A wonderful woman

Atim Oliver Mercy
Posted August 5, 2021 from Uganda

I learned a long time ago that a strong woman won’t always be appreciated by everyone. Some will say they admire you, some will try to be like you and some will want to love you. Truth is, it’s much lonelier being strong then I imagined, and not always by choice. Some will chase and others will try..until they realize just how strong and independent you are. Yes, I have standards and high walls around my heart-I don’t just let anyone into my life just because they want to be there. I let precious few into my heart because those closest to me have earned my trust and my love.. So, they all claim they really like me until it’s clear that they can’t have me on their terms. It’s kind of ironic that the very strength they say they admire is the very thing that drives them away.. And I’m good with that. I have a close circle and I’m selective who is in my life for a reason..and that’s just the way I like it. I don’t need heaps of friends or to be revered by the crowds. I just want to be healthy, happy and loving my life. I don’t have the time or patience for lackluster love or pretend friends, so I choose to steer clear of the masses and wannabes. Maybe I’m a tad lonely at times, but I’m right where I want to be.. I’ll never again be in a lonely relationship or having to watch my back like too many times in my past. No, I’ve made all the bad choices and taken all the wrong turns, and all it did was make me stronger, wiser and more independent. I’ve learned the lessons, I’ve made my peace with the past and I’ve worked through the pain that forged my fiery spirit. But I can look in the mirror, know that I’m being true to myself and feel good about where I’m headed. Maybe I’m alone, maybe I’m not, it doesn’t really matter- What I care about most is that I’m real, genuine and happy.. And happiness comes from within, not another person. And that, darling, is why I’ll always be beautiful, strong and free.. Because I did it all my way. 

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jomarieb.earth
Aug 05
Aug 05

Dear Atim,
You look wonderfully deep in contemplation. You are the only one who can evaluate your paths and epiphanies. Your rights and wrongs, your lessons learned and the peace that you have made with life's struggles. What is wonderful is that you are well lived and well seasoned. You articulate your journey and you share it. You have had the opportunities of being vulnerable in many ways, by circumstance and by choice. You survived. Vulnerability is a luxury.
Hugs...JoMarie

Atim Oliver Mercy
Aug 06
Aug 06

Hello dear Jomarie!
Thanks so much. We were created to conquer the challenges!

megsmueller
Aug 06
Aug 06

Hello sweet Atim. Thank you for the visual - beautiful lady in the pretty floral attire! You are your power. You are your journey. God has given you this gift. Redevelopment is a vital ingredient in one's journey. It's okay to be selective, it means you have discernment. I am glad to hear that you are happy. You are indeed beautiful, strong and free! Thank you for your story. Much love!

Atim Oliver Mercy
Aug 06
Aug 06

Hi dear Megsmueller!
Thanks dear, I hope you're fine too.
Tons of love

megsmueller
Aug 08
Aug 08

...I am fine too dear...Thank you for asking.
Please keep well and be safe.
Much love!

Rahmana Karuna
Aug 06
Aug 06

Hi beautiful dear one,
oh i so relate. being 66, my strength and spirit attracted so many, yet once close they want to control. so happy for you that you have learned this lesson so early. took me longer. hugs

Atim Oliver Mercy
Aug 06
Aug 06

Hi dear Rahmana!
Thanks, I learned earlier due to the experience.

Tons of love

Beth Lacey
Sep 04
Sep 04

If you are happy with where you are, that's perfect. You define your life

Atim Oliver Mercy
Sep 07
Sep 07

Hello dear, yes it's real.