Aramide - My Personal Person

Bim Adegbite
Posted June 23, 2020 from Nigeria

I had to come here where it all began.

I called her friend, sister, Mother-hen but in truth she was much more. Much more that I do not have the word or words that describe our relationship. In a period where I decided to extend myself beyond my comfort zone I met you here on World Pulse. We had a shared passion for educating and empowering teenage and young adult girls even though you did much more. We trusted our passion and it led us to the most amazing collaborative relationship I have ever experienced. You made me believe in the Nigeria of my dreams again.

You poured your heart and soul into everything you did and embraced my thoughts, suggestions and action without question expecting nothing for yourself. With every step we took together, I knew this was no ordinary interaction and it was very clear providence brought us together. We plunged in without hesitation, hearts synced, soul joined to the things we could control and relied on the One with the divine assignment for the things that we couldn't control. 

Iron sharpens iron, that was what we were about. Whenever I felt like I may be intruding you'd say "Bimbo no o!, we are in this together". I never wanted to cross any boundaries, I wanted to maintain the most reasonable and respectable space to protect you and your work but you will always say over and over "we are in this together". We were always on the same page for the most part. I doubt we ever disagreed on anything. We just strove for robust conversations to give clarity to our opinions.

It was always "Aramide, ki la ma se bayi" or "Bimbo ki la ma se. We'd talk through things bouncing off each other to make sure our decisions were in favor of the girls all the time. You will let me vent my frustrations and assure me we would get through whatever. All you ever cared about were the things that deeply mattered. You laid your treasures in heaven where moths or rust could not destroy. You walked the Matthew 25 walk and inspired me everyday. Your quiet strength, kindness, gentle voice and calmness I still feel. You didn't have the need to raise your voice to command a room. Your presence was true, vulnerable and authentic, the very thing that made everything worth it all.

We challenged each other as students of life.  We were always learning, always growing and always encouraging each other. Aramide! I could write all day about you. Aramide this is not what we planned...I reflect on our last conversation and it was quite different in hindsight. Like you were trying to catch up on so many things with urgency in one conversation. Our series of chats is legendary. I don't delete them & wouldn't because they are reminder of the person of you.

I am so glad I never hid how much you meant to me and at any given opportunity I shared how I felt about you with gratitude. My thoughts mattered to you, my perspective always welcome, never discounted. "Bimbo ki lo ro? Ok let's do that. I'd make sure we do that". 

When Ope called me very hysterical I was thinking if I can just calm her for a moment I'd call you, Aramide to check on her.  When I finally figured out what she said I was in denial.  ."Ko possible".  I called Omotola and my wail filled my home. We just spoke a few days before. We had so much ahead of us Aramide.  A so bayi o, This is certainly not what we talked about....the news totally devastated me.

As I search for words and have yet to find the ones that describe how your death has shaken me to the core, I am picking up the pieces knowing you'd be like, "Bimbo it's ok, it's beautiful on the other side, just keep on keeping on as long as you have life". I hear your voice, tears follow. I see your picture and I'm broken all over again. I know I have to go on. I know I have to ensure your legacy lives on. I don't know how or what shape that will take but you always knew I was committed to you, the girls, Bestsprings Foundation & Goshen Orphanage. That will not change.

I think of the things we've done behind the scenes together, our attempts and our victories. I was an answer to prayer, you had said and the enormity of that was not lost on me.  You were an answer to my prayer too. Thank you for allowing me into your world. Thank you for giving me the grace to be me. Thank you for giving me the space where I could fully express my gifts and talents. Thank you for being a friend, sister and my personal person. 

Aramide!!! Odi gbe re, Odi arino ko, otun doju ala. 

You have ran you race. You have fought the good fight now it's time to take a bow, now it's time to rest selfless soul.

Our Mentors miss you, you've caused many tears. The girls miss you they feel so lost.  Omotola misses you heartbroken, but you always knew she was strong. I truly miss you and still can't make sense of it all. 

We pray for Dr. & Tosin that God will comfort and hold them in ways only He can. I can't imagine how they feel but I know the Maestro in him, he will open up his hands and let music flow through his soul to a place of surrender, a place of peace...your "sopranic" voice echoing and lifting him to touch the face of God.

Good night Sis! Sleep well. If only someone could wake me from this awful dream. 

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Chi8629
Jun 23, 2020
Jun 23, 2020

We are sorry about your loss and our loss . May God grant our Sister eternal rest. Amen .

Jill Langhus
Jun 24, 2020
Jun 24, 2020

Oh, dear, Bim,

I'm soooo sorry for the loss of your beloved, soul sister. She's was such a beautiful, gentle soul. You were very honored to know her so well. May you have so many memories to cherish and may you meet again very soon.

XX

Maya Iwata
Jun 24, 2020
Jun 24, 2020

Thank you for sharing this beautiful tribute of Aramide, your sadness, and this beautiful photo collage. Deepest sympathy to you on this terrible loss. The World Pulse community feels this loss deeply as she lived her values on and offline with the connection, community building and support she extended to so many. Take good care.

Busayo Obisakin
Jun 24, 2020
Jun 24, 2020

Dear Sister,
Words cannot describe the sincerity and commitment of our sister Aramide to the people around her, to her vision for girls, the orphanage and everyone that crossed her part in life. We will surely missed her and the world will miss her too. I am just taking solace in the fact that we will still meet again on that glorious morning. Sending you and the family hugs and prayers!
Love
Busayo

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Jun 24, 2020
Jun 24, 2020

Hello, dear Bim,

I know that no words written nor spoken will be able to comfort you in this loss. My tears fall as I read your loving letter for Aramide. I weep with you, sister.

Sending you hugs and prayers. Thank you for your commitment to continue supporting the legacy Aramide began. You are such a blessing.

maeann
Jun 26, 2020
Jun 26, 2020

Thank you for honoring Aramide.

A farewell song for you Aramide... You were gone too soon. You will be remembered.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iX3CiHo9qEE

Veronica Ngum Ndi
Jul 07, 2020
Jul 07, 2020

Dear Bim
Its so sad to loss a dear one and a role model such as Aramide.Take heart and know that God's will is very difficult for us to accept. Remain strong Sister
Love
Veronica Ngum
Cameroon

sarah_2
Jul 10, 2020
Jul 10, 2020

Can't stop crying... This is so touching..
Thanks for sharing sister Bim

Anita Shrestha
Jul 13, 2020
Jul 13, 2020

Thank you for sharing

Bim Adegbite
Jul 13, 2020
Jul 13, 2020

Thank you everyone for stopping by, your words of encouragement and prayers mean a lot. I appreciate you all and this beautiful community of women.

Laetitia Shindano
Aug 03, 2020
Aug 03, 2020

Chère soeur,
Merci pour ce partage si émouvant.
Courage et à bientot.
Laetitia