Time to Say No, SPEAK UP for Yourself!!

Bharti Singh Chauhan
Posted September 1, 2015 from India

Love is a special Moment which every person wants to experience his best on this Planet, may it be in form of any relationship Husband and Wife, Son and Daugther, Mother in law and Daugther in Law and so on.. But at times it fades away.A true story is one such example

A girl who was born an bought up in a family where she used to see her highly educated & professionally Working mother being beaten up beacuase of her Step Mothers and step Brothers & Sisters was shattered, but she always used to tell her mother, Mumma Why dont you speak up? and the answer she got was Love and Responsibilities stops my Way. The conditions of the Girl's Mother and the family stressed full condition remained the same due to which the Girl started looking for love and care accross and fell in love at the age and got married to a boy who was less educated than her without informing her family.... and the decision she took was just because of Love. After 1 year of marriage she realized that she was in her mother's place as now it was her time when she was experiencing the physical torture and mental imbalanced behaviour of her husband as their understanding was not matching and there were disputes in both their views.. But the answer was She was not able to speak up, Just because of Love.. again time flew away and today the girl has a 14 years daughter and whenever her mother gets beaten her daughter asks her mother to speak up, but the answer the daughter gets is Love and relationship not allows me to take a step to speak up.

India a country where relationships and traditions are taken very seriously. the culture and systems are made in such a way that they are inbuilt among the people, time has changed we are in digital world still people dont take stand to speak up. they are tied up with knots... But its the time to change and one needs to speak up..

The story i have mentioned is of my own Late mother in law in whose name I am running my own NGO and the Girl who used to inspire her mother is my sister in law and her daughter.. defintely yes who is in class 9 .. Still convienceing her mother to speak up past 2 generations... Time needs to be changed.. Do we still need time to Speak Up.

Raise Your Voice.. Speak Up @ Respect SHE... Dont Feel the pressure of mental & physical harrasment.

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Nakinti
Sep 02, 2015
Sep 02, 2015

Dear Bharti,

Thank you very much for sharing this story. It really tells of what many women are going through in violent circumstances. I don't think we need more time to decide whether to speak up. Let's begin the speak up process and safe women from violence and its impending implications.

Dear Bharti, what do you think can be done to help women break the silence and speak up? Do let us know so that we can help women in our different communities.

Sending you love from Cameroo, Africa.

Love.

Nakinti

Bharti Singh Chauhan
Sep 03, 2015
Sep 03, 2015

Dear Naktiti

Thanks for your  support. I think the Silence can be breaked only when a women takes a stand on herself and that can only happen when she is aware of her rights and wants to take a stand to Speak Up.. Every time it happens that WOmens go emotional and think the other part of the scenario of loosing husband, dependency of childrens etc.. But I feel if every women is educated, Independent and Takes a stand and speak up and taking a Peldge of not getting into violence... and speak up.. the major issue will endup.

Do be in touch and Sending you love from India Too.. In addition we can be in touch on facebook too at

www.facebook.com/bhartisinghchauhan

Liz Poulsen
Sep 03, 2015
Sep 03, 2015

Dear Bharti - 

Thank you so much for sharing this story. I am in awe of your strength, both for being able to run an NGO with such a difficult mission and for being brave enough to share these difficult experiences from your own family's past. My heart goes out to you as you continue to face the widespread obstacles in your society. I agree with Nakinti that your experiences will be so valuable to World Pulse members--please continue to share your obstacles and successes so that other women around the world can learn how to best raise their voices against violence.

In solidarity,

Liz

Bharti Singh Chauhan
Sep 03, 2015
Sep 03, 2015

Dear Sister Liz.. Thanks for your valuable comments and Motivation. This counts a Lot, In every part of world the issue exists and there is a strong need to create awareness to end up issues like Gender Violence.. We as a human being if join hands globally will defeinately will be able to end it up.. Be in touch..

Sending love from Jaipur Rajasthan India

Your Bharti Singh Chauhan

Surya Simon
Sep 13, 2015
Sep 13, 2015

Dear Bharti,

I know what you are talking about through the story you narrated. It is very true that love and relations make you keep quiet. I have felt that burden a number of times because my relations will be hurt by my gesture. I used to feel caged when my relatives and family members would criticise me about my lack of feminity. According to them, being servile and soft spoken are good traits of being feminine. I fit into neither categories and I do not think anybody should. Like you said, we are knotted and tangled. It is way past time to break the knots and express ourselves. I know a lot of people who laugh at me when I talk about women empowerment. It is a joke to them. Little do they know that they are proving themselves to be less of a human being.

I agree with you when you say that empowerment should come from within. Each and every woman has a right to be what they are and do what they want beacuse more than being a woman, they are a human being.

Sherna Alexander Benjamin
Mar 23, 2016
Mar 23, 2016

Dear Bharti,

This is a wonderful piece, please share with us some ways in which you believe we can all make a difference, inform us about what is happening in your area of the world and what actions are you taking to empower women and girls break their silence.

Looking forward to hearing your voice.

Sherna

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