This violence in Valley has no name

Baseera Rafiqi
Posted December 23, 2016 from India

In Kashmir, there is ongoing strife on two fronts today. The first is highly visible — and all over the local and national news — as communities struggle to fend off terror elements and learn to live with crippling ‘hartals’ (curfews). The second is completely hidden, although no less problematic or painful. It is the violence unleashed on Kashmiri women and girls by their own men, who are supported unconditionally by patriarchal structures that allow them to uninhibitedly exercise power and authority. Like elsewhere in India, here too boys grow up thinking harassment and eve-teasing are ‘cool’ and sure-shot signs of being ‘manly’ and ‘in control’. But whereas in the rest of the country women are increasingly coming out to voice their angst against these blatant attitudes, in the Valley there is still a rather deafening silence on the issue. Whether it’s dealing with a stalker, fending off the unwanted advances of a teacher or a colleague, or living with the trauma of being molested by a family member... there are many troubling experiences that women have been unable to go public with.

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Jill Langhus
Dec 23, 2016
Dec 23, 2016

Hi Baseera, Thanks for your post. I hope the situation improves soon there. Why do you think there is a lag in valley in regards to women speaking up and the situation improving? Please keep us posted.

Baseera Rafiqi
Jan 03, 2017
Jan 03, 2017

Sure , i will try to take this forward and follow it till the very end.

WorldCare
Dec 31, 2016
Dec 31, 2016

Dear Baseera, I am so glad you wrote of this painful problem. It seems that your ideas and the ideas of the city women are moving in the direction of independence and respect, though at a slow pace. I'm sure it is very difficult to alter the culture of men's control. Since you have written about it, this is a good start. Keep thinking about it and writing of it. Do you have a community center? Is there a place where women could meet once a week to discuss these matters? I encourage you to continue your efforts. Thank you for sharing.

Baseera Rafiqi
Jan 03, 2017
Jan 03, 2017

Thank-you so much, it's really an appreciation.

As such there is no forum where such issues can be discussed, but media is trying to bring this kind of matter into the mainstream discourse.

WorldCare
Jan 03, 2017
Jan 03, 2017

Dear Baseera, I realize there are many hurdles to solve the problems. But you must believe that you have  taken the first steps. Keep in touch with the media and urge them to cover these issues. I admire your ongoing efforts. You are a gift to the world.

Baseera Rafiqi
Jan 03, 2017
Jan 03, 2017

Weel I am a media person and that is why I keep writing about it so that a debate is generated if not solved.

Shivani Saharia
Jan 12, 2017
Jan 12, 2017

Dear Baseera,

Good Day

well, being in India i heard alot about the curfews and strikes in kashmir. as my relatives resides there. but the other problematic issues its not only in kashmir but all over the nation. Molestation and Crime against females is on the brim and is at the alarming rate. It is really heart breaking when these incidents get unnoticed OR else no action been taken over it.

Baseera Rafiqi
Jan 15, 2017
Jan 15, 2017

Indeed it's a big problem here.But women and young girls who are reporting such crimes pave a ray of hope in this pitch dark scene.

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