.Having a mentor is great. Having one who is empathetic, loving and encouraging is super! "

You both rock. Much love to both you and Stella! I'm super excited to see what you create together!!

XX

ARREY- ECHI
Sep 19
Sep 19

Hello Sis Jill,
Hope you are doing well today and hope the weekend is coming up great.

Thank you for always taking the time to read through.
Yeah, it was too cool. I cant wait to see myself look Indian too. I am sure it will be great!

Thank you for capturing that that part and making it quotable.

Yes, it is going to be enjoyable.

Much love and a blessed weeked

Jill Langhus
Sep 19
Sep 19

Hello again, Dear,

Yes, I'm doing well, thanks. How are you?

You bet:-) Yes, I think so, too!

You're welcome! It's a great quote.

You, too, dear!
XX

ARREY- ECHI
Sep 19
Sep 19

Thank you so much Sis.
I am doing great. Having quiet weekend .
Happy you are too

Love

Jill Langhus
Sep 21
Sep 21

You're welcome, honey.

Great to hear:-)

Yeah, I had a pretty good, quiet weekend.

Hope you have a great week!

XX

Nini Mappo
Sep 18
Sep 18

Hello Arrey-Echi,
I love the rain singing lullabies :)
It is such a heartwarming account of taking the first step in the journey or being mentored, connecting, learning, passing on and sharing your growth with others and the community. Good on you and Stella. Bless her for her willingness and time commitment . I'm glad you both had a successful first meet.

Looking forward to seeing the beauty that this blooms into :)

ARREY- ECHI
Sep 19
Sep 19

Hello Nini,
I hope you are doing well today.

Lol thank you. Yes, the rains sing lullabies esp drumming on the roof tops .

Thank you. Yes, we had an interesting first meet and I am really looking forward to the others.

I will do my best to do updates here as we progress on.

Thank for the kind words always ❤

Regina Afanwi Young
Sep 19
Sep 19

Hello beloved sister Arrey . How are you my dear?
What a lovely piece of write up. Am so happy you both have bonded so much on your first meeting. Can't thank the World Pulse team enough for this opportunities they provide us.
I trust you will make the most of this opportunity.
Waiting to read more from you my dear.
I pray you are having a fab weekend and are safe

ARREY- ECHI
Sep 19
Sep 19

Hello Sis Regina,

I am doing ok, thank you very much. I hope you are too.
Yes, indeed, it was a beautiful and memorable first meet and you are right, it is an honour to be a part of this beautiful family, always looking for ways to empower and uplift us.

I will do my best to keep the updates coming

Do have a fab weekend.
Love

Marie Abanga
Sep 20
Sep 20

Oh lalalalalalalalalalalalalalalalala,

So soul to read sis. Am so happy for you.
I am equally as excited about this program and so grateful for my mentor too.
All the best dear

ARREY- ECHI
Sep 25
Sep 25

Thank you dear sis. It is indeed an interesting program and one can only hope and look forward to.
Wishing you the very best in your mentoring journey as well.

Tamarack Verrall
Sep 20
Sep 20

World Pulse offers us so many ways to connect with each other, and this brand new mentor/mentee program is yet another gift, not only for those who are taking part, but through the richness of the story you have told us all here, of your coming together in your first meeting, the love and resect you had already developed, and the possibilities that you already know await you. You have invited us all into this celebration through your own wonderful storytelling.

ARREY- ECHI
Sep 25
Sep 25

Dear Mama Tam,
Thank you for summing that up well. We are truly privileged to be a part of this special platform and to be beneficiaries of all that World Pulse offers. I felt honoured to be paired with Stella and I am glad the feeling was mutual.
I will do my best to keep the invitation to celebrate this journey with me. More stories loading soon.

Wow, wow, wow! What a powerhouse! Arrey and Stella! What a wonderful match! This makes me so happy! Two wonderful sisters together. I would love to be mentored by the two of you!

Great job to our Mentoring Team for this match! Looking forward to reading future posts about this mentorship journey. Yey! Thanks for sharing this with us, Red Rose!

ARREY- ECHI
Sep 25
Sep 25

That would be a great honour, to have you as a mentee I think. Thank you so much dear sis. It is indeed a wonderful match and I am super excited about it all.
Will be bringing in more posts as the journey progresses.
Stay tuned, my beautiful Sunflower.

mugoli
Sep 22
Sep 22

beautiful story. stella was an angel for you my dear. she is a person to encourage despite the difficulties. i also like mentoring ...... but serious thing how to find the one like stalla? also the music is my passion, especially courage my sister ARREY

ARREY- ECHI
Sep 25
Sep 25

Thank you dear Mugoli. Yes, Stella is a beautiful person and I am glad to be mentored by her. I am sure you can get a mentor who will be just good for you. Maybe when the next call for mentees/mentors goes out on World Pulse, you could be interested to apply. Who knows? You might just be able to find that unique mentor for you.
All the very best always dear sis.

mugoli
Sep 30
Sep 30

thank you very much dear for your comfort

Anum Shakeel
Sep 25
Sep 25

Stella I still remember my first live session with WP. You were the speaker. I can completely relate with Arrey. It's so good to know more about you and I wish best of luck to Arrey

ARREY- ECHI
Sep 30
Sep 30

Hello Anum,
I hope you are doing well.
Thank you so much for reading through. Yes, Stella is a great person to know.
Thank you for the kind wishes.
Best,

Millynairi
Sep 25
Sep 25

Dear Arrey,
This must have been a very exiting moment for you. Glad to know you enjoyed. Always good to have a mentor. Thanks for sharing.

ARREY- ECHI
Sep 30
Sep 30

Hello Milly,
Yes, it was exciting and you are right, it is good to have a mentor.
I hope you are doing well. Thank you too for reading.

JoOak
Sep 26
Sep 26

What a beautiful and we'll detailed write- up.
I am also delighted to read about Sister Stella, though to do not know her , I already painted a picture of her in my mind.
Bless you both and keep having a wonderful mentee - mentor relationship

ARREY- ECHI
Sep 30
Sep 30

Hello JoOak,
Thank you very much. I am glad to know this write up made you paint mental a picture of Sis Stella. Thank you for the kind words. I am sure we are going to have a beautiful relationship.
Wish you a beautiful day and pray you are having a great one.