Her Right for Dignity is My Dignity

Bharti Singh Chauhan
Posted December 10, 2019 from India

Muskan ( Age 17) Coming from a community where getting birth as a girl is considered as a curse. My Father and My Grandmother always wanted a son, but we both sisters were born. My father being a illiterate person, Rickshaw puller and a Drunkard has made us believe that we are a curse and we should have died before we had come on this earth. Every Morning we get up with  hearing colourful words which hit us hard, we used to get demotivated for the whole rest of the day while working with my mother in kitchen, helping her making rugs and being a part to earn bread. Later at Night it was time to get some power shots, when my father used to first beat my mom and later used to wake up and beat us with belts and Shoes. It really pinched me every time untill I met Bhabhisa ( Bharti Singh Chauhan) our Founder PraveenLata Sansthan when I was referred by one girl who already used to go to Laadli centre. My mother got me enrolled there with an aim atleast we get some time to live our life. After joining the centre first thing I learnt was not to bear the pain and talk about my right. I wanted to go to school but never went as was busy with all social and economic barriers. 

But after going to the centre, I got the opportunity to learn and write. I learnt about my rights and how to go about it. I was motivated and got the confidence that I can stand for my mother to help come out of the pain she was going through. 

It was late night when my father first abused her and later started beating her for some time I was feeling bad later, I just remembered Bharti Mam telling me "you need to stand for yourself, than only I will stand for you" 

This was the first time I took the first step to raise my voice before my father to not to beat my mom saying angrily this is wrong and I will not tolrate this.  My father was stunned up. He was not able to reach and since that my father stopped beating my mom nor us. 

Today I have not only learnt how to read and write the organization has helped me to become economically independent after I was trained on Skill Development. Today I earn and support my family and take care of my younger brothers.

It was because of a support given by Bharti Mam that I was able to stand for my right, as I got the Confidence from her. She is a True hero for me #IStandforher truly proves her to be a great social activist transforming lives of many as mine in many ways.

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Anita Shrestha
Dec 10, 2019
Dec 10, 2019

Thank you for sharing

Bharti Singh Chauhan
Dec 11, 2019
Dec 11, 2019

Thanks

Jane
Dec 11, 2019
Dec 11, 2019

We salute and applaud Bharti and we hope and pray that you personally will translate what your learned from her and carry it as the legacy to the next girl generation and teach them how to voice out and to understand every child is blessing not a curse as you were made to believe and labeled. Well done to have stood up for your right...keep going and spread the good work.

Bharti Singh Chauhan
Dec 11, 2019
Dec 11, 2019

Thanks for inspiring and motivating us

Jill Langhus
Dec 11, 2019
Dec 11, 2019

Hello Dear Bharti,

What a truly inspiring story....wow! You must be so proud of Muskan, your organization, work and impact... I hope I can make this much impact one day:-) Please keep up the great work... you rock!!

Hope you're doing well and having a great week!

XX

Bharti Singh Chauhan
Dec 11, 2019
Dec 11, 2019

ur motivation gives us a positive energy

Jill Langhus
Dec 13, 2019
Dec 13, 2019

Thanks, love:-)

XX

Moutushi Dey
Dec 11, 2019
Dec 11, 2019

Thank you Muskan for sharing your story, it takes a lot of courage to stand against abuse from family members! Bharti, your work is so important and inspiring, sending love!

Bharti Singh Chauhan
Dec 11, 2019
Dec 11, 2019

Thanks sister, I get inspired

Wusufor
Dec 11, 2019
Dec 11, 2019

Hi dear,
What a sad upbringing you got there. However, am glad at the end it groom you very well. No body got the right to make another person feels like s/he is a curse.
Sorry for that!
I am happy for you.
Take care

Bharti Singh Chauhan
Dec 11, 2019
Dec 11, 2019

True But I get inspired connecting to worldpulse

baganda
Dec 12, 2019
Dec 12, 2019

merci pour cet inspiration de votre communaute

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Dec 12, 2019
Dec 12, 2019

Hello, Bharti,

Thank you for sharing with us Muskan's story. I love what you told her, "you need to stand for yourself, than only I will stand for you". It's an empowering perspective for a girl or a woman to be able to stand up for herself first before we can support her. You are a real life she-ro, dear. I hope Muskan can join us on World Pulse so she can nominate you for the Spirits Award.

Have a great day!

ANJ ANA
Dec 13, 2019
Dec 13, 2019

Dear Bharati,
So proud of you and thank you for inspiring youth girls, please keep continue.
We would like to see Muskan in this platform too, kindly convey my regards to her and congratulate her for being so brave.
love and regards,
anjana

Felicitas Wung
Dec 15, 2019
Dec 15, 2019

He'll Bharti,
It's sad to know you grew up in a place where a girl child seems to be a curse. Thanks to the girl who directed you to laadli centre and to your mum who encouraged you to go and learn. And from that knowledge you got from the centre, you could stand with confidence for your rights and that of your mum.
Knowledge is power. Aspire to the zenith.
Thanks for sharing.

Felicitas Wung
Dec 15, 2019
Dec 15, 2019

Hello Bharti,
It's sad to know you grew up in a place where a girl child seems to be a curse. Thanks to the girl who directed you to laadli centre and to your mum who encouraged you to go and learn. And from that knowledge you got from the centre, you could stand with confidence for your rights and that of your mum.
Knowledge is power. Aspire to the zenith.
Thanks for sharing.

Ekitah
Dec 16, 2019
Dec 16, 2019

Hello Bharti!
Great job you are doing out there, Its inspiring. More grease. Thanks for sharing.

Akshaya9
Dec 19, 2019
Dec 19, 2019

Hello Bharti,
Thank you for sharing your story. Your so brave and have courage to face your father . Hope you doing fine.

Hugs!

Spiritedsoul
Dec 21, 2019
Dec 21, 2019

Thank you for sharing and I’m glad you’re feeling more empowered. That is excellent.
Love and hugs,
Jess.

ARREY- ECHI
Dec 30, 2019
Dec 30, 2019

Hello Bharti,
What a powerful write up. You just proved the truthfulness of the saying train a woman and you train a whole community. Nothing beats an empowered woman. Thank you for being strong enough to use your voice first for your mum and then for yourself.

lizzymark
Jan 24
Jan 24

Hi dear,am proud of you and of Muskan. It takes great courage to do what you do. Facing the evil and daming it for good. Keep up the good work