Peace, Love And Unity Became Lost

Beltivate
Posted August 11, 2019 from Cameroon
My late dad and my mum
My late dad and my mum: I kept hoping (1/1)

On the picture as seen is my late dad and mum. They were both role model to marriage life, till an unknown  force pulled them apart. 

My dad was, a very caring and loving father to us all. God blessed  them with 4 of us. 3 girls and a boy. 

But, an unknown force pulled them apart bit by bit till 2008 when my dad completely left us and of course to my mum who struggled to survive with us by selling food stuffs at the Bamenda Food market. 

Embarrassing  as it was, when my dad left us, things were so hard that all of us couldn't go to school due to limited fun. At that tender age I joined my mum to sell at the food market so my elder sister could go to school. We worked as a team, cryed together when hardship  slapped us hard and hard. 

Any time when I looked at friends, neighbors  children talking about their father, i cryed hoping someday my father turns home. 

But up to 2016 when  my dad died, he didn't give us the comfort and treat. Really can't say what force took my dad out leaving my mum to suffer this much.

The burden and pain is just too much

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Jill Langhus
Aug 12, 2019
Aug 12, 2019

Hi again dear,

That is sad. Your mom doesn't know why he left? I'm sorry to hear about your dad, dear:-(

XX

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Aug 12, 2019
Aug 12, 2019

Hello, sister,

That is really painful esp you don’t have the answers why your father left you. Now, that he passed away, you cannot ask him that question.

Hugs, dear. Hugs to your mother, too. You both are strong women, stronger than your circumstance.

Thanks for sharing!

Wusufor
Aug 13, 2019
Aug 13, 2019

This is so sad to hear dear, but I am hopeful going through all these has make both you and your mother the strongest spiritually and emotionally people.
Hope you and your mother keep your head up and look at the things ahead. The past is past and nothing much can be done about it. Hope you are doing fine and my kind regards

Beth Lacey
Aug 13, 2019
Aug 13, 2019

I am so sorry for you and your family. I wish you well

Anita Shrestha
Oct 05, 2019
Oct 05, 2019

Dear sister
Be patience and be strong.

fatma maleta
Oct 24, 2019
Oct 24, 2019

truly sorry dear sister you have to keep being strong , your mum raised such a strong lady make her proud no matter the circumstances

smilingsz
Oct 24, 2019
Oct 24, 2019

Hi, you may never find the answer, and that is hard. Don't let it define you. Be kind to yourself.

Jap Mouki Christelle Alexandra
Oct 26, 2019
Oct 26, 2019

Hello Beltivate,
Thank you for sharing your pain with us. There are some answers in life that we never get, that shouldn't stop us from living life. There are many more things that you will never understand but you know what , keep moving and strive for a better life for your family .

Kabahenda
Oct 28, 2019
Oct 28, 2019

Oh dear, that must be hard, but trying to find answers "Why did do what he did to us?" will not help you get out of the pain.

I would encourage you to focus on your mother, helping her out, making sure that she is comfortable but also caring for yourself because you too are suffering!
Your father left you, but you did not die. You survived and so try to forgive your father for what he did to you so that you can heal and continue with your life.
All the best to you.

Tatenda Rukarwa
Oct 29, 2019
Oct 29, 2019

You are a strong woman who knows her worth,,you are looking for answers which can never be given to you but nonetheless be strong and continue to encourage others who have been in the same situation as you..You are a warrior and a fighter..Continue to be the best you can be