My Fate

Bessandra
Posted December 23, 2020 from Cameroon

I lost my dad at the age of 11 in 2007 some months into my secondary school. I was shattered, felt  depressed and could not take it. I was addicted to my dad and my mum even thought I loved him more than her. I have lived with this scar for 13 years today. Though my lovely Uncles and granny(anyone that is close to me know how much I cherish Cecilia Ebangha Ako Arrey she is the reason I amounted to something in this life) were always around to support me in ever humanly possible way and have been there to give me the best. I cannot stop crying whenever I remember the fact that he is not there to see the person I have grown up into. I have achieved somethings without him being around to cheer me up. Every 29th of December is the saddest day of my life I would wipe uncontrollably not because I do not have father figures but due to the fact that I will never be in his presence. I can act sorrowful parts of a film because when I remember his demise Manyu River cannot stop flowing. It was last year took a decision to stop crying which is still difficult for me. I promised daddy that I will go to the heights him and Momma could not go. I will raise their banner by the Grace of God and even Death cannot stop me I have a name of Distinction-Zep 3:20.You will forever remain my Rare Jewel Ako Fidelis Agbor,Adieu my enviable trophy!!!

This story was submitted in response to The Real Me.

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Tamarack Verrall
Dec 23, 2020
Dec 23, 2020

Dear Bessandra,
The bond between a father and daughter when the father is a loving, respectful guide and support, is a deep bond. To have lost your father so young, and not been able to enjoy and grow through his ongoing commitment as your loving father, must be such a deep pain to bear. You describe it so well. I can only hope that by writing about it to us all, that this act helps bring you some peace. It is always such important and deeply touching news to us all that this loving, respectful man was here, your dad. By continuing to speak about the love and support he gave you, his support stays alive in your heart, and by telling us all, the hope remains real that there are and have been men who respect their daughters. By your telling us this story I hope it heals you a bit more, and that men reading this will be inspired to be like your dad. This is a big step in your healing journey, and I am sending you love back, so glad that we have you here with us in World Pulse.

Bessandra
Dec 29, 2020
Dec 29, 2020

I remember my dad today he died this day in 2007 may he find rest. Thanks for your consolatory words mother

Nini Mappo
Dec 29, 2020
Dec 29, 2020

Hello Bessandra,
I am sorry for your loss. May God give you comfort. You and your dad still share something very special that is multidimensional: The love of God. When I miss my late father I remember that we share God's love together, in life and in death, in spirit and in body, and that truth connects us across dimensions. May you continue to heal.
Sending hugs of comfort your way :)

Karen QuiƱones-Axalan
Dec 29, 2020
Dec 29, 2020

Hello, dear Bessandra,

Losing a loved one or a friend is truly painful. Losing a father you deeply love is more excruciating. Sending you hugs and comfort, dear. I learned from a TED Talk video that we don't move on from grief, we move through life along with it.

May each of your milestones be a celebration of your father's love for you. It's comforting to know that God is your Heavenly Father. May your 2021 be filled with love, joy peace, grace, and abundance!