TomBoy to refined Girl

Nabila Abbas
Posted September 16, 2019 from Pakistan
Proud to be a girl. A happy girl.

Being 4th baby girl of my parents with no single brother at that time, I used to become more picky about being a TomBoy girl. For me, it was like awkward to be called as a girl. Perhaps, it was the people and society around of me ; telling every time how bad it is to be a girl on this Earth. I started becoming rebellious against girls. I never wanted to wear pink or to play with dolls. Since grade 10th my haircut was more like boys than girls. I used to have friends circle including all bossy boys. I even sometime beaten girls. I was too young to understand my own identity. It was the society and people who were driving me more negatively about not having an identity of being girl. 

As longer as I grew up, I started feeling something different to be explored inside of me. As longer as I connected with the thoughts of maturity and sensibilities; I embraced my lost identity. I stood like an iron girl and broke stereotypes. I started dreaming like a fancy girl. I thought why should I be copying to be a boy ? I am more powerful into my own identity of being girl. I left all fears and doubters behind and walked like a queen. 

I believe being fragile and beautiful is though my scenery but the paint used for coloring is too strong to compete my picture.

Yes, I am a refined girl. I am a proud girl. I am not weak. I have an identity. No more attractions or wishes to be a boy instead. I am more strong being a girl though. This is my world. This is my life. 

Happy Girl :) 

This story was submitted in response to The Real Me.

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Anita Shrestha
Sep 16
Sep 16

Dear Nabila
thank you for sharing and I am happy to see your motivation of your world and your life. Plz never be depressed

Nabila Abbas
Sep 16
Sep 16

Thanks dear Anita :)

Anita Shrestha
Sep 16
Sep 16

Welcome sister

Tumanjong Miranda
Sep 16
Sep 16

Dear Nabila,
Thanks for sharing your inspirational story. We really need to teach other girls to be proud of who they are.

Nabila Abbas
Sep 16
Sep 16

Thanks dear Miranda :)

Nabila Abbas
Sep 16
Sep 16

Thanks dear Miranda :)

Tumanjong Miranda
Sep 19
Sep 19

You're welcome dear sister

Millynairi
Sep 16
Sep 16

Wow! Thanks for sharing your story. It is true that the society and people can make us to negativity perceive ourselves. Glad to know you overcame and can now boldly talk about it.

Nabila Abbas
Sep 16
Sep 16

Like a wind, I will rise again :)

Lisbeth
Sep 16
Sep 16

I am so glad that finally you found your identity and now very happy be a girl.
There is a lot of blessings along with being a girl. We are very proud of you.
Have a great day.

Nabila Abbas
Sep 16
Sep 16

Thanks dear :)
Yes, you're very true

ANJ ANA
Sep 17
Sep 17

It's so good to know that you found your identity yourself and being happy for what you are. Keep your faith and keep raising dear Nabila.
best wishes,
anjana

Nabila Abbas
Sep 17
Sep 17

Thanks dear :)

Hawwah
Sep 17
Sep 17

Dear Nabila,
Thank you for sharing your story of gowth.
I am proud of you for being honest about your journey to self discovery and realising your super pwoer and magic of girlhood and womanhood.
Society can manipulate and brainwash you into disliking and even hating the real you, but finding and accepting yourself is the ultimate freedom.
Welcome to the real world Nabila. And never look down, ever again.
We love you just the way you are

Nabila Abbas
Sep 17
Sep 17

Thanks dear :) You're very true about what u said.

Jill Langhus
Sep 18
Sep 18

Hello Dear Nabila,

How are you doing, dear? Thanks for sharing your lovely, and honest, story about coming into your own:-) It's lovely to see you step into your power!

XX

Nabila Abbas
Sep 18
Sep 18

Hello dear Jill,
Yeah I am better than ever and seeing you growing pretty :) everyday!
Thanks for the compliment :) on my this piece of writing.

Jill Langhus
Sep 18
Sep 18

Hello there:-)

Awesome to hear!

Aw, you're so sweet!

You're very welcome:-)

Hope you have a great rest of the week!

Hello, Iron Girl,

I'm smiling because I grew up as a tomboy girl, too, until I was seventeen. Cheers to you for breaking stereotypes, and for being the perfect version of who Nabila is. :) Continue enjoying being you coz that's the role only you can play best, Happy Girl!

Thanks for sharing!

Nabila Abbas
Sep 19
Sep 19

Aww so sweet of you my dear :)

Thank you, Nabila. :)

Nabila Abbas
Sep 19
Sep 19

Your very welcome :)

Tamarack Verrall
Sep 19
Sep 19

Hi Nabila,
I loved your story. "It was the society and people who were driving me more negatively about not having an identity of being girl". "I embraced my lost identity. I stood like an iron girl and broke stereotypes". This makes me want to dance in happiness. I was a tomboy too, and still love to show girls that we can do and be anything we want as girls and women.

Nabila Abbas
Sep 19
Sep 19

Aww this is so sweet of you :) Much love to you my dear and lovely friend. Together, lets dance and enjoy who we are today :)

efe
Sep 19
Sep 19

nice to know that you have accepted who you are in totality

Nabila Abbas
Sep 19
Sep 19

Yeah :)
Thanks lovely :)

Tarke Edith
Sep 24
Sep 24

Hello Nabila
Thank you for accepting the fact that you are a refine good girl you know when Good has made you can not be changed
Thanks for sharing.

Nabila Abbas
Sep 24
Sep 24

Thanks dear :)