BOYS, MEN TO BE

BenWilliams Olaka
Posted January 22, 2018 from Kenya

In life there is double balance. There is moon-sun, wind-calm,hot-cold, summer-winter, day-night. The list is endless. For life to be more sweet, all parties need to be empowered. Boys, as girls need empowerment, without demeaning any quarter. I know of boyteens who approached empowered girls for marriage but their proposal turned down. What came of them, they resorted to hoolligalism. They became the village rapists for they knew that them having no lifeskills to encounter life challenges could not master their ways to live harmoniously with women. Thus I support fully the inclusion of boys into bringing about the need to raise a wholesome girl. Let's remember that those unempowered boys will be the husbands to those empowered girls. No woman in her right mind would wish to spend her lifetime with an incompetent man. In leaving boys out in the this noble course of empowering girls, they feel unwanted, unworthy and a burden to the family n society as a whole. Starting with families which have boys and girls, the parents can treat all of them equally, without discrimination such that they view themselves as equals and partners in life and not TWO OPPOSING POWERS! With such trend, boys won't go in to learn new survival tricks to counteract empowered girls. Let's remember that the existence of security personnel is due to existence of goons, criminals etc.

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Jill Langhus
Jan 22, 2018
Jan 22, 2018

Hi Ben. Thanks for sharing your story about the importance of empowering boys as much as girls. I quite agree that there needs to be balance and equality for both genders in order for their to be harmony. Are you part of a boys/mens empowerment initiative/program?

Tamarack Verrall
Jan 22, 2018
Jan 22, 2018

Hello Ben,

It is so good to know you are working with boys to bring forth their innate goodness and positive sense of themselves. I am sure you are a great role model. I was lucky to be raised with 5 brothers, all of us treated equally, and I appreciate your work spreading that concept. It remains important that we continue to empower girls, the social messages are still strong that women are to be controlled by men. The more you do to counteract that being taught by men to boys, the more we are working together in a whole, effective and necessary way. It is true that being rejected hurts deeply. Part of this is the societal expectation that everyone marry, or face rejection. All of this we can work on together. Glad to meet you here.

Together we are strong,

Tam

BenWilliams Olaka
Jan 22, 2018
Jan 22, 2018

Very true Tam! Boys need empowerment as our girls too without over looking or down looking on any gender. When they grow up with the harmony gospel in them, the tradition that they must control women would have died. Good to hear you are in the academy of raising the future leaders in girls. Kudos,!

Lisbeth
Dec 14, 2018
Dec 14, 2018

Hi Ben,
Nice advice, keep sharing your ideas with us.
Regards

Ngala Nadege
Dec 19, 2018
Dec 19, 2018

Hello
I agree with you. Boys education is better because if we educate them they will know how to love and respect a woman and vise versa.