ONLY 50/50 CAN BETTER THE BALANCE!

Azah Jackline Chey Epse Abai
Posted March 1, 2019 from Cameroon
Better the balance
Let the women speak, how can we end violence against women?

There is the clarion international call to "BalanceForBetter" as the theme for 2019 International Women's Day goes. How can this balance feel better? Who holds the keys to the scale? Here are the answers: Me; You; Anyone anywhere. It starts with the inner man, the inner most African woman is clouded; bitter in silence; threaten and frighten - leading to timidity and so she shies away and dies day after day in an agony of ignorance. Oooh! The solution is just one person talking to another and another talking to the other, so the dare devil is disappointed. Fellow women, I crave your indulgence, pick up the challenge and talk to at least just one woman, tell her that she is not worthless but worthy; that she is able and not disabled; that the world needs her contribution; and that she has what it takes and that the time is now!

I do believe and strongly that the magic key to countering Gender Inequality; Gender Based Violence and pave a way for a Gender Balance and a Violence Against Women Free World, is NURTURING THE SELF CONFIDENCE OF GIRLS/WOMEN. In church encourage Her; In the Market give Her that push; at the stream tell Her something inspiring; in Her trauma and fear of the unknown tell Her she has Fundamental Rights well protected by the Law of which the world is very much aware. Leadership begins from the mind: becoming an entrepreneur; farmer or engage in any other economic activity all starts from the mind. The mind of women is the core to change; I therefore think we must all target the mindsets for all other changes/developments to follow.

  I am a survivor victim of low self-esteem and so I speak with authority. I had a cloud in my heart; mind and thoughts that killed every aspiration I may ever want to think of, I thought I was not worthy to be human, thanks to exposure to friends and just by strong words of optimism they redeemed me from the wilderness of hopelessness to a realistic world of opportunities in which I find myself today. It is for this reason therefore that I founded the Organization Bridgers Association Cameroon having as mission to empower women through advocacy. 

The little secret I have is this:  In order to balance the Gender scale, women must love and defend women; they must end violence against our fellow women. Women must stand tall to caution their fellow women to end the violence on another woman. All our concentrated actions will bring the men/boys down to join our actions, and so the scale becomes balanced.

Thank you World Pulse for helping me to bring it out!

 

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Leina
Mar 01
Mar 01

Powerful write -up sister Jackline!Yes-women for women is the world we want!!!!!!

Thank you Sister Leina for seeing with me

Olutosin
Mar 02
Mar 02

Yes I agree with you. That is my position too. We are one, we must work together to achieve our ultimate goal of gender equality.

Thank you sister Olutosin , agreeing with me will speed progress.

laison sylvie
Mar 02
Mar 02

That is the spirit sister

Hello, Azah,

I can very much relate on the low-esteem. I’m glad you found sisters who support you. Yes, I agree with you on your call for women to support women.

Thank you Mam Karen, feel being heard at last when you agree with me.

Jill Langhus
Mar 02
Mar 02

Hi Jackie,

Thanks for sharing your inspiring post. Good luck with your story submission!

Thank you Jill, with Love!

Jill Langhus
Mar 08
Mar 08

You're welcome:-)

Happy IWD!!

Tamarack Verrall
Mar 03
Mar 03

Dear Jackline,

You have written such an important message from deep in your heart, and from personal experience. What a beautiful call for action. Yes, supporting another woman in how she has been pressed down as a woman is the most powerful act we can do to undo this male dominance and bring forward the needed balance that women have to offer, and that is so sorely needed. I am so glad to link arms with you here, World Pulse sister.

Thank you so very much Mam, am so delighted you believed in my words. I am the more happy to have met you hear on World Pulse! It may be of interest for you to know that following my personal experience on low self esteem, I founded an Organization known as Bridgers Association Cameroon which has mission to empower women through advocacy by nurturing their self esteems so they can realize their full potentials. Please kindly visit us on www.bridgersngo.org

Bettina Amendi
Mar 05
Mar 05

Dear Jackline
Thank you very much for sharing your story.Kindly find time to check on my posts and a Self Confidence Program i am launching on 8th March 2019.
Regards
Bettina

Thank you World Pulse sister for reading with keen interest, of course I will follow you up on this program.

Bettina Amendi
Mar 08
Mar 08

You are welcome.Happy day.