Every Child is important

Blessdmams❤
Posted March 25, 2019 from Cameroon

In Africa and especially Cameroon where l come from the girl child is still highly unrecognised. Most parents  especially fathers see girl children not as their children but as another man's property. So they don't invest in their girl children.

I am a victim of this kind of discrimination and a lot more from my very own father. My father has 2 children out of marriage which l am one and the other is a boy.

He recognises the two of us very well as his children by giving us his surname. He sponsored us both until we had our university degree and since we both could not find a job he provided money for my half brother to set up a business, gave him a plot of land to build on. He told me he can't give me money for business or land to build a house because some day l will get married and feed another man and his children with his money.And it is a taboo for our tradition. 

  I still wonder if it is a crime that l am a girl. I ask the question! What if l don't get married? What if l don't find a job to do? I am glad l am in this platform to speak out. A child is a child no matter the sex. My girl children must not go through what l went through. I must speak out

 

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Corine Milano
Mar 25
Mar 25

We are glad you have found World Pulse, too, and that you are speaking out for yourself and for all girls in Cameroon. I know for me, even in the US, my brother has received financial support from our family that my sister and I have not, simply because we are women. It doesn't seem fair - and it certainly makes life harder! Many on World Pulse have expressed similar experiences, and it will take all of us committing to working against these cultural attitudes to change them!

Thank you for speaking up and out and for being a part of this community. We hear you and we are with you.

Blessdmams❤
Mar 25
Mar 25

Hi corine
Thank you for sharing and feeling my pain and worries. I am glad l am not alone. Together we will make our voices heard.

Jill Langhus
Mar 26
Mar 26

Hi Blessdmams,

Welcome to World Pulse! Thanks for sharing your compelling argument and story. You are right. Gender is irrelevant. We are all equal, and I'm glad you're speaking out and that you have found World Pulse. I'm looking forward to hearing more about your passion(s) and work.

Hope you are having a good/safe day.

Blessdmams❤
Mar 26
Mar 26

Hello sister jlanghus
Thanks very much for the kind words and support. Same as world pulse have come to stay l am also here to stay. I am so exited to be part of this great platform where l can share my stories and worries.

Jill Langhus
Mar 26
Mar 26

You're very welcome:-) We're glad, and honored, for you to be part of our community, dear!

Tamarack Verrall
Mar 26
Mar 26

Hello dear Sister,
It continues to be taught by men that men and boys deserve to be the leaders, with women here to serve them. This is still strongly repeated in so many places, but it is not everywhere, and it has not always been this way when we look back far enough. So our work here together is making right a huge wrong and every voice, like your strong voice is creating change. "My girl children must not go through what l went through. I must speak out". I loved reading those words. We are all together now that we have found World Pulse, and we are changing all of the deeply unfair and painful ways that women and girls are treated.

Blessdmams❤
Mar 26
Mar 26

Hello sister Tam
Thank you very much for your kind words and support. I am glad someone is listening somewhere. Change we need and change we shall get

Tamarack Verrall
Mar 26
Mar 26

I am glad you are encouraged. We are all listening carefully to everything here being reported. We are walking together now.

Tola Makinde
Mar 26
Mar 26

We are glad to have you here. I see you unleash as you have found your creative purpose and flow. You are in the right place. Congratulations

Blessdmams❤
Mar 26
Mar 26

Thank you sister. I am so happy some one somewhere is hearing my voice too

Ngwa Damaris
Mar 26
Mar 26

Can’t stop smiling seeing you on World Pulse :)

Blessdmams❤
Mar 26
Mar 26

Thank you sister. I am glad someone some cares and is willing to listen

Hello, Blessedmams,

It’s not a crime to be a girl. I’m sorry you faced this discrimination within your own family. I’m happy though that you are here to speak out because you can change the narratives of your story. It’s a joy to see many Cameroonian women raising their voices. This means you will be a powerul force to affect change for the women in Cameroon. Wow.

Welcome to World Pulse! Looking forward to reading more from you.