I Almost Lost my Life

Bukola Olalere
Posted October 31, 2019 from Nigeria

Giving birth to my first child was a smooth sail for me, i didnt even know i was in labour at all although i was in pain but it never dawn on me that i was in Labour pain. 

But it wasnt the same with my second baby last year. Baby didnt come early and later was advice by a matron to drink hot lipton tea.  I did that religiously and in no time i fell into labour, the pain was unbearable though. I gave birth but blood didnt stop coming.  I had post partum haemorrhage and was going into shock because i could barely see or know what was going on again.

All I knew  was that i was given something to drink and later on the blood stopped. I later knew that i was given raw egg and Milo mixed together with hot water. 

Because of the Post Partum Haemorrhage, the blood residue from the womb wasnt taken all out and i kept bleeding after delivery for almost a month and half.  

At the long run i went for a mini surgery and i wasnt given anesthesia so the pain was so much but i become better. 

This ordeal deepened my zeal to ensure women living in Rural Communities access primary health care in my country.

We need to constantly advocate for vertical equity in health care delivery in other to decrease mortality rate of women during child delivery. 

This story was submitted in response to Our Bodies, Our Health.

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Corine Milano
Oct 31
Oct 31

Wow, Bukola, thank you for sharing your harrowing story to raise awareness about maternal mortality in your country. I am so glad you made it through both of your deliveries with access to treatment. It is not so for so many. I visited hospitals in both Zambia and Ethiopia where women were receiving care for similar complications. It happens here, too, in the US - with high maternal mortality rates, especially for women of color due to inequity.

There is so much to be done to bridge the health care gaps women face in every country! Sharing your story is a first step. Thank you again, and I hope more women will come online to share their experiences so we can advocate for equal access.

Bukola Olalere
Nov 01
Nov 01

Thank you so much Corine. We really need to hold stakeholders and government accountable and ensure equity. No women should die as a result of any child bearing related issues at all. Glad to know you are also helping women in Zambia and Ethiopia.
Indeed we need more women to advocate and ensure we have vertical equity and also make primary health care accessible and well equipped. Thank you for commenting.

Tarke Edith
Oct 31
Oct 31

Hello sister
Thanks for sharing thiis inportant story with us
Daer thank God you are alive to tell us this story .
Have a great time with the baby .

Bukola Olalere
Nov 01
Nov 01

Thank you Tarke. Really its something i am thankful to God always.
Thank you so much .

Anita Shrestha
Nov 01
Nov 01

Dear Sis
This is great and reality sharing

Bukola Olalere
Nov 01
Nov 01

Thank you so much Anita

Hello, Bukola,

I'm glad you survived that second childbirth, and you've risen up to educate women in your community about health care delivery. Great job! How is your baby doing now?

Thank you for sharing your heroic story with us. Please continue writing.

Bukola Olalere
Nov 01
Nov 01

Thank you Karen. She is fine thank you. Thank you for your word of encouragement sis. I am grateful that i have my worldpulse sisters to help make me journal all that have gone through and what i have been doing as well.

Jill Langhus
Nov 01
Nov 01

Hi Bukola,

Thanks for sharing your scary story that thankfully had a good ending:-) I'm so glad to hear that you're helping women in rural communities to have better healthcare and education, and that you're helping to end FGM. How are those initiatives coming along?

Looking forward to seeing more stories from you.

Bukola Olalere
Nov 01
Nov 01

Yes it was quite scary but i cannot imagine countless of women that have gone through this and still are and cannot even write about it. I am creating my own bits taking one community at a time.
Thank you so much Jill

Jill Langhus
Nov 02
Nov 02

Yes:-( Quite true.

Great! Looking forward to hearing more about your initiatives and goals.

Hope you're having a great weekend!

You're very welcome!

XX

ANJ ANA
Nov 01
Nov 01

Dear Bukola,
So sorry to hear about your life-threating experiences. I hope you have recovered fully now. Indeed it takes a lot of energy to heal maternal reproductive health after having undergone serious complications. Thank you so much for sharing and making aware of this very important issue that millions of women facing across the globe. I hope for the day when every women's reproductive health will be well secured and well-acknowledged for their contibution to continue the world. Let's start working from our individual level at our best.
love and regards,
anjana

Bukola Olalere
Nov 02
Nov 02

Thank you Ana, Yes i am lots better now. I believe we all can contribute our quota, taking one community at a time.

Lisbeth
Nov 02
Nov 02

Hi Bukola,
So sorry with your experience. It's kind of different with your case. Most cases when the first is difficult, the second and rest become easier. Do you have an idea about the change in pattern? Maybe the second pregnancy you were not frequent at the hospital or?
Could it be the sex of the kids too?
It's an amazing project you are thinking of. Especially the teen mother's, and school drop out mother's. Best wishes on your project and have a great weekend.
Take care

Bukola Olalere
Nov 02
Nov 02

Hello Lisbeth, thank you so much. I visited the clinic as suppose and i also felt it was the sex of the child but it wasnt because its same with my first. Thank you so much Lisbeth

Lisbeth
Nov 02
Nov 02

Oh wow! I think I misunderstood you. Was thinking you said the first was much easier? Have a great day and take care of yourself.

Spiritedsoul
Nov 02
Nov 02

Hi,
Thank you for sharing your experience and courageous story here. So sorry what you went through in the birth of your second child, how traumatic! That definitely needs to be an improvement in health care in this area for women worldwide, women should not face shop at fearing for their lives all the life of the child. Hugs.
Jess.

Jill Langhus
Nov 02
Nov 02

Glad to see you back, love!! Hope you're doing well:-)
XX

Bukola Olalere
Nov 02
Nov 02

Thanks alot Jess. Really there should be improvement for women.

Tamarack Verrall
Nov 06
Nov 06

Dear Bukola,
We are so lucky to have you with us, as is especially your family, given what you have survived. I so agree that there is no excuse for Governments to not be offering full and free health care to every person in our countries.

Bukola Olalere
Nov 11
Nov 11

Thank you so much Tamarack for your view as well. Indeed it will have been great if government in all countries take it as their sole responsibility.

Rachyrae
Nov 07
Nov 07

Amazing Bukola. I read your story and even though I am not a mother yet, it makes me understand the ordeals our mothers and mothers of old go through to give birth to us. I am glad this has triggered you to effect change towards effective primary health coverages in rural areas. Well done

Bukola Olalere
Nov 11
Nov 11

Thank you Rachyrae, i appreciated my mum after having mine as well. Mothers really go through so much to give their child life.