I AM EVERYWOMAN



Recent occurrences have been bothering me! Occurrences that bother on the new found sense of entitlement men of this generation have found as their favorite passtime!
Or, how else do you describe a situation where a man meets and marries a damsel, they both went to school by the way, which means she is as qualified as he is, if not much more! Then all of a sudden, he wants to assume the 'Lord and Master' posture with an entitlement mindset that is epic!
The society has enabled this behaviour through unwritten but widely endorsed patterns that have been shoved down men's throats through the years: boys get to play around the house, ride bicycles, chase lizards, go hill climbing and you name it, while their girl counterparts do all the house chores! These same boys grow up into men who feel that getting married is an extension of what happened in their father's compounds when they were ten. And the vicious cycle therefore continues!
I know you will say that's not news! But, have you seen or heard the emerging trends in homes lately? Men leave the paying of the bills ranging from rent to diaper for the women, and often times these days we have husbands who would rather stay at home and fiddle with the remote control all days, while their wives go out there to slave off their backs all in the name of keeping the marriage? Some even go as far as not just expecting the women to run the financial obligations but even to clothe them, fund their car loans and also give them pocket money to hang out with the boys!
I'm every woman, and I dare to say this trend is all shades of wrong! From the Bible to the Koran and all the holy books put together, a man is expected to do the fending. A man's role is to protect and provide! It is cruelty for a man to allow his pregnant wife go to work while heavy just so she can fend for him and the family they both created! It is cruelty for a man to expect that after they've both sat through traffic on the way back from work, the woman should run straight into the kitchen and prepare dinner while he lounges on the coach with eyes glued to the TV waiting for dinner to be served! It is the highest height of cruelty in a marriage for a woman to go through labor to deliver babies and still be expected to work her ass out to feed, clothe and fend for them while the man who fathered the children is alive and able bodied!
Women, stop stomaching the bullshit! Unless we stand up to put a stop to it, I assure you it will continue! Unless we wake up from our reverie and challenge this fast growing trend, our sons will grow up and copy it!
As mothers and nurturers, we owe it to our children, even those yet unborn to make a conscious effort to raise our sons right. Teach them to protect their sisters and not bully them! Teach the basic housekeeping and not over indulge them at the expense of their female siblings, afterall when the go to live on campus as undergraduates, their sisters won't be there to pick up after them, wash their plates or cook their meals! Teach them that hard work pays! Teach them that hitting at a girl is totally unacceptable so they grow up to men who'd NEVER HIT THEIR WIVES! Teach them t obey the laws of the land and not to cut corners! Teach them basic social acceptable behaviour!
Do not leave the outcome of your children to chance. The time to start to act is now!
Remember, the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world! #IamEverywoman



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